To hate Broken Homes

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Why does everyone think that a "Broken Home" is worse than staying in an abusive/loveless partnership?

I find it so gross 😬

Why on earth anyone would think blindly staying together for children is more beneficial than their children experiencing healthy relationships or healthy singledom is absolutely beyond me!

Ignoring the financial aspect - why would anyone bother!?!?!

*YABU - Broken homes are the worst
*YANBU - Healthy homes are best

its not 1957 and no one thinks this…

HTH

this is very odd

are you assuming that everyone means a single parent family when they say broken family?

i sure as heck don’t.

I see many a thread on mumsnet where the parents are together but bloody hell it sounds like a shit show for their children

it’s like you have never read a mumsnet thread

or indeed ever discussed the issue in RL with someone even vaguely intelligent

Who even says "broken homes" anymore? Also your poll sucks. It assumes that people think single parent families can not be healthy.

I don't think women do blindly stay, they find it incredibly hard to get out of abusive relationships for a myriad of reasons.

People definitely say broken home, I see it on this app!

Title doesn't really make sense in conjunction with the OP. And the voting options look odd too. Unless it's me <peers into cup>

I think there is a balance
If you are divorcing because he is abusive the YANBU
If you are divorcing because he went to a strip bar / you don't fancy him/ he doesn't give enough sex or presents then YABU

I think broken homes are very detrimental to children (even if they are good at masking) so for me there needs to be a really good reason for creating one. Some I see on mumsnet are very flippant indeed.

I wouldn't consider a separation when children involved a broke home. I'd consider it a healthy home that the parents made the right choice for them, and done correctly the kids shouldn't feel otherwise.

I would bloody divorce him if he went to a strip bar. I don't want my daughter thinking that's an acceptable way for men to treat women.

Oh god, please don't say "broken home". My home isn't broken, thanks.

because they do exist

but not the daft definition the Op believes “everyone” ie we all think broken families are single parent families

the entire thing is nonsense
i suspect the op won’t be back

Ignoring the financial aspect - why would anyone bother!?!?!

Except you can’t ignore the financial aspect when asking why people stay with their partners in a loveless marriage. Many people cannot afford to be single and even if you can afford it, it impacts you for the rest of your life. My mum is still feeling the impacts of being a single mum in her late fifties and it’s financial impacts on her.

There is also the sunk cost fallacy. I’ve spent this much time with them and that would be a waste of the last x years of my life.

For people in abusive relationships there is a whole host of other reasons why people fee they cannot leave, which a simple google would give you several articles on.

You can divorce anyone for whatever reason you like. I don't see going to a strip club as a "flippant" reason for divorce, men who visit strip clubs do not respect women and see them as objects that can be purchased, I would never be able to be married to a man like that.

"If you are divorcing because he went to a strip bar / you don't fancy him/ he doesn't give enough sex"

Those are perfectly valid reasons to divorce someone.

A relationship where the love for each other has gone is very different from an abusive or violent one.

Your title and post are confusing.

I don't think people do think that any more. When I was a kid divorce was still frowned on, but I 100% would have had a happier childhood if my dad had left my abusive mother. (Abusive to him as well as me, eg. Smashing his glasses when he was wearing them.)

No sex is a good reason to divorce because it prevents one person from having an affair.

There is no such thing is a “good enough” reason for divorce. Going to a strip bar or never making an effort for Christmas/birthdays with even a card or gift shows a lack of respect and love.

Staying with a partner who does not respect you sends terrible messages to your kids when they are old enough to date.

100% THIS. Men who pay for sexual gratification are abusing women.

On reflection I think this was a joke. It must have been right? Or do you genuinely think women should have to put up and shut up?

brace yourselves

this is @kitsuneghost on another thread

I understand if there is violence this would be worse on the children than divorce but things like 'he had an affair' are not valid reasons to put your children through unnecessary distress

😵Get back in your box women, unless he's beating you black and blue, he's a keeper FFS