Would you go next door if baby is in bed?

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Next door neighbour has invited me a round for a glass of wine. DS will be in bed next door I have camera on his room so I can see him.

Would you go or not? Or does it feel to much like a Madeline McCann situation.

DS is 2

And the mother of the year award goes to the woman who puts going next door for a glass of wine before the welfare of her baby! NOT.

Either your neighbour comes to you or you don't go.

Well for arguments sake, if you are talking about 1 in a million chance things happening then in theory there is a risk of being at home alone and dying or losing consciousness.and nobody finding you until too late, baby is no better off. I know someone who had a heart attack and the pan caught fire and house completely burned down. No baby in the house though.

But honestly OP, I would not feel comfortable. It is not logical as you are far away in the same house often, but it is just a feeling of it not being right.

Thinking about my set up, I wouldn't consider this a significant risk. Next door have come running to check we're ok when our fire alarm has gone off, and you can hear every cough between houses.

We have a door from our conservatory into their garden, so I'd leave that unlocked to quickly nip back in if I saw or heard anything on the monitor.

Of course, they're teetotal Muslims who are currently battling their own daughter's bedtime, so might be a bit miffed if I tried to pop round for wine, but it's a very different matter to the other nextdoor neighbour, detached, no adjoining garden gate etc.

What about a cream egg?

Absolutely not - invite the neighbour and their wine to your house or decline the invitation.

Oh behave 🤣

100% definitely not. Can't believe you've even entertained the idea😂🫣

Of course not!!! I'm gobsmacked that you actually feel the need to ask this.

I probably wouldn’t myself BUT what’s the difference being next door in two small terraced houses with a camera app than being the other side of a massive house?

What if there was a fire downstairs the cameras didn't show and it was too late to get back in the house and upstairs before anyone noticed?

You're all absolutely insane. Actually makes me question the type of people that are allowed children when this can even cross someone's mind.

I would, surely it's the same as me being in my own garden if it's literally next door or if my house was just a extra big house?? If the camera is working and your checking it out a lot then I don't see the issue. Doesn't even relate to mcaan because you have a camera and they didnt

Then again I don't drink, very against drinking especially when I'm sole caretaker of a child sooooo I wouldn't partake in drinking just coffee

I thought he was going to be 12 or something but 2!!! No that’s madness

Nobody's saying those things couldn't happen, but if you fall ill in your own home, nobody is going to be accusing you of child neglect or asking you why you thought it was acceptable to leave your 2yo home alone for a glass of wine.

It's not always about the level of risk, but the consequences.

Yes, I would. When my kids were small, I'd often sit in my neighbours garden on a summer evening after they went to bed.

There could be a fire in my house in thr middle of the night while we sleep.

Honestly, i never realised before this thread how panicked people are about a small chance of a fire randomly breaking out the moment i choose to leave the house. I can honestly say a fire starting in my house never crosses my mind

Absolutely not. If there's a fire or intruder it needs to be you in between the threat and your child. No use being next door and having to run past the danger to get to your child.

If they started choking on their own vomit how long would it take you to get there, or if they had a night terror, what if you didn't have the volume loud enough on the camera. I wouldn't even go out in my garden at my house becuase it's too far from their bedroom. My new house is a bungalow so I probably would, with the door open and sat next to the door so I could hear them.

If something out of your control happens to you and you're unable to look after your child that's one thing. Choosing to be next door and something happening to your child is neglect.

Anyone else remember the kid that got ripped to shreds by the dog, mum was only next door.

I would if terraced/semi-detached AND you have a video monitor AND you're sure that your fire alarm is working. I mean, you'd probably hear the baby through the wall without having to rely on the monitor anyway.

I am generally quite risk-averse, but I'd feel relatively comfortable with this. You're essentially in an adjoining room

But what about the risk of having a glass of wine whilst in charge of a child!

Agreed.

I might worry about leaving the Christmas tree lights on, the tumble dryer on, a candle, something in the oven as fire risks…

But the likelihood of something just exploding is pretty slim.

you’d rather leave a baby alone than invite the neighbour to yours? Bizarre. But no, I wouldn’t do it.

Lots of neglectful parents justifying themselves ITT.

Why is it neglectful?

Child asleep in own bed at own home as usual, usual time and bedtime routine. Visible at all times to parent on monitor. Audible at all times to parent on monitor. Parent probably only a few metres away.

Doesn’t sound very neglectful to me.

No.

If you can’t see that - there’s no hope. I have zero time for neglectful behaviour so will not respond to your @