to dump my bf immediately because he was violent with his dog?

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My boyfriend of 6 months has a wonderful, well-trained, sweet dog. He has always been quite firm in terms of discipline while I am more of a cuddler with dogs. He is one of those people who think that dogs shouldn't jump on sofas, shouldn't be allowed in the bedroom, should always follow commands, etc etc. Fair enough. I sometimes questioned if his way of disciplining the dog was a bit excessive, but until yesterday I didn't see anything alarming.

Yesterday night we were on the sofa at his place, and the dog tried to jump on the sofa to come cuddle next to me. My boyfriend shouted "NO" and threw the dog off the sofa and across the living room. The dog landed on her side and looked terrified.

I was shocked and horrified. I immediately got up and left after telling him that using violence against an animal is unacceptable and that he had crossed a line. He apologized and said that until he saw my reaction he didn't realize that his training methods were too harsh, that he saw the error in his ways, and that he was ashamed of himself. This means that he had used violence regularly until then to train the poor dog 😭

I knew he had sometimes poor emotional regulation, although so far I hadn't seen anything remotely close to yesterday night's outburst. He suffers from depression and is seeking help, but he clearly has a long way to go. I am questioning if I should report him to the animal welfare authorities.

AIBU to dump him immediately after seeing this violence against his poor poor dog? I don't think I can ever look at him again in the same way.

If I'm understanding this correctly, you shouldn't be let next or near an animal.

You need to dump him and report him. That poor dog needs help

What if the OP (like the vast majority of people on this thread) finds the idea of throwing a dog across a room rather distasteful? Whether they also throw humans across the room is irrelevant. Most decent and normal people would not want to hang out with someone who inflicts cruelty on defenceless creatures. Surely you understand that?

There are times when someone can "be taught a lesson" in life but those instances do not normally transcend the innate human knowledge of right and wrong. Inflicting pain, cruelty and harm on another living creature is known to be wrong. If the man in question has no concept of this then I would suggest he needs a lot more than forgiveness.

Gold that comment isn't it?

Dogs chase squirrels, cats kill birds for fun. Ergo, it's fine for humans to treat pets like shit.

And if you think dogs dont feel humiliation you've clearly never had one desperately try not to make eye contact with you while it's shitting.

I agree. I'm seriously worried that some people on this thread actually own animals. Jesus.

Ditch him, keep the dog.

Leave now. It will likely be you next. Awful human being.

Ah poor baby. This has made me really upset.
I wouldn't go anywhere near this absolute bastard.

What a cruel coward of an excuse for a man

What an absolute cunt. Poor, poor dog

Dump him and tell everyone you both know why, with exactly the level of detail you have provided here. He’s a fucking abomination.

And report him. They might find signs of injury on the dog, and if not it could help build a picture for the future.

I wouldn't be able to stay with someone who was cruel to any animal. I understand some people train their dogs not to go on the sofas, but throwing the dog across the room is completely out of order.

Unfortunately, based on the fact you do not have any evidence I do not think the RSPCA will take any action.

You'll be the one being thrown across the room next.

Run for your life. Literally.

Or a defenceless baby.

He’s a cunt, but the RSPCA are not going to be concerned about pushing a dog off a sofa.

Me and my neighbours repeatedly had to report someone on our street who had 6 bull terriers in their garden, barking and whining day and night, never taken inside or out for walks. Screamed at all day long to shut up by the couple who owned them. The man used to brag about turning the hose on them in winter to shut them up.

They had a shed for shelter and were fed. They were healthy, showed no signs of abuse. RSPCA were satisfied when they spoke to owner. That was after 18 months of continuous reports.

Came here to say this

why do you need to ask? Leave him and please rescue this poor darling dog. He doesn’t deserve to have a pet. The poor dog. I fucking despise humans who don’t take care of animals and treat them so cruelly.

he sounds like fucking scum. I hope someone stronger than him treats him the same way, see how he likes it.

That's exactly it. It's a terrible sign when someone abused someone smaller/weaker than them. Such a big red flag. He shouldn't be allowed anywhere near animals.

Dump him immediately.

Our dog was never allowed on the sofa or upstairs. That’s normal to many people. However, throwing a dog like that is not normal and is cruel. Please dump him, that should teach him that his behaviour is not acceptable.

Yes. He must know it's wrong surely. I would be worried he will take out you dumping him, on the dog so you need to report I think.

I have a dog in my house which I took off someone who booted her across the car park outside our local Asda! Scooped her up put her in the car and drove off. Did the police come round to mine. Absolutely. Did they take her away? Nope she was four months old and had cuts and scabs all over her where she had been abused. I don't regret taking her for one minute.

Dump without another thought!

Without a doubt get rid of him. If he'll do that to an animal, he'd lose it with a child or adult.

Definitely contact the RSPCA. You don't know whether the dog's been injured in the past or on this occasion - it should be examined by a VET.

The bloke's a cowardly, pathetic excuse for a human being (and you can quote me on that). Ask him how he'd like to be chucked across the room - hope one day he finds out.

Tend to agree about the RSPCA - if there isn't a TV camera nearby, they don't seem to give a stuff.