Dressing up in sexy lingerie

[Justgoodforthegetting]

Topic inspired by the thread from the OP about how she doesn’t understand relationships going to shit after babies.

There seemed to be quite a lot of comments about the sexy underwear and the OP dressing up in sexy lingerie for her husband.

To clarify, the way the OP put it did make it seem like a bit of a desperate act in order to keep her husband happy but what is the general consensus on dressing up for a man (or woman) in this way?

I love to dress up in sexy lingerie for someone but would never do it if I felt it was to placate someone or keep them happy in some way, but I do like to see the reaction it gets and it makes me feel sexy and empowered.
How about everyone else?

IABU-sexy lingerie is outdated sexist nonsense.

IANBU-love sexy lingerie and wear it whenever the chance presents itself.

I didn’t read the other thread but I absolutely love dressing up.

I would say it’s just as much for me to feel sexy and good about myself, then it is a partner.

I agree with you that I would never do it to keep a partner but dressing up can be so much fun.

Men have less options but I love it when a man dresses up too.

I love my husband reaction when he finds me in his favourite pair of knickers. It's very exciting.

If I felt like I HAD to do it though, I wouldn't.

I always wear decent lingerie. Did when I was single and do in a relationship. It's because I want to nothing to do with partner.

I also wear nice clothes and make an effort to look well, again for me and no one else.

I also can't see how frumpy grey underwear can be much of a turn on for anyone. It wouldn't be for me.

Look good, feel good mentality.

I also can't see how frumpy grey underwear can be much of a turn on for anyone.

There’s a middle ground between ‘frumpy grey underwear’ and Agent Provocateur 😂

I don't think lingerie is the ultimate sign of a successful relationship which was the issue on the other thread. But there's nothing wrong with it as a bit of fun.

I do both! I like nice, expensive lingerie that looks good on. I feel good in it, I feel sexy and desirable and I like knowing I have it on under my clothes. I don't do cheap and I don't do uncomfortable. It's got absolutely nothing to do with being a 'sex ornament'. Surely people have got bigger imaginations to think that's what it's about?

Surely people have got bigger imaginations to think that's what it's about?

For the women, yes. Men, no.

I've never understood the point of sexy underwear. It always looks like it will chafe while you have it on and, presumably, the whole point is that it comes off. So why bother?

This, i can't stand that its always uncomfortable and it feels like such a demeaning and outdated concept that women should have to dress to titillate a man, but men can just wear comfy jersey boxers.

To note, I have had a few experiences when men would also dress up which I do enjoy 😈 but I think women have so many more options for lingerie choices from pretty and attractive to very overly sexual. I think it’s easier for us.

*I always wear decent lingerie. Did when I was single and do in a relationship. It's because I want to nothing to do with partner.

I also wear nice clothes and make an effort to look well, again for me and no one else.

I also can't see how frumpy grey underwear can be much of a turn on for anyone. It wouldn't be for me.*

Do you expect it of your partner? Is he wearing the sort of sexy, accentuates your genitals pants that are available for men?

Its the double standard I can't stand. Women must "make an effort" with lace and silk & impractical bits of chiffon in order to feel sexy and desirable, while men walk about thinking a picture of their naked cock, zero adornment, is all a woman needs to see

I like nice underwear, lingerie and so does my partner. But his favourite thing to see me in is one of his shirts, just the shirt. So much more comfortable. 😁

I think women have so many more options for lingerie choices from pretty and attractive to very overly sexual. I think it’s easier for us.

Have you ever thought about why there is so much more available for women?

I like to wear things that make me feel attractive, I do this for myself though. Some days I wear my scruffs and that makes me feel good. Husband loves me in whatever I wear, although I think he’d prefer bare skin in bed but I like my pjs

I don’t really care 🤣 it makes me feel good and I like that I have the choices available to me. I’m also a feminist and don’t think that any woman should have to do anything they’re not comfortable with. It’s not that deep imo.

None of the boyfriends I’ve had - or the two dhs- have ever been remotely interested in sexy undies. They’ve just liked to get them off asap so seems really pointless. Maybe if I was with someone who really appreciated I might make an effort. My dh (married 15 years) is not even slightly interested in underwear. Couldn’t even give a monkeys.

You was a late teen and he was a man in his 30s buying you clothes and other sexual items from Ann Summers???

I am so dressed down 99% of the time that sometimes I enjoy stepping out of the granny pants and into the dental floss. I certainly wouldn't wear them all day though. I don't really know what men would dress up in though - If it's the sort of thing you'd find in Ann Summers then I'd find it either a bit cringe or hilarious.

Absolutely no point. I am neither sexy nor attractive. Dressing up in 'sexy'underwear would be like having a beautifully wrapped present only to find a nondescript gift inside.

Luckily my husband loves me anyway.

Vicar??? No? Just me??😳

Your husband obviously finds you sexy and attractive. I don’t necessarily think either of those things are physical qualities, particularly sexiness.

No he really doesn't. He says he loves me for the beautiful person inside the body.

I don't differentiate and wear pretty underwear for me., every day. None of it is dental floss style, not overly lacy etc. Practical, comfortable underwear but not plain. DH is a very visual person, so it has an added bonus there too. Maybe it helps that I am a size 6-8 in my 50s and have the good fortune to be fairly well toned with it.

I love my husband reaction when he finds me in his favourite pair of knickers. It's very exciting

You steal your husband’s favourite knickers, wear them and he finds it exciting.

Mine would be livid.

i did wear his socks once though.

This is me too, and I wear comfortable wear with no vpl but if seeing OH , yes I may wear something i deem sexier, though we don't see each other v often.

Do I expect it in a partner?

Yes, i wouldn't be impressed with a grey pair of y-fronts with holes in them, a g-string or cartoon boxers.

Just normal decent boxers please.