To think you don't actually get treated better if you're slim, it's because your attitude changes?

[bobsandvangene]

What do you think?
I often hear people say they get treated better if they are slim than fat. But I think (with the exception of the really supermorbidly obese who probably do get treated negatively/differently) it's probably just that you act more confident/have better self esteem/etc and attract a different vibe because of it?
I guess there's no real way to know.
But I'd be interested in those who have been in both sides of it.

I’m a big woman, not just in the fat sense but I am very tall and heavy, but fairly fit and active. I’ve just been on a weekend away for a friends birthday involving clubbing etc, and I was completely ignored by the sleazy men whilst all the slim girls were harassed. Obviously fine by me, I have a gorgeous husband at home, but it was very very noticeable. Nothing to do with confidence either, I’ve never had an issue with that and spent the whole weekend on the dance floor living my best life. 🤣

@Upsidedownagain
"And it is associated with lower intelligence in the sense that generally speaking the better off, more capable people, tend not to be as overweight."

People who have been lucky enough to get a decent education, tend to earn more.

People who earn more are more likely to find it easier to buy decent food. Also easier to feel more in control of their life and environment, often have higher self esteem AND are therefore more motivated to put time and effort into a healthier lifestyle (including nutrition).

I’ve been a 12 and a 22 and everything in between, and I won’t be gaslit into agreeing that it’s all in my head. You’re wrong.

I think there may be a bit of truth in feeling more confident when you're slimmer.I know when I've gone up to nearly 12 stone I've stopped myself going to a place I've gone to for years as I felt so bad about myself, frumpy and unattractive. I'm now 10 stone 2 and I do feel a lot better about myself.

Probably

Looking like a model business woman helps I'm sure but it's more about confidence, knowledge and being able to show worth in a job.

I've experienced the biggest athletic boasters who have been ridiculed at being incompetent and larger older women who have commanded respect the moment they walk in.

All about earnt respect from doing a good job, not aesthetics. Xx

Sadly true but in the workplace it should be more about competence. X

I spent many years at a size 24. Total strangers went out of their way to mock, deride and be nasty to me. A few examples:

Guys shouting out of their car windows as they went past, things such as ‘fucking elephant’, ‘hippo’ etc

At a sporting event, as I walked to the stadium, jeers of “here’s our BIGGEST supporter” from a group

A man walking up to me, grabbing me and putting his hands on my hips, then standing back and holding his hands my hip-width apart (though probably exaggerating this in reality) and saying to his friends “go on, guess, how wide is she?”

Making “beep beep, wide load” comments as I went past

That’d just a small selection of the abuse I suffered. Based entirely on how I looked.

I’m so sorry. I see this kind of thing going on and it sickens me. It really does say more about them than you - though I know that’s limited comfort. But just wanted to say there are those of us out there who loooooaaathe these people.

I once had a senior person at work joking to me about a larger colleague ( the office chair she would need) and I didn’t respond so he hammed it up ( in case I hadn’t grasped the “she’s so fat” humour🙄). I took a deep breath, looked him straight in the eye and said “ I get what you are angling at but I don’t think it’s funny. It’s just unkind.” He looked so shamed . Felt great 👍 😊