To think there's never an excuse for not offering to take your shoes off in someone's home?

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If you're a guest ( not working, I.e in a profession where you go into someone's house ) aibu to think there is never, ever an excuse to not at least offer to take your shoes off in someone's home? My mind is always blown when someone comes to mine and leaves them on,

Yabu - I keep my shoes on
Yanbu - I take them off

Like the op I'm stunned. It's just polite. I feel like everyone was dragged up

I feel like you're anal. This just doesn't happen where I live!

You are Mrs. Hinch and I claim my £5

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@Littleporkpie It's just polite. I feel like everyone was dragged up

No, it's about making people feel comfortable in your home.
If you're not comfortable with people wearing shoes in your home, then ask them to remove them. What's the problem?
OP's response of my mind is always blown when someone comes to mine and leaves them on, seems a bit of an over-reaction

@MistyGreenAndBlue You are Mrs. Hinch and I claim my £5

I'm so upset I've missed the actual point of the thread - and really gutted I could have won the £5!😭

Shoes on here. YABVU, OP.

I don't understand the outdoor dirt on shoes argument. Don't you people ever sit down outside? Or touch things?

I would sit on a wall while waiting for a bus (or if desperate, on those 'seats' at bus stops.) I would go on the climbing frame and slides with my kids at the park. I would sit on the sand or a rock at the beach. I sit on the steps in my garden or on the grass. I sit on picnic benches at all sorts of places. They're all covered in outdoor germs, potentially, just as much as pavements and paths are - bird shit and mouse pee and dog pee on the beach and grass for sure and quite possibly human pee or spit from the bus stop or kerb.

But you won't ask me to take my trousers off in your house will you? Or will you?!

As a child and now as an adult, I've always lived in a no shoes home. However, we don't ask visitors remove their shoes as we don't have carpets downstairs and it's easy enough to keep clean.

In saying that, I have friends with pristine homes and lovely carpets and I wouldn't dream of showing them and their homes the disrespect of walking over them in my shoes.

Think of autumn/winter time... Dog shit is battered by the rain which then causes it to mix with the rainwater which runs over footpaths which you then walk through 🤢 I don't think you get this on your trousers so you are probably safe to keep them on. Shoes also get muddier than trousers. For me, it's just a question of respect. Some people give a shit, other people plainly do not.

When I see the dirt I regularly mop off my laminate floors, I think having carpets is gross, whether you take your shoes off or not. I don’t think your house is as clean as you think it is OP.

In my mums side of the family it’s very rude to take shoes off. Granny’s house was always immaculate but shoes definitely on. They were quite posh in London. Dad’s side was more flexible. Do all the definite shoes off people not have pets? I’m pretty chilled but we have a dog and I’m capable of cleaning (good mop and vax machine are very handy). Although, I’ve never had to chase after someone due to keeping shoes on except when dh walked through the house in his wellies on the hard floor after although through the fields 🙄

Depends what kind of shoes and what kind of home. Slip ons without socks stay on, but boots where socks are worn come off in a carpeted (working class) home.
The big posher homes I've visited are strictly shoes on - unless they are wellies!
Most of us with carpets have vacuum cleaners and carpet washers, so it doesn't really matter. Carpets need washing once a month anyway.

Yes, there seem to be a lot of OTT germaphobes on MN.

Because lots of people's houses are absolutely skanky and I don't want my feet or sock to touch their floors.

Very rude to expect anyone to remove their shoes. If you have a high quality carpet or wooden flooring it certainly is not necessary.

It’s not the cultural norm in the UK to take shoes off in the house.
If you want people to take off their shoes, ask. Most will oblige.
But no, they don’t need to offer to, or do so automatically.

I feel awkward offering, like I’m being overfamiliar. End up just sort of hovering…

It just isn’t that deep; no one is trying to insult you by not offering.

Do all the definite shoes off people not have pets?

Maybe they have little booties for the pups to wear?

I have never offered to take my shoes of in someone's home. If someone wants me to then I expect them to ask, but I have been in very few homes where it has been expected. I actually think it is weird to expect others to take their shoes off - it's easy enough to clean a floor on the rare occasion a bit of mud might find its way in. I want my home to be welcoming, not an immaculate showhome where people feel uncomfortable.

Yes, taking your shoes off in someone else's house feels way too familiar to me. Shoes off for me is in my house, it's for relaxing when I'm in my space.

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I definitely wouldn't if they had pets. I wouldn't want the pet hair etc on my socks.

You're being ridiculous. I hate feet and do not ever want to see them bare in my house. I only just put up with people wearing Birkenstocks or slides. Keep them covered, and not just in socks. I clean my floors regularly and do not roll on them, sleep on them, or eat food off them, so I do not care if people walk on them with shoes on. In fact, I'd rather the shoes than bare, sweaty, fungusy, stinky feet on my floors. Blergh!

Hate taking my shoes off in peoples homes especially those who have tiled floor everywhere. I find it really slippery. Also I don’t always wear socks in the summer and don’t like leaving sweaty footprints