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Vegan wedding

319 replies

Babysharkdoodoodood · 05/05/2024 14:05

Would it be asshole-ish of me to smuggle babybels in my handbag?

The menu looks very tiny, and I don't intend to eat it in front of anyone, just find a dark corner. It's the only meal at the whole event.

I did think of peperami but it's vile and stinky.

OP posts:
Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 05/05/2024 16:02

AntisocialPotNoodle · 05/05/2024 15:57

Is this the wedding cake? How can a menu look tiny 😐

What a lovely little cake. I'll have six. <Misses point of thread.>

Hagpie · 05/05/2024 16:03

NoTouch · 05/05/2024 15:10

A snack that goes against the belief system of your host is just twattish.

Having a "belief system" that you inflict on others, making them uncomfortable, is twattish.

It’s an invitation not a summons. OP agreed to the rules when she accepted the invite.

Yes OP you are being a bit of an arse my love. Lots of yummy incidentally vegan to put in your purse.

Runningbird43 · 05/05/2024 16:05

WearyAuldWumman · 05/05/2024 15:16

It depends. I don't object to vegan food, but I've developed annoying food intolerances - possibly connected to a couple of really bad bouts of food poisoning when I was abroad.

I now have to follow a Fodmap diet or suffer the consequences. At lot of the vegetables that I used to love are no longer available to me and soya has become problematic. I'd have to have my cornflakes and oatmilk in the morning and maybe sneak a banana in with me.

Surely that would apply to any wedding or food though, not just vegan?

you do get vegetables, mushrooms etc at non vegan weddings. Meat is just a small portion of it.

NewStartNowish · 05/05/2024 16:05

You can take what you want.

I am not a vegetarian or a vegan, but it would be very easy for me to eat a vegan meal once in my life. Don’t be so inflexible!

Blueplantpots · 05/05/2024 16:05

Hagpie · 05/05/2024 16:03

It’s an invitation not a summons. OP agreed to the rules when she accepted the invite.

Yes OP you are being a bit of an arse my love. Lots of yummy incidentally vegan to put in your purse.

I very much doubt the invite asked guests not to bring snacks 😂

Luxell934 · 05/05/2024 16:07

Vegan/veggie food can be absolutely delicious! How about you try it before complaining? If it’s awful you can get a Big Mac on the way home or something.

WearyAuldWumman · 05/05/2024 16:10

Runningbird43 · 05/05/2024 16:05

Surely that would apply to any wedding or food though, not just vegan?

you do get vegetables, mushrooms etc at non vegan weddings. Meat is just a small portion of it.

True, though it's actually easier to find food that I can eat when there's meat. The one time I came a cropper was when I ate stovies that had too many onions for my stomach. Tried picking out the onions as best as I could. Didn't work.

I'm usually fine if I can eat meat, potatoes - and then pick through whatever vegetables are there. (Carrots are fine, thank goodness. Ditto tomatoes and capsicums.)

NewStartNowish · 05/05/2024 16:13

Anyone hosting anything is ‘inflicting’ some of their tastes on their guests. Vegans and vegetarians are just a bit more clear.

For some vegans, it would feel really unethical to supply animal products. I am really astonished that anyone would find that twattish.

As a meat-eater I would be fascinated by a vegan wedding and would embrace the opportunity. Not eating animal products for one meal is ok for the majority of people.

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 05/05/2024 16:15

Don't be so disrespectful. It's one night.

gingercat02 · 05/05/2024 16:18

Have a huge meat and egg heavy cooked breakfast and don't disrespect your friends' beliefs

Words · 05/05/2024 16:19

I would either have an enormous breakfast, or, get some of those small ice packs used for lunch bags ( if it's hot) and take whatever you like in your bag that you can eat cold.

Second the idea of those small packs of oatcakes. Ideal.

Be prepared to like what is on offer though. Would love to see the menu.

misscockerspaniel · 05/05/2024 16:29

viccat · 05/05/2024 14:16

Babybel does a vegan range now so you're OK.

Regardless, bringing snacks seems odd. Surely the meal can't be so tiny you would perish?

Have you eaten a vegan Babybel? I was so looking forward to trying them. Never again, they are vile imo.

Plant based cheese slices from Cathedral City, on the other hand, are great.

WhamBamThankU · 05/05/2024 16:43

Seems like you're just doing it to be a dick and make a point.

catlady7 · 05/05/2024 16:48

misscockerspaniel · 05/05/2024 16:29

Have you eaten a vegan Babybel? I was so looking forward to trying them. Never again, they are vile imo.

Plant based cheese slices from Cathedral City, on the other hand, are great.

I've had to go dairy free because my daughter has allergy and been told that's the only nice fake cheese.

Can't wait till I can go back diary.

catlady7 · 05/05/2024 16:49

Dairy*

needsomewarmsunshine · 05/05/2024 17:08

There are more vegan foods out there than peeps actually realise, it's not all tofu.
I'm vegan and tofu is gross imo.

LuckySantangelo35 · 05/05/2024 17:10

I think you’d look a bit greedy and strange to do this op

yes the food will be vegan but im sure there will be plenty of it.

do you not normally eat healthily? @Babysharkdoodoodood

LuckySantangelo35 · 05/05/2024 17:11

Words · 05/05/2024 16:19

I would either have an enormous breakfast, or, get some of those small ice packs used for lunch bags ( if it's hot) and take whatever you like in your bag that you can eat cold.

Second the idea of those small packs of oatcakes. Ideal.

Be prepared to like what is on offer though. Would love to see the menu.

@Words

why would you need to have an enormous breakfast?

the op has said that food will be provided at the wedding - did you miss that bit?

susiedaisy1912 · 05/05/2024 17:15

What's the menu op?

LuckySantangelo35 · 05/05/2024 17:16

MissFancyDay · 05/05/2024 15:59

Do people really worry this much about one meal. It's just so privileged.

My dear old Mum used to go on about "starving people in Africa" when I didn't eat up my dinner in the 60s, and we just ignored her. But really, It's just one meal.

I know right!

weddings do really bring out the gluttony in some people it seems

they receive an invite and all then they start to think about is FOOD FOOD FOOD

Pudmyboy · 05/05/2024 17:16

welshycake · 05/05/2024 14:08

Oh come on. You could at least take a vegan flapjack or something. You wouldn't take a steak so why is a babybel ok. You clearly don't like or respect them so maybe you should just not go.

Overreacting much??

Pudmyboy · 05/05/2024 17:19

Fanchester · 05/05/2024 14:25

Yes this would be dickish. You can survive a few hours without animal products so you’d only be doing it as a “fuck you” to your hosts. Better not to go than go and be such a big baby.

🙄

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 05/05/2024 17:20

A lot of people are assuming that the OP is only assuming she will be peckish because it's a vegan wedding. That may be so, but another possible interpretation is that she is thinking:

  • There's often not enough food at weddings and sometimes you're standing around for ages while the photos are taken. I'm going to need something to keep me going till the meal.
  • What can I take in my bag that will keep me going? Does it matter that my snack of choice is not vegan?

Not quite the same as most people here are assuming.

SleepingStandingUp · 05/05/2024 17:22

Impossible to tell without timings and the menu op

Pudmyboy · 05/05/2024 17:26

notprincehamlet · 05/05/2024 15:40

Could you wear the babybels as earrings? Hidden in plain sight. Maybe fashion a brooch out of a pasty? And a marmalade sandwich under your hat?

Or in her handbag like the late Queen did with Paddington Bear