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Vegan wedding

319 replies

Babysharkdoodoodood · 05/05/2024 14:05

Would it be asshole-ish of me to smuggle babybels in my handbag?

The menu looks very tiny, and I don't intend to eat it in front of anyone, just find a dark corner. It's the only meal at the whole event.

I did think of peperami but it's vile and stinky.

OP posts:
Westfacing · 07/05/2024 11:21

The menu looks very tiny, and I don't intend to eat it in front of anyone, just find a dark corner. It's the only meal at the whole event.

What's on the menu?

100c · 07/05/2024 11:21

OP you sound stupid.

MrsSkylerWhite · 07/05/2024 11:27

@bloodyplumbing
It's pretty rude to impose your food choices on fully functioning adults that are able to make their own choices.
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How can my eating meat upset you?

It doesn’t because I’m not vegan or vegetarian. However, I wouldn’t deliberately upset my hosts, it’s just rude. If I were going to the wedding of Muslim friends, I wouldn’t take out a bottle of wine and have a swig, either, or a blt at the wedding of Jewish friends..

Its a question of manners. I’d question if an adult is in fact fully functioning if they are unable to desist from meat for a few hours without being upset about it.

MarioIa · 07/05/2024 11:28

welshycake · 05/05/2024 14:08

Oh come on. You could at least take a vegan flapjack or something. You wouldn't take a steak so why is a babybel ok. You clearly don't like or respect them so maybe you should just not go.

U wot m8? 🤣

notprincehamlet · 07/05/2024 11:42

The menu looks very tiny
Have you tried standing a bit closer?

ViveLaOeuf · 07/05/2024 11:47

notprincehamlet · 07/05/2024 11:42

The menu looks very tiny
Have you tried standing a bit closer?

🤣🤣🤣

Seriously OP just have a massive fry up before you go.

652needtogetup · 07/05/2024 11:58

What is the tiny menu, I'm intrigued? Is the assumption that vegans only eat tiny amounts of food? Are they secretly all French😉

Hagpie · 07/05/2024 14:43

Blueplantpots · 05/05/2024 16:05

I very much doubt the invite asked guests not to bring snacks 😂

That’s because bringing a snack is not an issue. I would have snacks in my bag to help my kids through all the waiting tbh. It’s what the snack is, that’s the problem. Especially as a baby bel isn’t very filling, it just looks like a grown woman trying too hard. If I did this it would be a memory that pops up before I go to sleep.

JudgeJ · 07/05/2024 14:50

You can't do without animal products for a few hours?

I assume you would make a similar comment to someone not wanting a non-vegan meal? No, thought not, it must be very windy up on the moral highground.

Allfur · 07/05/2024 14:55

It's probably not tiny, it's just not loads of pies and burgers or whatever op think constitutes 'a proper meal'

Runningbird43 · 07/05/2024 14:57

JudgeJ · 07/05/2024 14:50

You can't do without animal products for a few hours?

I assume you would make a similar comment to someone not wanting a non-vegan meal? No, thought not, it must be very windy up on the moral highground.

how would that work?

a vegan can’t go without plant based products for a few hours?

well yes, they could. But I’ve never seen a meal or food served where everything is solely meat. There’s usually a few “vegan” items on the menu- salad, vegetables, rice, pasta, bread etc.

non vegans do eat vegan food. Often. Daily in fact. They don’t have to starve because a meal doesn’t contain meat.

Greyheronsarethebest · 07/05/2024 14:58

Babysharkdoodoodood · 05/05/2024 14:05

Would it be asshole-ish of me to smuggle babybels in my handbag?

The menu looks very tiny, and I don't intend to eat it in front of anyone, just find a dark corner. It's the only meal at the whole event.

I did think of peperami but it's vile and stinky.

would it kill you to not eat animal products for one day? of course YABU!

feemcgee · 07/05/2024 15:00

I don't think it's the fact that there won't be animal products that's the issue. I was at a work event recently and the three courses were vegan - that wasn't the problem, it was the fact that there was barely any protein, so I wasn't filled up. The starter was basically mushed carrot. As long as there's pulses or tofu or something, I think it'll be ok.

LaMarschallin · 07/05/2024 15:12

Something like a spaghetti arrabiata, vegetable curry and bread or a bean chilli and rice would fill me perfectly adequately, despite me being an omnivore and therefore liable to sulk and get hangry if deprived of meat for a few hours.
If I was still famished it could be followed by a tarte tatin or a fruit crumble with custard perhaps.
If that sort of thing didn't satisy me I doubt a bloody Babybel would, not even combined with a Pepperami.

I'd love to see the proposed "tiny" menu, but suspect it'll never appear.

TunnocksOrDeath · 07/05/2024 19:55

I always take cereal bars to weddings. Lunch was served 2 hours late at the last one we attended, and a few years ago one of my oldest friends organised his in a rush because one of his family was extremely sick, and he forgot that some of the guests were vegetarian, so everyone was served beef. You can also use them to bribe toddlers to keep quiet during the ceremony if needed. They don't smell, and they don't go mushy or leak. Those trusty oaty goodies have done me proud over the years. Take cereal bars.

Starzinsky · 07/05/2024 20:10

The last couple of weddings I have been to, the weddings of well off couples they barely served any edible food and was starving by the end. I've come to realise that there is less focus on hosting these days, yes weddings are expensive but feeding guests is polite so I'm all for the pack lunch until someone convinces me there will be a feed.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 07/05/2024 20:28

Decades ago when I was pregnant I went to a very smart wedding. We stood around at the reception venue chatting over drinks and waiters and waitresses circulated with canapes. Very nice they were too, but I was looking forward to the sit down meal I assumed would follow. Eventually I said to another guest 'I wonder when the meal will be'. 'I think this is the meal'. she said. She was right. I got something on the way home.

Allfur · 07/05/2024 20:47

So that was decades ago....

Sharptonguedwoman · 07/05/2024 23:00

Allfur · 07/05/2024 20:47

So that was decades ago....

I went to one like this. The photos took hours, literally. There was nowhere to sit, a few canapés and a glass of fizz. Nothing else at all. Take supplies.

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