Who should pay for these tickets?

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I was going to an event with Sarah and Philippa. I bought the tickets and they were meant to transfer the money.

Sarah then said her DH had arranged to see friends and so she could no longer come. Annoying, but okay. I asked Philippa if it would be okay if we offered the ticket to another mutual friend, Cheryl. Philippa said yes, but that she had seriously overspent so could no longer afford to come and so did I want to find someone else take her ticket too.

I was annoyed, and said I couldn’t think of anyone to take it but if she didn’t want to come just send the money and don’t come. She said she’d send it when she was paid. Meanwhile, Cheryl and I went for drinks with Jessica, mentioned there was a spare ticket, and Jessica said she’d like to come.

So Cheryl, Jessica and I went to the event. I have been paid for the tickets by no one.

Who should pay?

YABU - Cheryl and Jessica
YANBU - Sarah and Philippa

The people who went should pay.

Cheryl and Jessica, they went in place of the other two. Not sure why you wouldn’t have agreed that in advance though rather than be out of pocket.

Cheryl and Jessica

Did Jessica offer to pay? Did she think it was a free ticket?

Sarah and Phillipa owe you the money, they should be asking Cheryl & Jessica for it but they should still repay you

Chez & Jess

Why have you not told Chery and Jessica to pay? Why have they not offered?

The people who went...

Also this is why I NEVER pay for anyones ticket, I book stuff and say- this is the date, or this it the dater and my sit, pay for yours and come along if you would like.

The tickets should have already been paid for by Sarah and Philippa and if Cheryl and Jessica hadn’t taken them they’d have been unused and I’d have been out of pocket having paid for something I didn’t go to.

If I dropped out of an event I’d be happy for the person I was going with to take someone in my place without being reimbursed.

Absolutely - what arse wipe friends!

But you found someone to replace the said friends, so the convo should be like

• hey, would you like to join me, tickets was £££, happy to let it go for ££.

All your friends such seeing no one offered to pay. You need better friends.

Set up a group chat with your bank details in and ask if they could pay you back for the tickets

Because I don’t think they should have to. Sarah and Philippa agreed to pay for the tickets and didn’t. Once they dropped out the tickets were spare, not on re-sale. If I had to drop out I’d still pay for my ticket but be happy for someone else to use it for free rather than lying unused.

And if they’d said ‘no, I don’t mind coming but don’t want to pay that’ then all three tickets would’ve been unused and Sarah and Philippa would’ve had to pay.

With which set?

I find your logic odd - you managed to find two others to go along to the event so all the “ifs” are irrelevant. It isn’t your place decide that Cheryl and Jessica get their tickets for free while Sarah and Phillipa pay for an event they didn’t attend.

Why are you asking us who should pay if you’ve already decided? 😂

But you didn’t collect the money from Sarah and Phillipa they told you they didn’t want to go (morally not great but that’s the situation) the 2 that did go should at least offer to pay. If I went in someone else’s place I wouldn’t just expect to go for free?

Anyone but you!

Sarah & Cheryl should really come to an agreement as Cheryl took Sarah's ticket, & Philippa & Jessica likewise.

But in the first instance Sarah & Philippa are liable to pay you, as they initially committed to go/agreed that you would book on the understanding that they would pay.

If I were Sarah or Philippa, I would have said upfront 'of course Cheryl/Jessica can BUY my ticket' & checked that Cheryl/Jessica knew they were buying it, not getting a freebie.

Or I'd just have written it off as 'meh at least it's not being wasted...she can have it.'

But either way, they made the original arrangement & agreed to pay.

All four of them. Let them hash it out (or get paid twice)

I think your problem was communication really. YOU think that the original people should pay but THEY probably think that now you got two replacements that they no longer had to. (Not unreasonable really).

You didn’t make your expectations clear and assumed everyone would think like you.

Then Sarah and Philippa can take it up with Cheryl and Jessica. They should’ve paid well before they dropped out.

So why are you asking if you already know who you want to pay? It’s bad Sarah and Phillipa didn’t pay but as you found two other people to go the two who went should of been asked if they wanted to buy the tickets from you because technically they are your tickets as you paid for them.

Cheryl and Jessica should pay. They used the tickets.

If you offered Cheryl and Jessica “free tickets” you should pay.

Sarah and Philippa have no responsibility since you gave away the tickets.