Not sure how stalkers pick a target - love, hate? Jealously? Envy, Pity? Some kind of chemical attraction?
I’m a woman, was stalked and assaulted by a man who lived in my block of flats. I didn’t know him, had not met him. He had sent me recorded letters (typed envelopes!) that I had refused to accept when I saw return address was in my building. Then he slipped the letters under my door but I would not open & put back under his door, I knew that I didn’t want to read them!!
The fact my stalker/assaulter followed me from my building allowed me ID him. How he learned my name is a mystery. The assault was after 3 months of not “engaging” with his letters.
The police did arrest him & struggled to understand WHY an openly gay man would stalk a much younger woman whom he had never met. Police were initially reluctant thinking I must by lying about not knowing him.
During police questioning he accused me of disturbing his “right to quite” not quiet. (that’s right, like Marta/Fiona,a mis-speller). He showed the police the his returned letters, a notebook where he recorded dates & times where I was disturbing his quiet. (From work swipes & receipts I could have proved I was elsewhere).
He spent a night in the cells, I got a protection order but he still body-slammed me in a shop & train platform months later. I moved away a year later.
I had a female flat mate … I always wondered why he selected me, and not her? Also, he had done similar to another young woman, and an elderly woman In the building over previous years, neither had gone to police. If they had he might have stopped, do resent them for not going to police.
Obviously harassing women chronic prob for him.