DP suspicious hotel stay

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So I went away for a week on holiday with the children. DP stayed behind on his own as he had work. One evening after work he left the house and stayed at a reasonably local hotel because he got scared and felt like something was ‘off’ in the house. Apparently the lights were flickering (it’s an old house in the countryside) and he didn’t feel safe alone there.

He rang me from the hotel and we talked for about 5-10 minutes. He stayed one night and went home the next morning.

Now I think this seems really odd. AIBU to think something else went on?

YABU- this is normal behaviour
YANBU- his behaviour is suspicious

I literally would have no shame in ringing or going to the hotel myself and stating you are his wife etc and ask a few questions. (Yes, I've done this before and was kindly put through as he was actually there lol I was fuming)

You could at least confirm he was even there and possibly find out if anyone accompanied him at any point.

Good luck! X

Was it the ghost of sex workers past he saw...?

God, I wish the poor women would terrorise fucking johns.

Exactly!

I don't understand why nearly everyone's believing he went to a hotel while disbelieving the rest of his story. He's probably lying about that too.

"Call girls" ?

You call them that because you don't want to face the fact that he rented the vaginas of financially vulnerable/trafficked/drug addicted women to use as a jizz receptacle.

How could you love a man who did that?

And of course that's what he's done, again.

@Rainbowismyfavouritecolour If you can find his booking at least it will tell you how far in advance it was booked, so premeditated not a last minute decision. If indeed he did go to a hotel.

It's a bit odd since it's your own house but, if he were cheating, why on earth pick a local hotel? Wouldn't he pick one not where he might bump into someone who knows you both?

If it were me at home and the lights flickered to the point where I was worried about them there's not a chance I would leave the house to catch fire, poltergeist or no.

Put a tracker on him/his car.

I'd probably divorce if I found my partner had hidden a tracker on me.

That would be the plan if you were a cheating sod and up to no good though!

There is some shit and borderline illegal advice on here.

Tracker in his car? Contact the hotel to get someone's private information? All of this just shows a lack of trust, whether deserved or not.

Essentially he's gone to a hotel for a night with a rather unusual reason.

Op can either choose to believe him and stay, or choose not to and leave. No point in staying in a relationship if there is no trust.

I'd also consider whether you would want to stay in a relationship with someone who has previously used sex workers. It suggests he's not got much respect for women.

OP, get yourself screened for STDs.

Oh we now have the ethics police on board.

A tracker to me is an essential item if I suspected a partner of cheating or lying about activities or whereabouts. Cheaper than a private detective those Air Tags, and they have a dual purpose so my expenditure is not wasted since I can re use them on my own checked luggage when travelling. 😊

What's the point of the tracker though. Once you've got to such a lack of trust that you think a tracker is necessary then the relationship is over.

Sometimes I think people here give advice that will lead to more drama and are treating the thread as an interactive soap opera.

Not the point of the thread but my lights started flickering all through my house a couple of weeks ago (all the electrics actually including the tv and fish tank), I got very scared. Not because of ghosts but because the flickering didn’t stop and Google says it could cause an electrical fire. I didn’t leave my home though, I just called an electrician.

I’d lose all respect for a man that abandoned his home because he was scared of ghosts.

Or alternatively someone who felt their partner had no trust in them. Without that trust why stay.

Most threads with ridiculous scenarios like this are indeed free entertainment. Drama that is not your own passes the time.

Why should the innocent party go? Present the evidence to the cheater and kick HIM/HER out I say!

Free entertainment for you maybe. But for the op, she is considering the state of the marriage, hardly entertainment.

Unless you don't believe op is genuine? If so report the thread.

I think you might need to report ME then!

I assumed it was because he has been seen at the hotel so had to come up with an excuse of why he was there. If he was staying at someone's house wouldn't he just say he went to a mate's house for a few drinks and stayed there?

OP could always verify it with the mate - assuming he isn't someone who'd lie for her husband.

Just when you've heard it all!

He probably thinks he's the master of deception with his iron clad alibi.

If it wasn't so serious, you could have a bit of fun with this, but I appreciate it is your future at stake here.

Very odd OP!

Local hotel. I'd just call them and say that you left your coat in a wardrobe and see whether two guests were checked in or not.

it sounds total rubbish though so I'd be having it out with him