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She calls him work dad - but getting weird??

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Anastasia2 · 28/04/2024 09:02

My partner started a new job 6 months ago..he is co partnering in his friend's business so technically management.

A girl who's a friend of partners friend (sorry if that's confusing!) Also works there..she's just literally turned 18.

She adopted the name work dad for DP. this seemed quite cute, innocent at first.
Our daughter is 16 so my partner can have this caring, dad nature. Which I get..he had always come across as caring and eager to help out.
However, recently he just non stop talks about her :( it's making me uncomfortable.. he is giving her frequent lifts as well..although no fault of her own.she does live quite far from.the office and recently failed her driving test so it appears she is desperate to drive and maybe DP is just doing it temporarily? I just don't know what to think? Is "working dad" an innocent name/gesture?
I can't make out if she likes him?! I know that sounds terrible but I feel like they've definitely become closer..he is planning for our 16 year old DD to work in the businesses cafe/office after her GCSEs alongside with this current "work daughter" so he has been encouraging their friendship and gone with dd to help her out once..I took this as a good sign that he purposely brought dd with him as it made it look quite innocent
I just don't know if I'm overreacting or is this him displaying a liking to her. Which in my eyes is pretty disgusting.
Also, she doesn't have a dad..her father died a few years ago which Dp Will mention to me if I try to say anything against the relationship.
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OP posts:
icelollycraving · 01/05/2024 07:53

He wants her to call him daddy alright. Grim.

ScrumpleDumplin · 01/05/2024 19:36

BarbarasRhabarberBar · 28/04/2024 11:43

I think this reads perfectly as an appropriate work dad!

I would give lifts if they were required but I'd be making sure everyone knew it was a platonic relationship.

I wouldn’t, for context, an ex of mine was stopped at some traffic lights at a busy intersection and two young teenage girls In school uniform jumped in the car and told him he had to take them anywhere they wanted because if he didn’t they’d report him. He rightly refused to move his car until they got out, complete strangers and around the 15/16 age mark he guessed. I think boundaries are imported but he has a responsibility as does she to put them in place for them both. I was 18, we all were, and I personally think 18 is too young to understand enough, whatever the situation from her side. Boundaries definitely appear to be missing here.

Sorry OP you’re in this pickle of a head”f”.
I hope you make the right decision for you, and things get easier ultimately as a result. Good luck.

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