To hate Broken Homes

[MintTraybake]

Why does everyone think that a "Broken Home" is worse than staying in an abusive/loveless partnership?

I find it so gross 😬

Why on earth anyone would think blindly staying together for children is more beneficial than their children experiencing healthy relationships or healthy singledom is absolutely beyond me!

Ignoring the financial aspect - why would anyone bother!?!?!

*YABU - Broken homes are the worst
*YANBU - Healthy homes are best

There's so many different situations you can't generalise. Abusive homes are never right but the flip side is relationships have their ups and downs, today we tend to quit very easily ... happy medium as so often in my opinion

As a child of divorced parents myself she's talking rubbish.

This. My home isn't broken. It's full of love.

Anyone who uses the term broken home is to be swiftly ignored.

Try harder.

Ok, ok, you got me.Not everyone .
but a large number of responses I see and in general life.

Some People have a perception that “broken home” is worse than anything.

I don’t see it as a broken home; more an active choice of not staying somewhere you’re not you’re best.

oh OP

that is your response?

head. wall. bang

I said “broken home”; where people specifically generalize and are negative towards single parent homes.

I don’t see it as broken; hence my post 😊

have you bothered to read the responses?

seriously

oh god OP

again. head. wall. bang

why don’t you pause and spend a moment reading the responses to your own thread

Some people do think this; I think you might need to read the original comment again :)

The effort some people out into infantaslising and pacifying men while putting women’s feelings to
the bottom in these polls and posts is borderline hilarious - hence my controversial topic choice

Try harder to ignore? Agreed.

you said “everyone” 🙄

Everyone disagrees that the term Broken Home is worse.

Hopefully.

it was to highlight that I see a lot of comments about people not wanting a “broken home” whereas I do not think that split families or single parent families are “broken”.
I’m in agreement with people?
I’m confused at how that isn’t obvious

If you don’t see the comments on the topics you look at then that’s great and sounds progressive. I however do and have done today.

i feel embarrassed for you OP

i will bow out

@silenttwin NO! You're part of this thread. If you leave it'll be a broken thread

My home was broken when my then 8 yo ds was hiding from his father during one of his many abusive outbursts.

It's not broken now, especially when he comes home from school, I ask him if he wants to play out because it's finally stopped raining, and instead he says 'no it's OK, I like chilling here, with you, just talking about life and stuff'. Or when he tells me how he likes 'our house now, it's cosy'

Or when he says he's glad I have more time for him now 'instead of having to clean all the time'

Or even when he tells me that his father is a 'much nicer' person now we live apart.

Hth.

My mum talks about broken homes. She was born in the early fifties mind. I've asked her to stop.

I understand / it is a sweeping generalization.
and I have heard that people give up too easy.
could it be a case of settling too soon
and then what appears an “easy”
thing to do is actually the straw that broke the camels back.

That’s amazing 👏 and is exactly the type of thing I mean. Good for you both and I’m glad things have improved for your child.
kudos!!!

Thanks 😊 I shall think about it before I go to sleep tonight.
Passive aggressive internet Comments FTW

@silenttwin thanks for using your Netmums premium to find another post of mine and comment on it also in the total wrong understanding of what was written.

Very odd behavior. Might I suggest a hobby?

huh? it’s on mumsnet!

Yeah… and wasn’t active. You had to go out of your way to find it.
You actively sought out a post to put something to cause conflict ,
realised your mistake in interpreting it and then deleted your comment.
Are you Martha?

oh easy enough

just bung in user name in search field

deleted comment? you can’t delete a comment

do you mean “edit”?