Dressing up in sexy lingerie

[Justgoodforthegetting]

Topic inspired by the thread from the OP about how she doesn’t understand relationships going to shit after babies.

There seemed to be quite a lot of comments about the sexy underwear and the OP dressing up in sexy lingerie for her husband.

To clarify, the way the OP put it did make it seem like a bit of a desperate act in order to keep her husband happy but what is the general consensus on dressing up for a man (or woman) in this way?

I love to dress up in sexy lingerie for someone but would never do it if I felt it was to placate someone or keep them happy in some way, but I do like to see the reaction it gets and it makes me feel sexy and empowered.
How about everyone else?

IABU-sexy lingerie is outdated sexist nonsense.

IANBU-love sexy lingerie and wear it whenever the chance presents itself.

Mumsnet: Women become mums by having sex.

I didn’t say you started the thread. I was referring to OP, who I was addressing in the first place with my first comment, so why bother replying to me?

If it surprises you in any way that this forum has sex topics, then that’s rather bizarre.

You replied to my post, so I assumed you wanted debate.

Anyway theres a whole section for this. Try it

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/sex

I have sexy underwear and sometimes my husband will ask me to wear it as it does turn him on. He likes me naked or dressed but if I wear a basque and stockings he says he knows it’s just for him and that turns him on. The thing is boned though and creaks like an old ship! Or maybe that’s me as I’m old.

I quite like it but DH and ex’s have all been more interested in taking it off!

The existence of special clothes for women to wear for men’s entertainment and pleasure is just horrid to me. Hats off if you’re a woman who likes it… to each her own. Feeling empowered is BS, if you need special clothes to feel empowered surely it’s because you feel these special clothes are having the desired impact of arousing the man in question. The balance of who is doing the leg work for pleasure is wrong.

You could say that about anything though. Wearing make up, staying in shape, going to the hairdressers. It's not really that deep. My husband likes me naked but he also likes me in lingerie sometimes. And so what if I'm doing it for him? He's my husband and I want to be sexy for him, lingerie or not. He's sexy too.

I get this. Outside of the coldest winter months when the dreaded opaque tights come out, l’m a stocking wearer by day, except in the mid summer bare leg season. Plus l like nice bra and knix for day to day wear. I don’t really have any special “best underwear”. I do aspire to match, (l buy 2 new pairs of knix with every new bra), l don’t always succeed though. I think pretty (not a word l often use) rather than sexy would be an appropriate term.

For the bedroom l prefer to be naked (sometimes it’s practical to keep my glasses on for starters 😀) but obviously l’m seen in what l have on before it comes off.

l prefer a bed fellow to be dressed nicely underneath it all too.

In what way is wearing make up, staying in shape or going to the hairdresser's for men's entertainment?

Why is it such a bad thing to wear something that your sexual partner finds attractive? I want to look good, for both myself and I do look cracking in certain things but also for the person I have been having sex with for over 20 years? What's wrong with wanting to look sexy/attractive/good to them? I want to. He wants and tries to look good for me too! It's nothing to do with feeling empowered! Of course I want to be desired, it's a lovely feeling!