Clothing in the gym

[Sapiens]

I have seen this going around - do you agree with him?

I think I do, I really don't understand the current trend of ridiculously small shorts shoved right into arse cracks and bandeau bras for working out.

I go to the gym 2/3 times a week and feel no need to dress like this.

Or, are they just 'dressing for themselves?'

And then play the ' oooh stop looking at me' card when men do look! Men are always gonna look it's bloody basic biology.

Women can wear what they want

hurrah

he can sod off

Yes, that's what you said, but quite plainly women don't have their tits hanging out and are not putting their bum cracks in people's faces. That's just silly hyperbole to try to make out that they're doing something actually obscene when in fact you just don't like how they're dressed. Although I don't see how their desire to be seen as hot is any different to your irrelevant and unnecessary description of how sexy you are.

Male possible behaviour is no argument for objecting to skimpy clothing. I object to the poor quality and choice of clothing for women to exercise in.

@NonPlayerCharacter you really don't listen to you?

Yes they do have their tits out. When 3/4 of the breast is on show this is having your tits out,

Yes they do have arse cracks in faces when wearing scrunch bum leggings. If you wear these you want people to stare at your arse.

Stop gaslighting. I've been a member of 3 different gyms past 7 years. It is not hyperbole,

You need to go to some better gyms @40andlovelife . I've been a member of various ones for thirty years, and I've yet to see anybody with their 'tits out'.

That could be because I'm concentrating on what I'm there to do rather than judging other gymgoers, of course. Maybe there are tits everywhere and I'm just missing it.

Being contradicted on a website for using silly and misogynistic hyperbole is not gaslighting and I think you know that just as well as you know that a woman in scrunch bum leggings isn’t sticking her arse in anyone's face.

Own your own issues, because my God do you have them. Another woman in ridiculous clothing shouldn't provoke such rage in any normal, well adjusted person. From the completely disproportionate response and the irrelevant shoehorning in of how sexy you are, it seems pretty clear what your problem is: you look down on these women for what they wear but you want to be seen as just as desirable as they are, and you don't think you can do that without dressing in the same way. That's unfortunate, but it's a you problem. You'll have to make your choice.

I'm baffled some people are spending so much gym time watching other people - I hardly notice other people in reality - I'm too busy actually working out and checking my form etc.

I frequent the gym regularly, I personallty wouldn't feel comfortable in just a workout bra with my tits on show and I despise those bum scrunch shorts.

People can wear what they want though, but its likely to attract some attention. I'm not bothered what anyone wear, however I can't stand the attention seeking kind who just stand around taking videos and posing and giving me a dirty look for interrupting their video or shot! Or recently when I asked to use a machine to actually use it when they are using it to prop up thier phone!

@NonPlayerCharacter . Rage?!?! Get a grip and calm down!

I said I had a good figure! Where did you get sexy from? If you're too dense to understand why I mentioned my figure is good, in the context of the topic at hand, then I really can't simplify this anymore than I have.

So it's not a good gym when women have their tits out?

Oh the irony of your point.

If you think this makes anything you've said look better, maybe you really can't tell the difference between a woman wearing silly leggings and a woman shoving her bum in your face. Or between a long term abuse tactic designed to make a person question their sanity and an opposing statement on the internet.

That's quite some world to live in. Maybe that's why you love life!

When you’re in the gym it can be important to see your body to ensure you’re doing things correctly. Also work out outfits wick sweat away.

if he can control himself to stare at people that’s a him problem.

What about Bianca Censori (I know she's not in the gym...) walking about with her fanny out? Is that OK? Personally I don't want to see it, I don't want my DP or kids seeing it.
However, if Bianca Censori walked past, mingbob wafting in the wind, we would ALL look. And yes, I would imagine my DP might have a slightly naughty thoughty.

Women are showing their naked genitals in public at your gym?

No, I realise I took this out of the gym context and to an extreme. It's just that some people, men and women, do dress to be looked at in a sexual way. And that probably does happen in gyms.
I do old lady yoga so no, no naked genitals. Might spice it up a bit though...

I'll explain.

Some people go to the gym at a regular time and meet people they know, maybe chat while they're working out, or get a coffee afterwards. i.e. it's a social as well as physical pursuit for them.

If you are moving around the machines then you may notice other people.

If your workout includes rest periods then you may notice other people.

If your machine doesn't require you to check your form e.g. cooling down on the bike, you may notice other people.

There are many, many threads on MN were people ask things about gym kit beyond just feeling comfortable. It might not be how you live, and that is fine, but surely it can't be that baffling to understand how people notice what other people are wearing.

No, I realise I took this out of the gym context and to an extreme.

Thank God. After the rubbish coming from some quarters, I can't be sure that everyone does realise what they're saying. Still, if it's out of context and extreme - in other words, if it's not actually happening - why is it relevant?

It's just that some people, men and women, do dress to be looked at in a sexual way.

Of course they do. They're adults and they can dress how they like. Some people dress to express political opinions that are offensive to some, some people have lots of piercings and tattoos in order to look distinctive. You're allowed to dislike it but at the end of the day, the only person responsible for your response to it is you. They like to be seen sexually...so what? You don't have to if you don't want to.

I think "so... what" is that being dressed in an overly sexual way is not appropriate in the street or in the gym etc...
I would also say expressing political options with clothing may also not always be appropriate to the situation.

The gym is a place where people get hot, and need to see their body clearly in order to check their form. Tight and brief clothing is not unexpected. You might not like bum scrunch leggings (I hope you don't, they're fucking hideous) but they are not a public obscenity and the gym is probably the best place for them.

I dunno. I'm attracted to both men and women and haven't ever found myself feeling like going to the gym is akin to a soft porn visual bonanza.

I'm a member of three gyms, go regularly and see an awful lot of the sports bras/crop top and shorts combo. Am I more likely to notice an attractive woman when she's wearing that? Yes, absolutely. Does that mean I feel uncomfortable,or might think or respond in a way that is disrespectful to her or my partner? Absolutely not.

I'm sure plenty of women judging this lot like to dress in a way that accentuates their own figures, but just a different style - and it wasnt so long ago that basic lycra leggings and a crop top were scandalous. So as long as it meets the building's dress code is functional for working out and they don't hog a bench for hours on end I don't see why it matters.

Id be really disappointed if my partner had sexual thoughts about a woman that is quite obviously being controlled, coerced and abused. She might be scantily clad, but I’d question the sanity of anybody who viewed her sad demeanour as something that triggered a “naughty thoughty” (let me just go vomit at that particular turn of phrase)

But you are entitled to your opinion about what clothing is and isn’t acceptable. You don’t however get to tell me what I can and can’t wear.

Women shouldn't have to dress 'modestly' so that men don't feel uncomfortable. I doubt it would help anyway, a man is perfectly capable of fantasising about a woman in jeans, jumper and thick winter coat so it's not like there's a specific minimum amount of clothing that will save us from the 'male gaze'. Having said that, I don't particularly enjoy seeing near naked people sweating all over the gym equipment, or clothing that is so tight or skimpy that they may as well be naked; I wouldn't appreciate a man wearing shorts that showed every curve of his genitals or a shirt that showed the outline of his nipples, and I don't want to see that on a woman either. It just seems inconsiderate and attention seeking, with decent quality fabrics a vest top and leggings is cooler than wearing nothing.

What a disgusting pervert. Men are such vile creatures.