To do this at a child's party where I was the facepainter

[BrickTraybake]

I am trying to establish a small business as a facepainter just to earn a little extra money.

Yesterday I did a childs birthday party for one of the mums at my DSS's school. I did it at a discount price for her as she said she would recommend me to all the other mums and she is the PTA and said she can get me a slot at school fairs.

I have a system where I get the children interested in having their facepainted to write down their name on the list and then I call them when it's their turn so there's not loads of bored kids queueing. The parents sign next to the child's name to say they consent to me painting their face and then they tick a box if they consent to me using images for promotion. It's worked well so far.

So yesterday one mum puts a massive X in the photo consent box and writes next to it NO PHOTOS NO SOCIAL MEDIA!! fair enough.

When it came to that child's turn, I wrote next to her name "pink Tshirt" just to remind me of who she was in case I accidently got her in the background of a pic.

Mum paid up, everyone happy. Then later on Facebook I saw her post thanking everyone for coming to the party and the mum of pink t-shirt girl wrote underneath "thanks for inviting us! Shame facepainter wrote down details of what my child was wearing?? Bit odd 😂" and the mum shock-reacted it.

I'm so upset. I was so looking forward to hopefully getting more party bookings and a place at the school fairs. This was only my third party and now I'm worried this mum will gossip that I'm a wierdo and I won't get any more.

Was I in the wrong? Should I reply??

Aw yay- so pleased for you!!

@BrickTraybake You are 21 op and absolutely amazing! All these experiences will help grow a pair (of tits) and your business. Good luck

Good for you! She was obviously just one of those people who find fault with everything, one of the mums at my dds school is like this, paranoid about Facebook photos and has heard the word ‘safeguarding’ but doesn’t really understand it so everything is a ‘safeguarding risk’ to her, most people roll their eyes when they see her coming!

That's so brilliant OP!

So please for you. This just shows standing up for yourself with polite response pays rather than staying quiet. Well done.

Cracking result!
Onwards and upwards OP 😊

I'd ask mumsnet if they wouldn't mind deleting this if all the details are accurate she will recognise herself

I'm glad you've dealt with it, but I wouldn't assume she was trying to "do anything". She didn't get what you'd done and said so, you explained, job done. The other mums were just telling you they liked your work, not "sticking up for you". This doesn't have to be a drama where people are getting at you.

Don't be so ridiculous 'dear'.

The OP is very new to this and could find herself in a lot of trouble if she doesn't get this right.

And in a lot of financial mess if she has accidentally made her insurance null and void.

But you carry on being childish because what do you care if a young woman's business goes tits up?

Yeah do this

You did nowt wrong

She sounds an absolute pill.

Well done, you.

She sounds nuts and I'm glad the other mums backed you up.

And then she deleted her comment. Ha, love it

OP. I think that was a really bad move. The woman was already defensive about having photos taken, then about her kids clothing being written down. Now you have broken GDPR by revealing to everyone on that woman’s Facebook page that she requested no photos or social media.

You’re on really dodgy ground with that one. Personally I’d be removing your post ASAP and just letting it go. It’s not that big a deal and certainly not worth the aggro that she could cause you if she decided to.

Here's something I wish Id known at 21.

You know that feeling you get that you're still a kid, that everyone else is so grown up and has everything figured out while you're still trying to figure out adult life and friendships etc.

It never goes away. Everyone has it, the 31 year olds, the 41 year olds. Hell, my Dad says he still gets it and he's mid 60s

You still cringe when we say something stupid, we still worry when we upset someone. We still think "I did not understand what the fuck just happened there" on a regular basis.

The only thing that happens is that we get better at hiding it, and the embarrassments build up until can can't remember the individual ones, and you start giving less and less of a shit.

Don't feel like the "grown ups" know better than you. Because there aren't any grown ups, just people cocking up all day every day. The 30 and 40 year olds don't know any better than you do.

🙌🙌🙌

Good work!!!!

…just remember no freebies and no discounts!
your work is valuable and you are a business not a charity.

In what way is ticking the ‘no photos’ box breaking GDPR? It’s not her personal information, she posted a query and the OP answered it.

Well done OP! Glad it worked out. She sounds annoying. That would have bothered me too.

There has bee no GDPR breach at all.

But I agree the OP should get this thread deleted before the woman herself or another parent from the party spots it.

Also a possibility the tabloids might pick it up.

First of all I can't delete it because it was under her comment and she's deleted her comment and secondly, I purposely haven't said which wording I used on here, people were nice enough to give me several options so maybe I picked the one that didn't reveal she asked me not to take pictures.
Not let's have no more negativity please ladies because I am feeling really positive now thanks to this lovely supportive thread

So it's already been deleted then? I mean along with her comment?

That's good, now I'd ask for this thread to be deleted too if I were you.

Love this response🤣

It directly links confidential information (not wanting photos/SM)with her name on a public forum. With my professional understanding of GDPR, this is a breach. Even if it isn’t, this is not a woman you’d want to piss off by giving out personal info online and shaming her.

Sorry OP I’m not trying to be negative but I think you’ve been badly misled on here to think that posting on her response was a good thing.

She was a dick, for sure, but not worth risking your professional reputation over.

I hope it all blows over for you.