to think friend should give me her Taylor Swift tickets?

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I am a huge fan and signed up to all the presale access codes for UK and close by European countries. The only one I got a code for was a nearby EU country. I felt this was fine as DH and I like to go there and it’s not far away. So I bought tickets, which were in the local language and I was in a panic, which happened to be the expensive, tier 1 tickets for standing right by the stage. I didn’t see an issue overall because I was excited to go.

With an access code you can purchase up to 4 tickets, I bought 2 as that’s all I needed. My best friend and her (then) boyfriend (he was a bigger fan, she likes Taylor but never been too into her) didn’t get tickets to the UK events they signed up to and asked to use my code to buy 2 more tickets, if any were available.

I managed to get them 2 tickets (after spending hours in the virtual queue for them) on VIP which were seated, they’re decent. All was fine, he paid. They then broke up and he let her keep the tickets (presumably because he broke up with her and it’s her friend’s account)

Now I am pregnant and will be in my third trimester, just able to fly still, when the concert comes. I have attempted to contact the event for months about accessibility and been thrown pillar to post, I hope to swap them for accessibility but time is running out. My friend is now bringing new boyfriend and has seated tickets. My friend is fit, healthy (recently ran the marathon) and has no issues with standing, albeit preference is seated.

AIBU to think that she should offer to swap my (better) tickets for hers? It will come down to whether or not I can go. I will not go if I’m standing, this would be idiotic for my health and baby’s. So far, it’s silence and she just said it’d be a shame if I had to miss it.

My reasoning is 1) she only got the tickets because of me and 2) she didn’t even pay for them, her ex did. I also wouldn’t think twice about doing this the other way round.

I can’t tell if I’m being an entitled brat or if it just seems unfair.

YABU- get over it, sell your tickets.
YANBU - a good friend would do this. Especially one who isn’t a big fan.

You’re vile.

I am really confused about this comment. I made no judgment about your pregnancies beyond saying you’re blessed. It is still possible to read the unedited post and as I said, not everyone is the same.

She didn’t actually say no. She asked you to try all avenues first.

Not the point but are you even gonna see much of the concert?

I could NOT stop peeing, and had the heartburn of my lifetime in my 3rd trimester.

I wouldn't have been able to enjoy a concert, and I'd have been extremely uncomfortable too. I think paying to be miserable and uncomfortable would just be foolish.

Exactly!

Which country?

It says specifically on the Taylor Swift tickets - it’s a lead booker event so the named person must be present

This isn't true anywhere as far as I understand. Tell me which country and I will get the details.

It's not outing! If your friend was reading this she would already recognise you.

LEAD BOOKERS DONT HAVE TO BE PRESENT

I recently contacted Ticketmaster as I bought my DD and her BF tickets to Morgan Wallen at BST, and was informed you can only transfer tickets 30 days before the event, so I just need to wait as it's not an option on my account yet.

Edited to add we went to see Coldplay at the RAH in London and that was a lead booker event, I had to show ID and the card I'd bought the tickets on.

The OP has confirmed that for the country she is visiting this is still an active rule.

As an adult she's perfectly capable of confirming this without you.

And with the recent Aston debacle there's no reason for people to have to divulge more than they're comfortable with.

Not being unreasonable to clearly ask her. Make it a yes/no question. If no, tbh I would prioritise your needs & swap them assuming the tickets are in your name?

But why the heck does she want to go with her boyfriend who hates Taylor? What a waste!

At least put them on a waiting list in case other people had to cancel and tickets become available. This is completely deserving of an accessibility seat

In near tears reading this. I also have standing tickets to Taylor swift which I brought for sister bonding time. I'm now pregnant (will be 24ish weeks when we go) and she's taking a friend instead. I don't get to go at all 😢.

This is what the tickets say.

It says the absolute opposite on my tickets and the FAQs. It says it is still lead booker. It’s also another European country. I’ve no idea if it would be enforced.

I’m assuming transfer must be soon otherwise you couldn’t sell them anyway.

I don't wanna be a party pooper OP, but I've had seated tickets to a pop concert before and as soon as the main act comes on everyone stands up anyway. Unless it's a booth with like one row of seats, you might not be able to see. I'd keep contacting them about accessibility, maybe tweet them? If they say you already have seated tickets, can you say 'but they have my friend's name on then'? Which I'm presuming they have?

Otherwise, if those seated tickets would give you visibility, I think you'd need to take control and just tell your friend you're swapping, as the tickets were with your code and you queued up online to get the tickets anyway.

Your entitlement is coming across as extremely rude.

They are her tickets and you chose to get pregnant.
She doesn’t owe you anything.

You can ask nicely but she doesn’t have to do anything.
And if you’re coming to her with this same entitled attitude, then it’s no wonder that she’s said no.

Why not nicely explain the situation and ask her if you can have her boyfriends seat and he can go with your boyfriend.

I can’t imagine many adult men could sit through an entire Taylor swift concert and so they can slip off early if they want to.

Whilst you and your friend, the actual fans, can fully enjoy the show together and comfortably.?

I mean, technically, they are the OP's tickets 🤷🏼‍♀️

I’m so sorry to hear this. Try Ticketmaster on twitter, sometimes that helps.

YANBU. Anyone who was a real friend would've offered to swap tickets with you straight away - particularly when she didn't even pay for them. Your friend is a selfish dick.

The transfer option appears nearer the time I think however there were restrictions on reselling VIP tickets etc

I think she's being incredibly selfish, personally. But I'd probably suggest a compromise that the two of you sit together and let the blokes do the standing at the front. It could be the start of a beautiful male friendship.

If she refuses, frankly I'd take her seats, and sell the others. She's no friend in that circumstance.

If she can’t go without you because tickets are in your name and you have to be there, I would just TELL her - “sorry we will have to swap otherwise Ill have to cancel ALL tickets because I can’t go”. And just swap. And reimburse her the £ difference if there is any (doesn’t matter that it was paid for by her ex).

There are always extra tickets. Always. For VIPs etc.

Incredibly unnecessary

Have you actually asked her if you can sit with her, whilst her boyfriend stands with your boyfriend?

I think the men would jump at this and you and your friend would have so much more fun seeing it together if you’re both such big fans.

Sell yours. It's easy to sell TS tickets. You can see her on another tour in a couple of years. It's too much risk for you now to stand and watch. I agree friend should have offered but she didn't, so you can't do anything about.
It makes no sense if you don't go, does she not care about that it would b a risk for you?