What is wrong with some women!

[Alltheshoes74]

Went out for a few cocktails with my husband Saturday evening, we were sat at the bar having a lovely time. I went to the loo and got chatting to some girls in there. Later in the evening they passed us and said hi and stopped for a chat. One was local and one was not - the local girl was mid 30's, single mum. We are older - she could be my husbands daughter! I didn't notice anything odd then as we left it turns out she asked my husband for his number!! What on earth! I mean his ego is now bursting out but we were amazed at the absolute brazenness of it all. Am still horrified that someone would do that - even when i was young and single I'd never dream of doing that.

Very true, very true.

I believe you. Things like this do happen. Some people have no shame unfortunately. Of course it would be an ego boost if someone asked for your number as it shows they find you attractive. Just not nice when they clearly know you are in a partnership.

We all beleive her. It’s rhe husband we are not sure about.

many options here.

him, I’d love to meet you again .
her, ok. Give me your number,
Tells wife half the story

him, id love to see you again can I have your number
tells wife she asked him just in case the op sees the women again and they tell her.

him, she asked for my number, ,,,just to make op jealous.

or, in his scenario. He showed no interest, and a much younger woman asked for his number in front of his wife.

i know which one i find the least likely.

Asking a married man for his number while his wife is right there is not a big deal? Plenty of married men give their numbers out? You must mix in circles with a low priority for respect

Horrified?

This is seriously small stuff. She's a stranger. If he doesn't accept her kind invitation then there is absolutely no harm done to anyone.

If he does, then the problem is not the behaviour of 'some women'. It's him.

Typical of Mumsnet for everyone to doubt the OP, assume the husband must've done something wrong because MEN BAD, and treat it like they're a bunch of amateur detectives

"What were her exact words OP? What colour shoes was she wearing? Was her handbag blue? What was the exact time of day that the event happened? I'm just not sure I believe you."

I believe you. I too am blessed with a handsome husband and women try it on with him quite a lot. It's illegal to admit that women can just be absolute cunts on this website, but there is definitely a breed of woman who gets off on the idea of being so alluring she can get a married man to cheat. It's just low self esteem.

Yeah that is particularly brazen. It’s one thing asking a married man for his number, but to do it while his wife is with him is another level.

If I lost my head over the number of complete stranger 'absolute cunts' I encountered in everyday life, I'd spend my life angry. Unfortunately, they are everywhere and come in all demographics and both sexes.

Some things are worth getting het up about. Others are not.

I’m not doubting you at all. I’ve had a handsome fiance who women did try it on with when we were together, despite me being next to him and flashing my ring at them. Some women are brazen. But this was when I was about 21/22.

I’m not doubting that a younger woman would flirt with an older married man but most younger women I know have other fish to fry shall we say.

Drunk attractive woman who’s either not heard or seen the man is married. Or waits as this seems to be the case for the woman to be out of sight then asks for his number. I’ve been in bars where this definitely could happen. Could or should it happen? No of course not.

The MN options:

a) Didn't happen
b) Husband's fault

Thankyou - I put this post up because I was genuinely annoyed that someone would do this. The replies have been an eye opener. Yes he is handsome and a nice guy - this was a blatant arm chance from the girl - I have my own thoughts on why she did it but that's not for on here as I'm sure I'd be crucified or accused of being delusional.

OP should take the same leaf from the same book. Write her off as an arsehole and move on with your day. Your husband turned her down. Nothing bad has happened. She will continue to be a cunt. Worse things happen at sea etc etc.

Of course she did OP😂

Its nothing to do with all men are bad. It's to do with a bunch of women who all at some point have been young women, some who still are, who know young women and what is usual amongst them, who may be married to middle aged men, and the collective experience that tells us how very very rare it is for young women to give out their numbers to men their dad's age in front of their wives.
When you're presented with a situation that's as rare as hens teeth, but could be interpretated in a way that would be much more typical, it's human nature to consider the more likely may be true.

So she asked the number of an obviously married man when his wife's back was turned. A man twenty years her senior? After befriending the wife?
Those must have been some STRONG cocktails they serve in this bar!

This ^ 🧐👏🏻👏🏻

The words this woman said are the whole issue, no? And it seems odd to expect everyone to agree that those words amount to bad behaviour without even telling us what they were.

I don't disbelieve OP, I just think there's a lot of room for misunderstanding and her DH's reactions don't make sense.

AHH yes, she has an 'OnlyFan' account

What a pathetic woman to do that while you're with your DH. Unfortunately OP there are women out there like that and as long as your DH doesn't entertain then not much you can do ..

I think to ask a guy for his number in front of someone who is obviously his partner or, to flirt with him for that matter, is dreadful UNLESS there is some reason for doing it that is NOT coming on to him. No good reason for flirting with him of course.
But i just found it strange that OP is either unwilling to disclose or doesn't know what was said in the conversation between the woman and her DH. She says she was sat right next to him. So in which case she heard the build up to and the aftermath of the request. She said it was her who struck up the initial contact with the woman in the ladies and the women stopped to chat to both of them so she must know what was actually said and she seemed unwilling to give any detail.

There is a restaurant near me that employ very beautiful waiting/bar staff, expensive place, attracts the wealthy. One waitress was known for being on the lookout for a partner from the client base. One night she slipped her number to man who was sitting at a table with his wife. She didn’t realise he was an investor in the restaurant. She was sacked that night.

So many 'could be's' in this.

• tipsy / bored shitless/ no other action for them to hit on/ having a bet or joke with her mate / side hustle as hooker/ desperate for a sugar daddy. They all exist somewhere.

Would you be willing to tell us though, about the conversation you had in the loo with them both, as I feel that might hold the answers you are looking for? You mentioned upthread your fear of being crucified. What did you say...were you bragging about your life, or conversely complaining about your husband?

It was literally loo chat with girls, you look nice etc, they asked where my dress was from. When they came over it was again chit chat. No moaning about husbands nothing. There was a DJ playing so i couldn't hear what was being said but from the conversations we were having nothing exciting.

Come on. You know as well as I do that if that were her intention she'd have addressed it to OP, or at least both of them at the same time.