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To not want DHs toys all over the fkn living room?

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BeepBeepYh · 08/05/2024 16:51

DH is a geek. He collects figures, lego, character statues etc.

When we had a smaller house his stuff was all over the living room. Shelves of them, cabinets, on the mantle piece etc... It caused a fair few arguments.

We've moved to a new house and there's a small room upstairs that's currently got boxes in that haven't been unpacked /sorted that we agreed would be his room for his collection.

He can put shelves up, lights, a cabinet. Anything he wants as long as the door shuts.

It's been close to a year and he's not sorted the room out.

His collection is all still in boxes in that room and the loft.

Only since we moved he started a new collection. A certain series of figures and he's been buying them.

He must have bought 30 of them.

My livingroom sideboard has been filled with the empty boxes (he won't bin them) and the shelves I put up in an alcove has been taken over by the figures.

My kids are all teens now and I was really looking forwards to having a 'grown up' living room.

I said to him yesterday that he needs to move all the toys and set up his room.

He says that I have things on the shelves so why can't he? My things are picture frames, dried flowers, ornaments and candles.

It's hardly the same is it?

It's not like I'm saying he can't collect them. I don't give a shit. I'm just asking that he sorts the room upstairs out so he can put them all on display there!

He said that it's not fair that I've got the living room and bedroom for my stuff (I've got absolutely nothing on display, I just want a NORMAL living room and bedroom that doesn't look like ToysRUs. It's not like I collect things and have all my stuff everywhere. I just want a minimal bedroom after decades of toy clutter) and he has to just have the office room.

I said most blokes would love have a whole mini room to have their own space and the living room or bedroom isn't the place for his collection.

AIBU?

Imagibe 30 x 6" marvel figurines stood on your living room shelf??

OP posts:
mrsdineen2 · 08/05/2024 16:59

He says that I have things on the shelves so why can't he? My things are picture frames, dried flowers, ornaments and candles.

It's hardly the same is it?

Other than the picture frames (assuming family photos), isn't it?

Verv · 08/05/2024 16:59

I think if you cohabit you should both be able to have your things on display in communal places.

Also, this sort of thing is why I wouldn't live with anyone 😂

Eggmoobean · 08/05/2024 17:02

I would not like his toys in the front room
on display. He has a room for his collection, why doesn’t he make that into a functional display room.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 08/05/2024 17:04

Verv · 08/05/2024 16:59

I think if you cohabit you should both be able to have your things on display in communal places.

Also, this sort of thing is why I wouldn't live with anyone 😂

Ordinarily, yes - but he has a room of his own. OP shares the bedroom and the living room, so it's reasonable that as he has an entire room of his own to put wall to wall worthless now they've been taken out of the boxes collectables, posters, novelty mugs and bookends and a Spiderman rug in, that she has one room that she shares with everybody else that is decorated to her taste.

Needmorelego · 08/05/2024 17:05

You can probably tell from my user name that I'm Team Husband 😂
Sorry but if he can't have his stuff you can't have your candles and ornaments either.

BeepBeepYh · 08/05/2024 17:06

mrsdineen2 · 08/05/2024 16:59

He says that I have things on the shelves so why can't he? My things are picture frames, dried flowers, ornaments and candles.

It's hardly the same is it?

Other than the picture frames (assuming family photos), isn't it?

There's a dried bouquet he got me for valentines. Pics of our kids. 3 ornaments the kids got me for birthdays/mothers day and a couple of plants.

He's got 30 colourful figures or marvel/hulk/iron-man etc...

And that just from the last 12 months.

He's got dozens of boxes upstairs.

If he put it all out you wouldn't be able to see a single surface.

Also I clean these rooms. He doesn't.

Is he going to take each one down and dust it every week?

OP posts:
mewkins · 08/05/2024 17:06

Verv · 08/05/2024 16:59

I think if you cohabit you should both be able to have your things on display in communal places.

