If money was no object would you leave?

[Springtime111]

DH and I were discussing a couple we know who are not very happily married. Of course, we don't know the intricacies, and they 'jog along' but chatting between us we wondered if they stay more for the nice house/business etc, as don't really seem to like each other very much from things they say to us, and regularly threatening to leave (but never do)

It got me wondering how many people would actually leave their spouse if they came into a large sum of money so there's no financial difficulties to encounter going it alone. I'm guessing a lot.

Would you?

I had a huge inheritance which I could have kept to myself but no, I stayed with my H and shared it with him cause I quite like him.

This is true in my case. If I could afford to I'd rather still be living apart. I'm in my 50's though and spent 11 years living on my own post divorce and only realised now how much I loved it!

I'm happy with my partner, but would prefer my own space

I’ll be out of the door the second I have enough money coming in.
IRL I know loads of women who feel the same as I do. Stuck because of finances.

often staying for the kids can be an excuse because the couple are too scared to separate tho. It was for my parents

I wouldn't leave, but I'd buy my own little bolthole that I could escape to from time to time...

Oh I’d share the good fortune, but I’d also celebrate that the good fortune allowed me to leave!

The best way to find out is to earn plenty of your own money so that you can be sure you are staying because you want to, not because you have to.

No.
Money isnt really an issue here anymore, we have more than enough, so no, is the answer.
We been broke as hell and we were still happy.
Now we are fairly well off, and still as happy, just no money worries.

No, but I do understand your question, as I see a lot of threads on here where women are in bad situations, abuse, cheating, unhappy, and I’d say nine times out of ten they ultimately reveal they can’t leave as they have no money.

im also sure a lot of people stay foe the lifestyle and fear of being alone.

I’m a single mum and I’m happy and so are my daughters. We manage fine

I’d think it’s more likely to happen if you are married, given how expensive divorce is!

But no, I adore my partner and I’d totally want to share the financial windfall with him.

Well that's fair enough! and if I was still with vile first husband he wouldn't have seen me for dust!

I don’t agree with this. At all. It’s an excuse a best start in life is a happy home. Not two parents who don’t wish to be together,

I see it a lot, I’m staying foe the kids. No no they aren’t. They are staying ultimately as that’s what they wish for themselves. Or they’d fuck off out of it when the kids went to secondary.

No. I think one of the main strains is the fact that we both work full time yet still have no money for any fun. Haven't had a holiday for 8 years, weekends seem to be spent catching up with household chores, life admin and shopping, and it all feels like a relentless grind. If we had the money he could actually pay privately to have the op he needs in order to be fully mobile and able to enjoy life and be more active. Instead he has to wait til he is completely immobile and older before the NHS will do a knee replacement op. Consequently, because he can't move easily, he's putting on weight, which exacerbates the problem.

No. I adore him.

No - if money was no object we'd have a great time.

No

My life wouldn't change financially, so no, money would never be our reason to split. I stay through love.

No definitely not.
Dh did come into quite a bit of money recently and the first thing he told me to do was for me to plan something great for us. (I'm the chief events organiser in our house!)
With the rest of the money he let me decide what to do with it.

I'm more than happy as a single parent, in Fact, I'm thriving.

That's a shame.

I'm absolutely happy.

I have my own space. I don't have to adjust what I do or where I go or accept any issues that a partner may bring.

Our house may only had us 2 & pets.
But it's full of laughter and fun. There's no arguing, no anger, no pouting adult child that we have to manage the responses of.

Personally and speaking just for me..

There is not a house big enough that I'd walk on eggshells for.
There is not a bank account full enough that I'd spend my life worrying about the responses of another adult.
There are no fancy meals, holidays or cars or any other purchasable crap that I would put over having my daughters home be full of fun and laughter.

Now maybe one day I'll meet someone that brings fun and laughter, but, they'd have to be damned near perfect for me to even entertain them.

No ( unless I was considering it anyway) buy I'd move to a house where we could have separate rooms. Or buy him his own house.

This is very sad, I assume that’s your experience.? I am married, we don’t walk on eggshells. Or spend time worrying. And our home is full of love, comfort and laughter. Is your impression now that’s what is like in all relationships?