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Vegan wedding

319 replies

Babysharkdoodoodood · 05/05/2024 14:05

Would it be asshole-ish of me to smuggle babybels in my handbag?

The menu looks very tiny, and I don't intend to eat it in front of anyone, just find a dark corner. It's the only meal at the whole event.

I did think of peperami but it's vile and stinky.

OP posts:
PotatoFan · 05/05/2024 14:06

Can you not just have a big breakfast/lunch before you go?

PermanentIyExhaustedPigeon · 05/05/2024 14:06

Let's see the tiny menu?

welshycake · 05/05/2024 14:08

Oh come on. You could at least take a vegan flapjack or something. You wouldn't take a steak so why is a babybel ok. You clearly don't like or respect them so maybe you should just not go.

RM2013 · 05/05/2024 14:08

I’d have a massive breakfast before I went and maybe take snacks. Hopefully you’ll enjoy the food. I’d be wondering whether I’d enjoy a completely vegan menu

ShaunaSadeki · 05/05/2024 14:09

What is on the menu?

Almahart · 05/05/2024 14:10

Can't judge without knowing what's on the menu. There's every chance that it will be a hell of a lot nicer than your average lamb and salmon wedding meal

Tiswa · 05/05/2024 14:10

Yes it would just eat before hand and if you want a snack take in a vegan one (lots of snacks are trust me

i am sure you can cope with a completely vegan meal once - there is an amazing restaurant in Brighton I went to that serves mainly vegan (a few veggie things) and the food was some of the best I have had

Wafflefudge · 05/05/2024 14:12

I'm not sure you can really tell quantity of food from the menu.
Weddings can often mean a long time without food though so I'd look at the timings abd eat appropriately. For instance if wedding starts at 1 and food isn't until 4 then I'd be sure to eat an early lunch

BobbyBiscuits · 05/05/2024 14:12

You can't do without animal products for a few hours? If the size of the portions is a worry then eat a big meal before, and bring crisps, nuts, fruit in your bag to snack on. I guess you could eat baby bell but I'd be hiding in the toilets to do so, which would somewhat spoil the experience, lol.

Hankunamatata · 05/05/2024 14:14

Is it a long day event. Regardless of vegan it not hate long weddings that offer one meal. We often go equipped with snack bags

TheTimeTravellerswifeisaFraser · 05/05/2024 14:14

Depends on the weather. Babybels in your handbag when it’s 20-39’c would be horrible. I’d go with muesli bars or something instead.
I vote it’s not unreasonable to bring snacks, but I’m not sure babybels are the best option.
If it’s just that the vegan virtue signaling is going to drive you a bit nuts, plan a really nice non vegan meal for the next day and just smile and nod while thinking about your salmon and new potatoes/steak and chips or whatever you fancy.

gestroopd · 05/05/2024 14:15

Why babybel? What's the point, they're tiny so it's not like you'll fill up on them. So is the problem that you can't face a meal without animal products, or something else? If you're looking to snack during the day because you think there won't be enough food, you should bring more filling snacks than that!

Bringing a humous sandwich would do the job and not be offensive to vegan sensibilities. Just say you always need to snack if anybody else, so usually bring something with you to stop you getting light-headed or something (I have that problem so it's a real one!).

longdistanceclaraclara · 05/05/2024 14:15

Menu? I've been to some amazing Indian weddings that were vegan.

viccat · 05/05/2024 14:16

Babybel does a vegan range now so you're OK.

Regardless, bringing snacks seems odd. Surely the meal can't be so tiny you would perish?

Traceyallshot · 05/05/2024 14:20

This has got to be a wind up 😂 At every wedding I’ve ever been to (as a vegetarian) I have picked my way through a meal that has been selected for me, there is never an option. Most likely containing mushrooms - which I hate. If I can manage that at every wedding, you can manage one without eating what you want

razorbladethroat · 05/05/2024 14:21

Tiswa · 05/05/2024 14:10

Yes it would just eat before hand and if you want a snack take in a vegan one (lots of snacks are trust me

i am sure you can cope with a completely vegan meal once - there is an amazing restaurant in Brighton I went to that serves mainly vegan (a few veggie things) and the food was some of the best I have had

Was that Terre a Terre?

That goes down as one of my (veggie) and my husband's (normally carnivore) best meals of all time

SuuzeeeQ · 05/05/2024 14:22

Don’t be ridiculous. I was at a vegan wedding and it was fine. Nobody starved or had to run to McDonald’s. I am sure you can cope for a day without meat or cheese.

fuckssaaaaake · 05/05/2024 14:22

Babybels is a shit choice imo.

Potnoodlesarentantisocial · 05/05/2024 14:23

I don't want to shock you but vegan food can be quite filling too.

Alloveragain3 · 05/05/2024 14:25

I brought a banana to a wedding once when I was pregnant and needed constant feeding to ward off the nausea.

Did the trick!

Fanchester · 05/05/2024 14:25

Yes this would be dickish. You can survive a few hours without animal products so you’d only be doing it as a “fuck you” to your hosts. Better not to go than go and be such a big baby.

Kindofcrunchy · 05/05/2024 14:27

One of the best weddings I've ever been to was vegetarian and alcohol free (Indian wedding). Could finally relax, eat what we wanted without checking labels and surprise surprise still felt like dancing despite not being drunk!

YABVU. It wouldn't kill you to take a vegan snack. You can set a timer on your phone for when you can eat dead animal products again.

Halzie · 05/05/2024 14:27

I think we are living in crazy times where people would get their back up so much about a babybel at a wedding.

ICanFixHim · 05/05/2024 14:29

We need to see the menu. If it seems like there's not going to be enough food then eat a bit breakfast and shove a flapjack in your bag.

Otherwise this just sounds like you are being deliberately goady by bringing dairy to a vegan wedding.

Illpickthatup · 05/05/2024 14:29

Oh yes, babybels, that well known filling snack. Have a day off. You're not going to die because you've had a few hours without animal products. If you were really that worried about the quantity of food there are plenty vegan snacks you could sneak in your bag but this clearly isn't your agenda.

Also, most weddings I've been to ask you to select options for the main meal but they also usually have canapes and an evening buffet as well which generally isn't detailed on the wedding invitation.