Also, this sort of thing is why I wouldn't live with anyone 😂

Hahaha. Agreed. I would hate to have someone's crap everywhere

Needmorelego · 08/05/2024 17:07

@BeepBeepYh maybe you should take over the room if he hasn't used it.
Put a sofa or whatever in there.
Or just move all his stuff into there.
Give him one shelf in the living room and he will have to rotate.

Dramatic · 08/05/2024 17:08

I think a fair compromise would be that he can have a couple of his favourites in the living room but the majority need to be sorted in to the spare room

BeepBeepYh · 08/05/2024 17:08

This is the sort of thing I'm talking about.

And please bear in mind I've had this for 20 YEARS.

20 YEARS I've had these all over my living room.

We've moved to a bigger house for more space and he's got a whole room for this stuff :(

To not want DHs toys all over the fkn living room?
OP posts:
Hadalifeonce · 08/05/2024 17:09

They would all be up in his room in the blink of an eye. He would also be on notice that if they find their way back down, they might find their way into the bin.
I would hate to live with a load of toys in the sitting room, even when the children were small toys were in the playroom, not the adult space.

Bjorkdidit · 08/05/2024 17:09

^He says that I have things on the shelves so why can't he? My things are picture frames, dried flowers, ornaments and candles.

It's hardly the same is it^

It really is. A Marvel figure is just as much as an ornament as the things you like to display. I don't particularly like Marvel, but can see that there's no objective difference between the things he likes and the things you like.

BeepBeepYh · 08/05/2024 17:10

If we still lived in the smaller house with no where else for them to go then fair enough.

But he AGREED to the small room upstairs for the figures before we moved.

So it's no surprise.

But he's just not sorted it out so has started displaying in the living room

OP posts:
Runnerduck34 · 08/05/2024 17:10

Boxes in the loft or garage.
He can keep his most special figures downstairs but I'd limit number so if you have 6 ornaments- he has 6 figures.
Then the rest in his hobby room.
I mean considering he's got a whole room dedicated to his hobby he is being unreasonable and taking up more than his fair share of space.

Motnight · 08/05/2024 17:10

BeepBeepYh · 08/05/2024 17:08

This is the sort of thing I'm talking about.

And please bear in mind I've had this for 20 YEARS.

20 YEARS I've had these all over my living room.

We've moved to a bigger house for more space and he's got a whole room for this stuff :(

That's your problem, Op, now that there's more space it's just going to mean more crap.

Roundandroundthegard3n · 08/05/2024 17:10

Id just take all the ones from the living room and put them in his room.

Pomegranatecarnage · 08/05/2024 17:10

I had a husband like that once. I love having no figurines out now we are divorced!

KeepYourFingersOutOfMySoup · 08/05/2024 17:12

That would drive me bonkers op.
I think the only answer is comprise - 2-3 favourites in the living room or whatever will fit on a certain shelf or area. Don't exceed the same volume with your own personal choices - I'd exempt family photos and any else obviously 'family' rather than 'yours'. Good luck!

GalileoHumpkins · 08/05/2024 17:14

I like the sound of your husband's stuff more than I like the sound of yours. Our living room kallax is full of Lego and figures, mostly mine!

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 08/05/2024 17:15

Seriously, put that shit in a box and dump it upstairs. If he doesn’t like candles and flowers, dump those too, but at least they aren’t toys.

Nanny0gg · 08/05/2024 17:15

Seriously, how many adults really want to live in a toyshop?

Revelatio · 08/05/2024 17:17

Have a shelf each in communal areas, then everything else (both of your things), need to go somewhere else.

JuiceBoxJuggler · 08/05/2024 17:17

As a man, I do agree with you. I have a room/office where all my gaming stuff goes and all my stuff that isn’t really for the living room.

Have another chat, perhaps at most offer him a spot for a couple but not what your image portrayed.

wanderyears · 08/05/2024 17:17

ick...

hoarahloux · 08/05/2024 17:18

If it's Funko Pops YADNBU. Those things are hideous.