Clothing in the gym

[Sapiens]

I have seen this going around - do you agree with him?

I think I do, I really don't understand the current trend of ridiculously small shorts shoved right into arse cracks and bandeau bras for working out.

I go to the gym 2/3 times a week and feel no need to dress like this.

Or, are they just 'dressing for themselves?'

Women don't need to be policed by pervy men - I was at the gym yesterday - most women had cycle shorts and crop tops - most men had shorts and vests (the kind that basically show off the nips) - I managed to do a full weight workout without sliding of my bench in a fit of passion or grabbing the man next to me by the balls - this guy needs to calm the fuck down.

I think if you have small boobs you can get away with a bandeau bra. I follow meggan grubb on instagram and she’s posted a gym session wearing a bandeau bra. Fair enough she pulls it off, I know I definitely couldn’t as it wouldn’t provide enough support.

I think when other people’s clothing begins to make you immediately think of anal porn, it’s time to stop watching so much porn. I’ve never looked at those leggings and thought “ooh, anal porn.” They’re just leggings with some butt detail.

So, to paraphrase: "I'm a lecher who can't keep my eyes in my head and my mind on my business. Rather than acknowledge that I have the self control and social skills of an animal in mating season and work on myself, I'm going to hold women responsible for my failings as a man. I'm a weak willed misogynist in a society where that is increasingly frowned upon, so I'm reaching out in the hopes of validation from other inadequates like myself."

I am amazed at what the young women wear in the gym nowadays, which is smaller than my underwear. But more in a... wow, I never would have had the confidence to wear that kind of way. Not in a negative way.

I could def wear a bandeau bra. I am very small chested and only use the gym for strength work, no cardio (I do that outside) i.e. I'm not leaping about.

I only wear something under my vest for modesty reasons really.

I've been going to the gym (off and on) for about 10 years as well and I've never noticed this.

Occasionally I see women in sports bras but I also see men in tiny tank tops so...
Funnily enough, I don't perv on all the men and women at the gym. I'm there for me and my workout.

The only person I'm looking at is either me in the mirror or my mate when she's showing me what to do.

It's the male audacity and entitlement in that piece. The women are the problem, not him and his attitude. The sluts are asking for it.

It's not about the clothing choices.

Are they balls dressing for themselves.

It's for attention

Apart from one thing - the scrunched bum leggings scrunch around the anus and separate the butt cheeks into a giant peach with the anus highlighted. I'm a woman who is straight and doesn't do anal and I still can't help noticing/thinking of horrible anal porn when I see this

This is entirely down to your own thinking. I manage to do a spin class, facing someone's bum and not spend the whole time thinking about "horrible anal porn".

Maybe take up knitting?

I can see where the OP is coming from. My husband has said from time to time that he finds himself having to turn his head away when he sees some women in the gym in various positions wearing really revealing clothing. That doesn’t make him entitled or a pervert, he’s just being honest.

Nope
Clothing does not "invite" anyone to "gaze" in any manner
Young women want to be comfy, they want to have performance and they want to look fashionable and also not unattractive or out of style.
This is not an invitation for anyone to stare at them and it's far from porn!

It's attitudes like this that are driving a lot of issues in young women. Either they are expected to embrace it and be sexually available or they rebel against it but only by becoming trans or non binary so they aren't sexualised.

It's not about revealing skin, but about flattering.
Long Bermuda shorts are just not flattering on women....they make legs look thicker....and while I wish that wasn't important....it is for many women
And don't pretend men don't do the same.

My teen daughters do sports that require fitted lycra sports wear...swim suits, leotards, crop tops snd shorts. These are functional.
They would NOT perform anywhere near there best in joggers and t-shirts. They train in similar clothes.
No - they are not inviting the male fathers and brothers of there team mates snd competitors to "gaze sexually"

Ok I was thinking about this too. I watched this recently, from a side on position doing cardio so there to see it all play out.

