to think friend should give me her Taylor Swift tickets?

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I am a huge fan and signed up to all the presale access codes for UK and close by European countries. The only one I got a code for was a nearby EU country. I felt this was fine as DH and I like to go there and it’s not far away. So I bought tickets, which were in the local language and I was in a panic, which happened to be the expensive, tier 1 tickets for standing right by the stage. I didn’t see an issue overall because I was excited to go.

With an access code you can purchase up to 4 tickets, I bought 2 as that’s all I needed. My best friend and her (then) boyfriend (he was a bigger fan, she likes Taylor but never been too into her) didn’t get tickets to the UK events they signed up to and asked to use my code to buy 2 more tickets, if any were available.

I managed to get them 2 tickets (after spending hours in the virtual queue for them) on VIP which were seated, they’re decent. All was fine, he paid. They then broke up and he let her keep the tickets (presumably because he broke up with her and it’s her friend’s account)

Now I am pregnant and will be in my third trimester, just able to fly still, when the concert comes. I have attempted to contact the event for months about accessibility and been thrown pillar to post, I hope to swap them for accessibility but time is running out. My friend is now bringing new boyfriend and has seated tickets. My friend is fit, healthy (recently ran the marathon) and has no issues with standing, albeit preference is seated.

AIBU to think that she should offer to swap my (better) tickets for hers? It will come down to whether or not I can go. I will not go if I’m standing, this would be idiotic for my health and baby’s. So far, it’s silence and she just said it’d be a shame if I had to miss it.

My reasoning is 1) she only got the tickets because of me and 2) she didn’t even pay for them, her ex did. I also wouldn’t think twice about doing this the other way round.

I can’t tell if I’m being an entitled brat or if it just seems unfair.

YABU- get over it, sell your tickets.
YANBU - a good friend would do this. Especially one who isn’t a big fan.

Oh my god there are two of you

FFS...
I can understand not reading the entire thread before you post
I can kind of understand not even skimming it to see if your incredibly obvious suggestion has already been posted by the 300 plus people who commented before you
I can't really understand why people don't at least read all the OPs posts before commenting particularly when MN makes them so easy to identify
But there is literally no excuse for not even READING THE VERY FIRST POST that you are supposed to be responding to properly, before you jump in

Swapping seats is literally OPs point and what she wants. As stated in the first post and repeated in every one since.
And the other 2 options aren't possible because the tickets aren't transferable and the gig is in another country - which AGAIN is in the OP

never mind!

I think she should just cancel the cheque.

Eh?

Stop asking her to swap and just say that’s what needs to happen as otherwise you’ll have to cancel.

You say her new boyfriend isn't fussed. Is yours?

Could you not just go with her and sit together?

Yes, OP is absolutely right - there is no reason why she can't travel if pregnancy is all okay. Pregnancy is not a medical condition!

It was amazing. One of the best nights of my life! She did Paris and LOML as the surprise songs and both were stunning. Plus, she did the first ever live performances of TTPD so it was super special to see that.

In fact, the OP seems to suggest she’s hinted that both seats are swapped. It’s a later suggestion that the two blokes who don’t appear to be that fussed take the standing seats and OP and her friend both sit.

That isn’t in the OP, so I’m not sure what you’re getting your knickers knotted about.

Maybe your comprehension skills aren’t quite as good as you think?

Take a chill pill.

The question as posed is "AIBU to think my friend should give me her tickets" and as such, no, I don't think it's unreasonable to think that, provided that the friend even realises that there's an issue with the OP having to stand.

The practical issue seems to be how to (a) make the friend aware, if she isn't, and then (b) make the swap happen.

If I were the OP I would be slightly concerned that if the issue was (a) and I raised it, my friend might then not offer to swap, and that would be awkward friendship-wise.

I'm wondering if there is a mutual friend who could talk to OP's friend, all innocent-like, about how cool it is that she got tickets, and ask for the story (OP's friend will probably be happy to say "I was soooo lucky, good old @ticketproblems had a code"), and then the topic could move on to when the show is, and are you all sitting together then if the OP got the tickets for you using the second half of her code, oh, no? So you're not sitting together? And then where the seats are, and how hugely pregnant the OP is going to be at that point, and is she really going to stand the whole time? Mutual friend would have to be good at keeping a straight face, of course. (It might turn out that the friend would actually really, really like the expensive standing tickets near the front, but doesn't want to ask OP!)

God, just tell her you'll have to have the seated tickets! If she kicks up a fuss about standing, tell her you're happy to sell the two standing tickets and refund her ex. She doesn't have a leg to stand on! (Pun not intended.)

Try for Lyon tickets. They aren't too expensive.

OP seems to be suggesting that she and her husband have the seats, whereas other posters are suggesting that the OP and her friend have the seats.

Calm yourself.

Please tell me how to do this, I can only see Ireland and UK concerts on Ticketmaster and I can’t get into these.

How would I see France option? Thanks so much for suggestion, I’d love to try this if you could help me, I’d be really grateful x

As others have suggested, I think it's entirely reasonable to say to her - as I'll be heavily pregnant now, I need to swap seats so that I can have the seated area and you can have the standing - don't worry you don't have to pay the higher price. If I can't swap, none of us will be able to go, sorry.

Not a TS fan but even I know TS sold out on every continent within minutes. People are reselling their extra TS tickets for up to 30k for a single one. If you were my age you'd see the resale prices floating around, and plenty of people snapping up those resales. OP could very easily have used her access code to make a sweet multi-digit profit.

I don't think it's 100% fair now for OP to renege on the agreement but I also don't think you realise she's done friend a massive favour in the first place. For the VIP level OP got her friend ticket especially, friend would have had to pay thousands or tens of thousands extra if buying resale.

Also, it's not like OP's tickets are much worse? Many fans prefer standing / mosh pit VIP to seated VIP for many reasons – excitement, closer to TS, etc.

That's great to know thank you. She has mobility issues due to where the tumours are, but we should be able to manage.
She is utterly determined to go even if I have to carry her in!!
Anfield were lovely on the phone and said their Stewards are there to help.

if you are able to transfer just state she'll be getting the standing ones an transfer those nothing she can do

I know someone who got tickets for the Paris shows on both Viagogo and Stubhub (there are levels of protection there to make sure you're not ripped off) but the Lyon dates aren't listed there for some reason.

They are on ticombo though. The only thing being the concerts are on a Sunday-Monday.

https://www.ticombo.com/en/music-tickets/pop-tickets/taylor-swift?p=1

There's no lead booking rule anymore. She can go without you.

Not really.
And the OP already 'sold' the tickets to the ex boyfriend who gave them to the friend so the OP doesn't own them.

I would say she technically does have an obligation to transfer them.
I'm always getting tickets for my sons friends etc, I've never thought to myself oh technically I have no obligation to transfer these tickets, once they've given me the money they're their tickets

Standing tickets are not an upgrade if you don't want to stand.
They would very much be a downgrade in that situation.
Plenty of people always choose the seated tickets over standing.

Have you spoken to her?

It's not an upgrade if she doesn't want to stand.
If the friend saw it as an upgrade she would have jumped at the chance to swap.