To think there's never an excuse for not offering to take your shoes off in someone's home?

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If you're a guest ( not working, I.e in a profession where you go into someone's house ) aibu to think there is never, ever an excuse to not at least offer to take your shoes off in someone's home? My mind is always blown when someone comes to mine and leaves them on,

Yabu - I keep my shoes on
Yanbu - I take them off

I'm with you on this one OP. I always offer to take my shoes off in someone else's house. In fact I don't even ask. I do it out of habit.
I think it's very rude to not even offer!
I've always been brought up not to wear shoes in the house.
Although when people have asked if they need to take their shoes off, I end up saying no... but inside I want to say yes lol

Why do you need our opinions for this?

It's your house, you don't like it so guests have to take their shoes off. Others don't mind.

Get a grip and get on with your life.

How often do you have police or Ambulance in your house? The Emergency is going to over take the carpet getting dirty i imagine 😂

I always take my shoes off, and i ask people who come into my house to as well
We have grey carpets and dont want people walking around in shoes in my home

Shoe covers are near the front door if they prefer, i always ask trades People to use shoe covering , Sky man, Electrician, British Gas Engineer and ALL of them have actually had there own. So it is very common

I always take my shoes off when entering anyones house
For those of you who dont and have babies in the house, does it not concern you that some bird / dog poo can be on your carpet ?

Mumsnet never fails to surprise me

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Try this again…there’s faecal matter all over the place, I hate to break it to you.

Just ask them.

People who are as precious about their carpets may be the reason mumsnet doesn’t answer the door to anyone….

but in all seriousness, as a wheelchair user, am I expected to take my wheels off?

I always offer to remove shoes as it's disrespectful to do otherwise. I guess if the floor was filthy I wouldn't, but that scenario hasn't come up.

I'd never ask a visitor to take their shoes off, however, and always tell them it's fine if they offer to remove their shoes (though some insist on removing shoes).

Yanbu

Certainly not enough to make people wear blue plastic bags on their feet or have a sign at the door telling people to fuck off.

You dont have to tell people to Fuck off
Just ‘Do you mind taking your shoes off’

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Well obviously that is very different isnt it

and the thread isnt asking
‘Would you let a wheelchair in your house’ or do you ask Emergency service people to take their shoes off as these are completely different circumstances

Its literally asking about people taking their shoes off

No, you don't. But we've already had someone on thread who has a sign telling people to take their shoes off or fuck off.

Personally, I care more about the comfort of the person who is visiting than whether they have a microscopic piece of dirt on them. Life is for enjoying, not flapping about flooring.

Honestly I’d never dream of walking round on someone’s carpets in my outdoor shoes! So rude! A lot of people are houseproud and don’t want bits of dirt and mud walked into their floor. Grim. If you do this - you are rude as hell.

Did you see the post where someone had a photo of a doormat saying exactly that? That's what's being referred to.

Err, no you're not, not if it isn't the norm where you live. I'd find it very rude if someone took their shoes off in my house. I don't want to see their socks, tights or worse, bare feet, and I am not supplying slippers for other people to wear. My unit has very uninspired low-pile grey carpet and tiles, and stains from my mother spilling her tea years ago, and I wouldn't expect anyone to be so precious about the flooring as to take their shoes off. It's just not a thing here in Australia.

I was joking. But it’s not really that different. If shoes are filthy so are my wheels.

It doesn’t make anyone rude, it just means they have a different cultural norm to you. Please try to open your mind a little and understand that what is normal to you may not be to other people.

Also the thread heading says ‘there is NEVER an excuse…’ which is directly relevant to my situation where I’d say I have a very valid ‘excuse’ for not taking off my shoe.

As i said
Its about SHOES so its completely different being in a wheelchair!
You have no choice

This is about people taking their shoes off, lets not make it about anything else !

Have a little light hearted sign

often on these threads posters who express the extreme position “never and excuse” row back immediately as soon as disability is mentioned saying off course they did not mean people who are disabled. Here the OP told a poster she was taking things too literally.

i hate the underlying message to people who are less physically able that we are not part of mainstream society, a category apart. I have a disability that means I wear a small brace. My disability is not always obvious and you may not know about it.

If someone asks me to take off my shoes I will explain as my legs are different lengths so one side on tiptoe when sock/bare foot. I don’t offer or explain when I arrive I hate my disability and am embarrassed by the difference and not just being able to kick off my shoes (working on self acceptance).

It’s pretty crap knowing some people are silently judging - just ask if it bothers you.

I'll never understand Mumsnet, apparently it's gross to not rinse plates after washing up, it's gross to not shower at least once a day, it's gross to not wash your clothes after every wear but outdoor shoes in the house is perfectly normal and you're weird if you worry about ruined carpets, dog shit and piss from public toilets over your nice carpet. I like to sit on my carpet. I like my carpet without stains. I paid good money for it so want it to last as long as possible. Obviously people in wheelchairs and with disabilities are welcome to leave shoes on/come on in, but if you are fully able to remove shoes with no cost to your health and wellbeing I do expect and ask for shoes off (fungal feet isn't really as common as most make out, and with socks no issue) My childhood home was shoes off, my husbands was too, most people I visit it's shoes off. I'm not even an uptight person. I just like my carpets to look good and last long, and after having a child I realised it's pretty gross to not have clean carpets. I find it extremely rude and lacking in manners for someone not to offer. And if I got the side eye then tbh I'd think you were a bit immature and not really my type of person and therefore not welcome. I don't think it's a bit ask. Most trades people offer to remove shoes. I must live in an area where being polite is important.