To allow DSC to call me mummy.

[Chaosandcuddles22]

I am likely to be absolutely flamed.
DSC has been living with me full time 95 percent of their life ( now year 1 at school)
for reasons they are now solely in my custody and that will not change. Their dad is no longer around and courts granted me parental responsibility and and live in order.
they know their bio mum and know I am not their bio mum but for many reasons they only see each-other 2-3 times a year now in a contact centre ( should be more )
they Have 1 bio sibling in the home and one non bio sibling. We run day to day like any other family and all children are treated the same
they do however have free contact with bio mums extended family something that I have always facilitated.
recently especially around bed time or even they are talking to others they have referred. to me as “ mummy or mum “
i used to correct them and their little face would look disheartened this was the wish of the extended family. I have spoken to DSC about the situation in a child friendly way but they want to refer to me like the other children in the house including his sibling. I have no issues of course and they will always be included in the same way for example if someone asks me how many children I have I will say 3.
I don’t know how to sensitively handle the situation.

I find this absolutely acceptable. You are, 95+% of the time, the only parent they know. And legally recognized as such. Of course, they call you mummy. And to insist on another name would isolate them from the rest of the family in their own mind. You are their rock, their stability, their only source of maternal love. This is a "battle" that need not be fought at all.

What a lovely thread and family.

I think it will be easy to have, for example based on my username, mummy Winter and mummy Summer - but when you are with the person or no context is needed just mummy.

We have this with nanny Winter and nanny Summer and when with them just nan.

DD used to call her childminder mummy. I was pleased they had that kind of relationship.
It was always me she came to for cuddles, comfort, etc though when she was with both me and CM at the same time.

A Mum is the person who looks after you when you're ill, and buys you things etc. You are their Mum.

A friends eldest daughter chose to have a baby alone and died shortly after delivering her baby. Her parents are raising the baby. I'm sure the last thing they want was to be called mum and dad when their much loved daughter should have been mum. But they took advice and are called mum and dad because it was in the baby's best interests.
Your little one seems to feel the need for you to be mum. I'd go with it.

OP the world is a better place with people like you stepping up and taking care of your DSC, I would also let them call me mum in your situation.

What an amazing mum you are, I'm so glad you're in their life.

How lovely that life has brought you together. You are his mummy in every practical sense and the added bonus is you have chosen each other. Ha, I'm a bit teary ❤️

Your the mother now and have been for a long time

You are mum

It's absolutely fine, it's actually lovely that they want too xx

It's the children that count, if they want to call you 'Mum' so be it, they love you and that's all that matters.

You sound like a wonderful woman and mum 🌷

That sounds lovely, to hell with their extended family