To do this at a child's party where I was the facepainter

[BrickTraybake]

I am trying to establish a small business as a facepainter just to earn a little extra money.

Yesterday I did a childs birthday party for one of the mums at my DSS's school. I did it at a discount price for her as she said she would recommend me to all the other mums and she is the PTA and said she can get me a slot at school fairs.

I have a system where I get the children interested in having their facepainted to write down their name on the list and then I call them when it's their turn so there's not loads of bored kids queueing. The parents sign next to the child's name to say they consent to me painting their face and then they tick a box if they consent to me using images for promotion. It's worked well so far.

So yesterday one mum puts a massive X in the photo consent box and writes next to it NO PHOTOS NO SOCIAL MEDIA!! fair enough.

When it came to that child's turn, I wrote next to her name "pink Tshirt" just to remind me of who she was in case I accidently got her in the background of a pic.

Mum paid up, everyone happy. Then later on Facebook I saw her post thanking everyone for coming to the party and the mum of pink t-shirt girl wrote underneath "thanks for inviting us! Shame facepainter wrote down details of what my child was wearing?? Bit odd 😂" and the mum shock-reacted it.

I'm so upset. I was so looking forward to hopefully getting more party bookings and a place at the school fairs. This was only my third party and now I'm worried this mum will gossip that I'm a wierdo and I won't get any more.

Was I in the wrong? Should I reply??

Just type in the comments why you wrote down what her Daughter was wearing.
Say you're very aware of safeguarding issues therefore wanted to adhere to her wishes for her Daughter not to be photographed & so wrote what she was wearing to remind you of this request.

What others have said just a short polite reply. 'Hi facepainter here. I'd made a note to remind me not to include pink top child in any photos by mistake in order to comply with your no social media request'.

Yes @BrickTraybake
Go back in your time machine now that @Goodtogossip and @Meep2024 have AT LAST joined the thread with their pearls of wisdom, and follow their oh so wise advice 🤣

Yes, explain you did to ensure you complied with a parents wishes. Don't let it get to you. Everyone else liked it. Some people are just difficult.

Just reply and say that you wrote down the colour of her top so you could make sure she wasn't accidentally in any photos, as mum indicated she didn't want photos of child on social media.

Not sure exactly what she thinks you're going to do with that info....

So many people on mumsnet doing lessons on how to be passive aggressive. Please don’t say “Thanks for your feedback” or most of the rest of that garbage—it doesn’t come off well. Just explain in a single sentence without being cute.

If you read the OP’s posts you’ll see she has already dealt with this with aplomb.

So many people on Mumsnet not bothering to read the date of the OP.

My kids aren’t in social media and I would be absolutely fine with this much better than when they are asked to wear a hi vis banner so photographer knows no photos! Carry on and don’t loose any sleep over it!