Dressing up in sexy lingerie

[Justgoodforthegetting]

Topic inspired by the thread from the OP about how she doesn’t understand relationships going to shit after babies.

There seemed to be quite a lot of comments about the sexy underwear and the OP dressing up in sexy lingerie for her husband.

To clarify, the way the OP put it did make it seem like a bit of a desperate act in order to keep her husband happy but what is the general consensus on dressing up for a man (or woman) in this way?

I love to dress up in sexy lingerie for someone but would never do it if I felt it was to placate someone or keep them happy in some way, but I do like to see the reaction it gets and it makes me feel sexy and empowered.
How about everyone else?

IABU-sexy lingerie is outdated sexist nonsense.

IANBU-love sexy lingerie and wear it whenever the chance presents itself.

I don’t really have the figure for sexy lingerie. We don’t dress up for sex though, the clothes aren’t really on long enough.

I don't even have kids and I'm not quite 40 but I just couldn't be arsed, even if it was for someone I was married to. All a bit desperate.

I've never understood the point of sexy underwear. It always looks like it will chafe while you have it on and, presumably, the whole point is that it comes off. So why bother?

But I'm probably not the target market as I'm a big pant person!

I'd wear it if he loaded and unloaded the dishwasher, hoovered the whole house and cleaned both bathrooms without being asked. I'll meet his needs when he meets mine.

I think people should stay out of other people’s sex lives. Why on earth should anyone have an opinion on it?

I wear nice socks and refuse to take them off.

I wear it because I like it. Not costumes, or arse floss string pants and bras with nipple holes, but decent stuff a bit different from every day. My DH loves it but wouldn't request it, and I don't do it for "special occasions" or specifically to make him happy.

I like to dress up, i get enjoyment from it, i like to wear relatively sexy underwear day to day as I like it.

I once bought what looked like a sort of leather catsuit online. When it arrived it was so massive i looked like a deep sea diver. It was the funniest thing lol

I dabbled a little in the early days of my marriage but he didn't seem that bothered and after we had kids the sex tailed off altogether anyway.

I'm now divorced at 49 and in a new relationship, he LOVES sexy undies and so do I. It turns me on to turn him on.

Lol, love this. There is probably a whole sexual fetish thing around deep sea divers - maybe worth exploring…😆

I love pretty underwear but I wear it for me, not for him. Not sure if pretty equates to sexy but it's a big step up from my usual granny pants and non matching bra anyway.

@Purplecatshopaholic haha yes!

I've had partners who have absolutely loved this stuff and some who really couldn't care less. So that affects whether I do it or not, because while I'm not doing it "for them", I AM doing it "for us" - I enjoy myself either way, but there's no point or pleasure in serving up something that someone doesn't have an appetite for.

I have some nice lingerie and it's nice for a confidence boost, however I rarely dress up in the bedroom. Now and again I will and my DH enjoys it, but we have quite regular sex and so most of the time we're just naked. We don't go to any real effort to get dressed up and prefer to focus on touching each other. Personally I've found most men are appreciative of that sort of stuff for when you send them photos but in person they usually prefer you naked.

Isn’t there an episode of the league of gentlemen where they get a kick from inflating wetsuits?

We don’t do special pants, instead my husband doesn’t tuck his pyjama bottoms into his socks to give me the message, very, very sexy.

I like comfortable underwear and also very big covering up everything. All my knickers are Marylin Monroe style.
I don’t like the feeling of lace and nylon touching my skin.

If my partner asked me to wear sexy lingerie I would:
1- ask for him to pay for it
2- wear it just for the act

Good god no. I hate bras and can't bear lacy or inadequately sized knickers. I would feel very silly dressing up. I understand that some women enjoy wearing it for their partners but personally the thought of accessorising myself to appear more sexually appealing makes me cringe. I'm not a sex ornament. What effort does the man go to?

😂😂😂

I was about to start a thread about this then I saw this was posted.

I would be partial to wearing lingerie. Having said that, my first boyfriend (I was young, think late teens) and he was early 30s. He suggested it and would have bought me clothes and lingerie and other sexual items from Ann Summers.

The first time I wore lingerie for my now husband his jaw nearly fell through the floor as it was something he personally never experienced an ex doing. He loved it but it wasn’t expected.

I think my first relationship skewed my expectation that this is just the done thing in a relationship.

I don’t like the feeling of lace and nylon touching my skin.

Silk though...

I like lingerie (well, some.) I also like nudity. Some men do, some men don't. I focus on me more than them.

I like it, it makes me feel sexy and I think I have the kind of body that looks better in underwear than naked. DP doesn’t seem to agree and is all about the nakedness

I don’t bother with sexy lingerie anymore, but I do wear clothes that accentuate my figure day-to-day.

I am in skin-tight activewear 80% of the time, and ex-boyfriends have always commented that they find it a turn on.

The problem with most lingerie is it’s really uncomfortable and impractical. I like to be comfortable and sexy. 🤗

I love dressing up for my husband. The reaction I get from him makes me feel powerful. We're in our fifties, sex is still wonderful, Why not spice it up.

I use underwear for me not for my husband. Most times I’m asleep naked tho 😂

I wear it because I like it and I like the reaction to it. I often wear very nice lingerie under mundane workclothes because it gives a nice boost.

However, I daresay if I had a young baby I'd feel about as inclined to want to wear it as I do when I'm full of pmt bloat or I've been up with the shits all night.