Clothing in the gym

[Sapiens]

I have seen this going around - do you agree with him?

I think I do, I really don't understand the current trend of ridiculously small shorts shoved right into arse cracks and bandeau bras for working out.

I go to the gym 2/3 times a week and feel no need to dress like this.

Or, are they just 'dressing for themselves?'

Wow no if he can’t control himself he needs another hobby

“bandeau bras”? That’s a bit silly for working out. Do people really wear them? Or maybe they’re more secure than I’d think.

I’m sure cycling shorts and a cropped tshirt would have been a bit alarming to people in the 1950s, so I guess time just moves on. Are bodies themselves that shocking? We don’t get upset if we see someone in a swimsuit.

I always wear whatever I want to wear in any place I go, and the only man I am “inviting” to have sexual thoughts about me is my partner.

I'd be mortified if my husband expected women to cover up because he couldn't control his gaze and sexual thoughts 🤢

Honestly sometimes it's just easier to work out in shorts and a small top. Less restriction, not so warm. A lot of men wear shorts and vest tops basically hanging off them to work out. They show a load of skin and surprise surprise women manage to control themselves.

It’s odd, isn’t it, that plenty of men wear nothing but a skimpy pair of trunks when they go swimming, or will even happily walk around topless in summer in the street, and yet women seem to manage not to take this as an invitation to gaze at and lech over their bare chests and stomachs and legs.

I wear a sports bra and trunks when I work out. I don’t give a fuck who finds it “distracting”, I’m there to do my workout in the way that’s coolest and most comfortable for me. Anyone who can’t handle seeing women in gym wear which covers far in excess of what men think is acceptable for their own bodies shouldn’t go to the gym.

He's the issue there - he's not being invited to look at all. If he can't control himself because someone is showing skin then he needs to get out of a public gym and exercise in his home.

Those clothes are perhaps less restrictive? People might enjoy wearing them? Who cares - they're gym clothes being worn in the gym.

Control himself how? Afaik he didn't do anything?

Well if you’re wearing scrunch shorts and a bra to the gym, then presumably you know that people will look at you and are pretty comfortable about that. This guy isn’t saying “they’re wearing this and I can’t control myself”, he’s just saying “they look hot and it makes me uncomfortable” - yes it’s his problem but personally if I was him, I wouldn’t worry too much. If you’re wearing a sexy outfit then people will look.

E we Omen fo not have to dress in a way that men don’t feel they want to look. It is not up to women to control men’s urges.
Having said that, there is appropriate clothing / and I don’t really want to look at sweaty arm hair and nether regions outlines either. Which is my problem.
but mostly, I don’t want arse sweat on the workout machines…

Oh and I agree that in an ideal world women would wear whatever they liked, walk around in their underwear and people shouldn’t look. But the truth is, they will. As long as they aren’t being gross about it, it’s not too much of a drama surely.

Well he’s comparing some woman minding her own business in the gym to a porn star. Which if I thought some strange bloke was doing to me I’d be pretty horrified. He doesn’t need to assault her in the changing room to be a pig, thinking of women as porn stars and them presumably entering into his thought whilst his knocking one out is pretty grim too.

I lift heavy AF weights in summer with no aircon or fan, I wear what I want.

Never seen anyone in a strapless bra.

Obviously I agree women shouldn't be expected to cover up, men should work on controlling themselves

Apart from one thing - the scrunched bum leggings scrunch around the anus and separate the butt cheeks into a giant peach with the anus highlighted

I'm a woman who is straight and doesn't do anal and I still can't help noticing/thinking of horrible anal porn when I see this

There has to be a middle ground where we're more respectful to everyone. We wouldn't work out in stockings/suspenders and a basque so why are we wearing anal porn clothes 🤷‍♀️

The perfect answer to this is women should wear whatever they like and men should LEAVE US THE FUCK ALONE

But when I was having the clothing conversations with my teenage girls years ago I told them they could wear what they like but I encouraged them to think about how they kept themselves safe and how they could cope with the impact of leering white van drivers if they wore butt cheek hot pants

I think I can safely say, whatever I am wearing, even if I’m prancing around in nipple tassels and not much else, I am not inviting this man to gaze on me in a sexual manner. So if he is confused by my outfit, he shouldn’t be…there is no fucking invite here mate.

So men aren't allowed to find women attractive? And not even look?

Seems weird given that's pretty much entirely why we're all here

This is so stupid.

I find people attractive. I don’t post about it on Reddit blaming them for making me look at them and it being very wrong of them to be so attractive because I’m married.

I went to a lido last weekend. There were plenty of men wandering around in shorts, some of which were quite small and tight.

Funnily enough I managed to not think about them in a sexual way or compare them to soft porn.

Have also never seen anyone in a strapless bra in the gym

Why does it bother you? Just wear what you want and focus on your own workout.

And I can safely say, you might not be inviting it, but people will look.

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Wow the male entitlement there.

Why doesn't he consider a blindfold if he has no self control over his thoughts and objectification of women.

Women are not sex objects they are there to exercise the same as the men in their speedos. No women are complaining that men shouldn't wear speedos because we have self control basic respect not seeing men as purely sexual objects!

People may look, it’s the then jump in thought process to sexual fantasy, comparison to porn stars and the like. Men can wear what they want without women complaining that they are causing them to feel guilty that they are lusting after them.

It’s hardly some random woman’s fault he is having fantasies about them and not his wife.

The internalised misogyny on here never ceases to amaze me. Women can wear whatever they feel comfortable in, and if you are sexualising them or thinking about "anal porn clothes" (wtf?!) then it's your own problem.