There was a man on a tilted leg press. In front of him was a Smith machine. Ordinarily the person on the leg press would barely have seen the person on the Smith. But a young woman with the scrunch up yer bum leggings came to the Smith with a bench. She stood on the bench facing away from him, so her bum was now at his eye level and straight in front of him, and did deadlifts! This meant that every time she leaned forward, he was basically looking into the cleft between her arse cheeks. Now she had a spectacularly nice arse, but he got up and left (he wasn't finished based on what I'd seen him do up until then). If he had stayed, he'd have looked like an absolute perv unless he worked out with his head awkwardly turned to the side.

Had she been wearing a pair of regular leggings, it would have been awkward but not anywhere near the level this was.

I personally think women should wear whatever they like, as should men, yet when I watched this, it did seem to me unfair on the man. There was no way at all he wouldn't have looked like a total creep/perv had he not moved, yet why should he have to move away because she wants to stick her arse right in front of him and bend over?

But why does he do that? Why is he looking at them in the first place and not focussing on his own workout?
I don't think I've ever been to the gym and had to turn my head away from another person, yet I've also never found myself staring at someone. I'm looking at the screen on the cross trainer/bike/treadmill or the weights in my hands or my reflection in the mirror or my focus point on the floor/wall/ceiling.

Men are literally topless in the gym but I have to be uncomfortably hot by covering up more? Because they can’t help but look at a bit of skin instead of concentrating on their own workout? No thanks

Objectively , I think it's true, but everyone will say "oh no the man has to control hiimself!" It is not about controlling, the man isn't doing anything about it, but I don't see why any woman who is secure in herself would want to dress so overtly sexual. There is a difference between wearing something that is short and overtly showing butt cheeks and cleavage? I have a fair suspicion these girls that say he should look away are the ones wearing it. Oh and will also be the ones moaning about other girls in skimpy clothes talking to their man etc. I honestly think out of respect for men in general, my sons one day, my own husband and myself, I don't see the need

@CatamaranViper because if he is positioned looking in a particular direction due to the layout, for example on a rowing machine, and then a woman wearing very little then moves into his direct line of sight, then he may well be focussing on his workout while looking at what is in front of him. Maybe he is paranoid but he worries that he could be accused of being a pervert (which he isn’t) when he’s really just staring straight ahead.

Gosh, I hate it when people are so disindigenous. It is not the same is it? Why do you think there is soft porn on magazines, girls in skimpy clothes ie sports illustrated. Because men buy it. Woman certainly don't have the same visual sexual preferences. Think of young teenage boys, whose hormones are just starting and they can control it less. What makes them hard? Seriously woman do not get turned on the same way guys do so to equate the two is just dumb

Respect for men? Seriously? Why do we need to respect their lack of self control?
Women should be able to dress in as little as they like, for any reason at all. If a man doesn't want to see it, he doesn't have to look.

Presumably he's kept these thoughts in the privacy of his own head though, sharing only with you. The entitlement comes from posting publicly about it to try to shame women into dressing differently for his benefit. Ironic really the guy objects to clothing being too physically revealing, yet has no qualms about revealing the scrapings from the gutter of his imagination to the world, which would have been far better under wraps.

Wait till he sees what women are wearing to swimming pools these days 😂
"clutches pearls"

Again though, isn't he looking at the screen of the rowing machine?

I don't think I've ever been in the gym where the machines have been facing the free weight area or that close to another machine where someone's arse would be in direct eyeline (ie a rower directly behind a stair climber)

I can't stand the scrunch bum leggings. And they are breaking out of the gym, we've got them walking round the school playground.
It's not about men being able to 'control themselves'. Some men, and women for that matter, don't know where to put their eyes when half clad women workout in the gym. It can make you feel uncomfortable if someone is working out infront of you, you dont want to come across as a perv.
And I have to say from experience it is the ones who record themselves for socials that seem to have the smallest amount of clothing on. Men and women on that front.

@5128gap

Absolutely! There’s no way he would start commenting publicly about what women wear. Good point!