To think that this portion for an adult is too little?

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Family bbq, we usually host but my sister has moved and wanted to host at her house instead.
Myself and DH love hosting and make sure that there are plenty of snacks, food and drink for everyone.
DS said that we had to bring our own drink which is absolutely fine with me as I know that can be very costly to cater for everyone, I offered to bring a dish but she said that they had food sorted out.
Just to clarify my DS has no money worries as her and her DH both have well paying jobs so I was surprised to be served 2 hotdogs and that was it. 2 sausages and 2 buns each, nothing more. No dessert, snacks or anything other than that.
Would you think this is an acceptable bbq and portion per person?

That resonates @zippynotbungle. In 35 years MIL has provided cheese sandwiches and tomato soup, fish and chips from the chip shop and once when we visited en-route to a holiday at lunchtime and I said to do something simple, she bunged ham, prawns, and salad on the table, in the plastic packets, with a bottle of salad cream and sliced bread. Yum.

She and FIL had roasts, fish pies, high teas, casseroles' steaks, chops, and well served vegetables at ours with home made puddings. FIL liked a cheese sandwich at lunchtime. I was once told off for putting the cheese in the sandwich lengthways, rather than width ways. I once added supermarket raisins to the muesli rather than Sunpat and never heard the end of it.

**ing disgraceful.

We need to know more about the scale of disappointment, are these hot dogs the skinny ones you'd give the kids for tea or great big bratwursts? Size matters! 😅

If the latter then it's enough food but not enough choice. Is it even a BBQ if there aren't burgers?

Do we have the same SIL? It is not sufficient for a hosting a bbq. My SIL and husband ‘hosted’ a bbq but what that meant was we were asked to buy the bbq stuff in the way there and also buy some booze for her too. The only thing they supplied was small salad. They had about 8 or 9 people in attendance.

If she had said to bring a plate when organising I would have no problems. It was being asked to buy the entire bbq menu and alcohol that was a bit much.

Grim! Next time she offers to host make a light hearted 'joke' about still being hungry. Maybe she'll get the hint & put more food on.

I would be embarrassed to serve only that. I like to serve different salads, dips etc as well. And definitely pudding too.

This would be my queue to say "I'll bring some chicken skewers and spicy rice them, and perhaps sister can make some of those veggie skewers too. Is there anything else I can bring?"

LTB 🤣🤣🤣

Its calorific food so its probably enough to eat but people always overeat with bbq and want more choice.

We would always have 3 choices of meat/fish/cheese options (eg might be sausages, chicken, and some of skewer with prawns or halloumi and peppers. There'd also be veg done on the barbecue - mushrooms, corn, aubergines etc.

Then we'd have sides - a load of green salad, fresh hummous and crudites to dip. Potato salad. If not having something involving bread, there might be a bean or lentil dish, pesto pasta or couscous with sun dried tomato .

If I thought that would work then I would.

that's not a meal - where is the salad or veg?

Your sister invited you over for 2 hot dogs. it is quite funny really.

Your husband having a healthier relationship than you with food is sad? Only on MN!

Teeny tinies out in force today

Oh No! I'd probably be tempted to bring them anyway to be honest then 😅

Went to bbq-

butterfly lamb
greek salad
burgers
roasted potatoes
green salad

raspberry pavlova

They wouldn't get cooked! Honestly, if you don't have a family like mine you don't know what it's like.

That does not happen when I host a BBQ. I way over cater and we end up eating leftover for 2 days!

😕

Lucky you’re not coming to me for a bbq: I wouldn’t have included half of those things.

If we were hosting guests I’d do more than we do just for dcs and us; but for us we would just do sausages , probably caramelised onions because we like that, simple salad and a bun/ slice of bread. I’d eat two at most. I can’t say for sure if my Dsis would get the guest version or the family version, but I wouldn’t have quailed at the thought of giving her the family version. So apart from the green salad and onions I’m afraid you’d have got similar if you were my Dsis op.

I don't like sausages. This would be the worst bbq ever.

We had a bbq tonight, 4 of us. I marinated chicken, salmon, prawns and lamb chops. There was a caprese salad, a chef's salad, crudités, tortillas and dips, ciabatta, pasta salad, potato salad and a election of melon. Then peach melba pavlova.

It was lovely!

We had friends (moved now) where you never knew what you'd get. Sometimes it was a top quality slow cooked brisket or other fancy meat, (they had a smoker), plus salads, desserts, snacks, and the latest cocktails.

Sometimes it was just a few tiny sausages, sliced bread & home brew 🤮. We rarely drink, but finding something non alcoholic or sugar laden was near impossible. I had to ask to get a glass from the kitchen & use the tap!

You also never knew if you'd get food at 3pm or 7pm.

They were super social & lovely people, just clueless & often disorganised. We used to offer to bring food but it was rebuffed. We learned to eat before we went. It was awkward if they fed you earlier but at least we didn't have starving kids!!

Sorry @candyisdandybutliquorisquicker dh does love food a bit too much iyswim he would admit it too! I do too I hasten to add but maybe not as much, we will be watching him eat as the meal is cooked by, and for, himself essentially.

Tbh this is what I’m thinking too. When else would you eat more than two hot dogs or two burgers at the same meal? Truth is you wouldn’t . No one goes to a burger restaurant and says “ I’ll have the chicken burger with avocado .., and then I’ll also have the quarter pounder.”

I agree the issue was more the lack of variety, in particular a bit of salad of some sort.

Are you seriously saying this is what you would serve guests at a BBQ at your home?

No salad? No nibbles with drinks? No dessert?

You’d find that plenty in this situation?

It's shit to give just two hotdogs but do you always hog being the hosts and do you try to undermine occasions that you haven't been asked to host or contribute? Feels like you're looking for reasons to host so you can be in control.

I always over cater so I’m the worst to ask but that sounds very small- are they young and just don’t know how to host? Or stingy?

Who cares if OP wants to ‘hog’ being the host - which by the way I’m sure she’s not! It’s not unreasonable or controlling in the slightest to think that people should make a better effort than a pair of hotdogs when having others over for a get together. Obviously they’re not overly enthusiastic or fussed about planning + hosting things like this so why would it be an issue for them to go to someone else’s house who will do it properly?

Basic and deliberately shit so you will do it next time.