To want to be consulted about DP's 8 Y/O DS being at the birth?

[PeedOffandPg]

She will be here for hols and there is no one else to look after her. Her mother is coming up with her and then going the next day and leaving her for five days.
He just assumes she will be there and be fine with it. But HE NEVER ASKED ME HOW I FEEL ABOUT IT.
I approached it today, asking if she will be fine seeing a birth. His response was, as I knew it would be, totally defensive. "I know my own daughter, if you dont want her there, she wont be, but neither will I"
His "issues" stem from thinking I want to do everything my way (long story)
BUT THIS IS MY DAY and I want to be put first. I think the visit should have waited till after I gave birth.
You know, the idea of her being there for her little sister's birth - that I am fine with.
But I am not fine with the fact that he didnt ask me how I feel about it. AIBU???

Good luck

Can't comment on the rest, he seems lower than mud but only you can make your own decisions on that. But it can be done on your own, don't forget that!
Fingers crossed for ya

Is there any news from peedoff as i notice she hadnt posted since fri - hipe everything is going ok........

I've been watching this thread too. I think she was being induced on Monday, so hopefully gave birth on either Monday or Tuesday, first baby so probably 2 nights in hospital these days? Home Thurs or Friday I guess?

any word from peedoff?

HELLO everyone.
my gorgeous DD arrived on Sunday thus solving the problem for me. i got the hospital staff involved and they made excuses to keep me in till today so that i could bond with my DD in peace. it also gave them time to set up a support system for me re HVs etc. I cant tell you any more because of RL people who might read this, but i am fine and completely blissed witb being a new mum. Dp was brilliant birth partner but feel this hs damaged our relationship permanently.

just wanted you all to know what your support meant to me. Thank you. x

congratulations on the safe arrival of DD

Congratulations - have been following this thread.

Congratulations of the birth of your daughter! So glad all went well, have been thinking of you XXXX

Congratulations on the safe arrival of dd. Enjoy her and stay strong.

Congratulations on the birth of your daughter!

oh great news. Have also followed your thread. Well done

Congratulations! Your new dd will clearly be a diplomat in later on in life.

Hope your dp finally appreciates what a complete twat he's been.

Oh, many congratulaions on the birth of your DD. I am so happy for you.

Congratulations on the birth of your daughter.

Have been following your thread, glad it all went to plan in the end.

Awww congratulations - i have logged on at work today twice just in case of an annoucement from you. Many congrats and i hope everything works out well for you x

Congratulations ...... hope in spite of all that's happened you can at least enjoy the 1st few precious months with your newborn.

(the talk can come later ...... by then I hope your DP might have come to his senses and be man enough to beg your forgiveness).

Congratulations ...... hope in spite of all that's happened you can at least enjoy the 1st few precious months with your newborn.

(the talk can come later ...... by then I hope your DP might have come to his senses and be man enough to beg your forgiveness).

oh congratulations! How wonderful!
One piece of advice- don't have the conversation for a while- mummy brain will definitely take over and you may not be able to think rationally. Feel free to ignore my advice, of course . SO pleased

Am with suey2,don't say anything until you're sure. I still don't feel out of the mummybrain stage 18m on! Many many congratulations!

Congratulations! Enjoy your lovely dd

and really pleased for you, congrats!

So pleased for you.

Please get in touch though when you are feeling up to it - it would be great to meet for a coffee.

wonderful news - had been thinking of you
Take care