Would you fight for your man?

[IAmThe1AndOnly]

Conversation with DP about people who become attracted to someone else during the relationship.
He said that if he ever became attracted to someone else surely I would fight for him? I laughed and said that if that happened she would be welcome to him.
He seemed surprised, god knows why given he knows I have never been the type to feel I need a man.

So would you?

Nope. If they want to be with someone else, let them. I'd rather be with someone else wine who genuinely wants to be either me.

Once upon a time maybe. Now no. I dont think people should fight for one another. If someone is going to walk away I can't make them stay. Working through issues together - yes.

Nope I’d have the same reaction as you.

@ASighMadeOfStone
😆 'I'm neither 14 nor in Eastenders' 😆

She’d be bloody welcome to have him in my opinion 😄

I didn't. The prat actually told me that if I "fought for" him, he'd come back. I just laughed in his face and told him she was welcome to him as I couldn't be arsed with his nonsense anymore.

Not unless that man is George Clooney (when he was Dr Ross in ER specifically) then no. Even then I probably wouldn’t, but that’s the only time it would even cross my mind.

Not a chance! If DH decided that he wanted to throw away our marriage/ home/ family for another woman let him off. I can flippantly say that because the chances are slim to none. If he ever leaves me it'll be for cold feet in bed

i have never been in the psoition - been with dh since we were teens, but both my sister and mum have
I find it soooo hard that they both tried to "win" them back, neither of the fellas were worth it - i mean my dad had a whole other family going 😡
But then I have my entire life with dh, do i want to give it/him up? no so would i fight? i actually dont know

I'm with you op. I'd fight for him if I thought he was in danger, but if he's attracted to another woman, id like to think id tell him to 'do one'

Not anymore
They are just not worth it Arsehole crap types of men like that for sure,

I would hope he would contract a severe sexually transmitted disease like syphilis or and Gorenhillua or something 🤔

or

he Girlfriend eventually does dirty on him too..

Or

be hoping he would Have a nightmare new next door neighbour move in cause stress issues etc

A boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend tried to fight me for him. Silent phone calls to him, to me, her friends ringing up.

He thoroughly enjoyed it. I was disgusted and embarrassed. It was like being chased and snapped at by a dachshund while trying to mind your own business. You still look ridiculous even if you’re not engaging and the dachshund still thinks it’s having an effect.

thank god I’m ugly and old now.

No.

For his health, his safety, his wellbeing, his rights... absolutely.
If he wants to go chasing other women, he's welcome to do so but I'd be saying good riddance.

100% agree with this.

When STBXH confessed an affair I told him she was welcome to him and his moods. I prepped and sold the house so fast his head was spinning.

I think he fully expected me to do the pick me dance and would have enjoyed the triangulation, so I refused to participate in it.

I’m not giving anyone the opportunity to tell me twice that they don’t want me.

Nope. I don't beg to wanted. Either you do or you don't.

😆 'I'm neither 14 nor in Eastenders' 😆

Good lord no. The kind of man who wants women to fight for him is not the kind of man I want in my life.

Nope. Got a fuckton of self respect.
Can't stand hearing about people begging people to stay

I've seen this sort of thing happen. A woman I worked with seemed to feel that she had the right to still be with her ex even though he had moved on with someone else. She would turn up to places they both were and would go up to his new gf and shove her.

The second hand embarrassment I got from these stories was awful.

Would I fight for my man…

I’m too busy bent double wheeze laughing and trying not to wee.

No honey. I know my worth.

No and I never have.

When I was divorcing my ex, someone actually asked me ‘aren’t you going to fight for the marriage?’ and I said ‘why on Earth would I do that? He doesn’t want to be with me’.

Going back to an ex who has cheated, must feel like a dog returning to its 💩

It never seems to work long term, when people do that. Fighting doesn't automatically make someone want to be with you, nor does it oblige them to behave in a way conducive to making a relationship work.

So I can't see the point.

I agree with you op but I'd have to ask him if he'd "fight" for me off the back of that conversation and see what he says.

This reminds me of a somewhat similar conversation I had with an egotistical ex. He asked that if he died, how long before I started dating again. I mused outloud how I would need a new haircut and clothes. Hmmm I said, 3 days. His nose was well out of joint.

I digress. No fighting from me.