If money was no object would you leave?

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DH and I were discussing a couple we know who are not very happily married. Of course, we don't know the intricacies, and they 'jog along' but chatting between us we wondered if they stay more for the nice house/business etc, as don't really seem to like each other very much from things they say to us, and regularly threatening to leave (but never do)

It got me wondering how many people would actually leave their spouse if they came into a large sum of money so there's no financial difficulties to encounter going it alone. I'm guessing a lot.

Would you?

No definitely not

No.

No!

I'm not sure about married couples but I suspect a big percentage of co-habiters do so for financial reasons.

No, I love him dearly, if I wasn't happy I would leave regardless of money.

No I wouldn't leave, but I'd improve both our lives if I came into a vast amount of money.

I wonder if a lot stay in unhappy, unfullfilling marriages because of the fear of going it alone financially. Some probably simply can't afford to go. Sad that money dictates lives really and people are forced to stay and be miserable.

Yes

No, not at all. The extra money would just mean we would be free to do more of the things we enjoy together.

Same.

I wouldn’t leave because I would be financially secure but if I won the lottery and could ensure he was I would leave.

God no. I'll love this man poor and I'll love this man rich.

Yes

I think the more interesting and related question is:

Do you think people staying for financial reasons are exchanging their limited life time and intimacy for financial gain?

Because that's what I can't understand tbh

If there's no abuse or dangers that would stop a woman from leaving and she chooses to stay because nice house and money, it seems to me that shes just selling her limited time on earth and physical intimacy for money?

I couldn't do that. I didn't do that. I'd rather be alone and poverty stricken than stay for the money.

If you have children do you think they would rather you be alone and poverty stricken?
I don't think most women stay 'for the nice house' for themselves, they are trying to ensure their children get the best start possible in life.

I do have a kid

I have always believed that a happy poor single parent is better than two miserable wealthy parents.

At times money and my big house has kept me in my marriage (I do work but I don't make enough alone to keep up my standard of living)

Once the children came along, there were times when I stayed because I did not want to upset their lifestyles/security

However - I kept all these thoughts to myself, worked hard on identifying what was wrong with me and made an extra effort with my husband

We are far from perfect but I wouldn't want to be anywhere else

Yes, but I'm in the situation that I'm the higher earner, so the money would let me buy him out of our house. It's not always the case that the woman is the financial dependent.

I would see if the money helped first - I think it would, there would be much less stress and more enjoyment. There's a saying, something like, when money troubles arrive, love leaves or similar.

Not a chance.

The way our capitalist society is set up means it would be naive not to assume loads of couples are plodding on because it's not financially viable to split. Especially in 2024 when things are tighter than ever for so many.

Many are probably indifferent to the relationship rather than actively miserable but remain together because it's easier than the alternative.

No I wouldn't leave, I would share my good fortune with him and our children.

I have single parent friends and they don't just struggle, they survive. Only just.

They don't seem very happy to me.

No. In fact if money was no object any issues we do have wouldn't exist. We're generally very happy.

Absolutely not