Washing up - is DH filthy or am I overreacting?

[Washingupfury]

I have name changed for this. Dh and I have a disagreement about washing up water. He feels that you fill the sink, start with cleanest stuff eg glasses work your way through to the dirty stuff and no need to change the water unless the bubbles disappear, even if the water looks dirty.

I fill the sink, wash, rinse under running water, and if the water gets cloudy I change it.

I just caught him washing a cereal bowl in this:

I think it's disgusting. He thinks it is fine 'as it was the last thing to be washed'. We have agreed to abide by the MN poll for future washing up.

So, YABU DH is sensible and timesaving, of course the last few things will be washed in cloudy water.

YANBU DH is filthy and clean water and rinsing are the way to go.

I grew up in an unusual housing situation (for the UK) and all water had to be collected in a bucket from a spring outlet pipe some distance from the house. In the summer it ran very slowly! We absolutely reused water from hair washing to wash clothes in the twin-tub or leftover from doing dishes to flush the toilet etc. Obviously I’m teamDH! But I would change it towards the end if it’s obviously filthy and I still had cleaner things to wash. Frying pans and meat trays, well….

Mine does this, but usually washes dirty or greasy stuff first, doesn’t rinse and everything ends up greasy , especially glasses, and I have to re-do them anyway. I’m with you on this one!!

It’s like multiple people using the same bath water one after the other 🤢

Surely the analogy to shower using less water than a bath only works if you are washing everything under a running tap at the same time (like a dishwasher)

@Shoutinglagerlagerlager what’s your method then?

On a water meter here. Dishwasher, but if handwashing, I would definitely be changing that water, and I would also quickly rinse everything.

I combine bath and shower as the plug is in to rinse after soaping everything with the sponge. The other things are semi rinsing in the accumulating bath water as I rinse individually. The sink ends up no more full than if I had run a bath in the first place, and everything is clean, not left with soap or grease residue from dirty water.

no rinsing is disgusting. I can’t comprehend it.

I’m not british. I don’t know if anywhere else in the world doesn’t rinse.

Soap/ scrub everything first with washing up liquid on a wet sponge and then a quick rinse to get rid of the suds.

Changing the water every couple of items is so wasteful on water and detergent. Not changing the water is a bit grim for the things at the end. So you are both doing it wrong 😉

I agree (and I’m not British either).

But, in places like India some people don’t even wash their hands because they basically have so little clean water it’s either drinking it or ”wasting” it on things like washing your hands.

Clean water will likely be a rare thing in the future.

I don't change the water unless it gets greasy (which is why I save greasy things until last), but I do always take care to rinse with clean water and fully air-dry dishes. If something doesn't look/feel clean, I give it a squirt of clean soapy water and go over it again.

Yuk! You need to rinse. Always!

TeamDH

Thought it was fine until you said he doesn't rinse. Water doesn't look bad at all, just like it's got a bit of milk in it but I would always rinse.

Yes, in the 80s there was The Brownie Cook Book with the instructions in it - I learned how to wash up from that using same method! My mum never had any issues with it.

Next time I go to the UK I’ll have to remember that most people don’t rinse their dishes.. 😅😂🤢

@notmybear and guess what it won’t make any difference to your health

No I know that.😅It’s a bit like children growing up on a farm rarely have allergies, but children growing up in sqeaky clean houses often have..

@LoveSkaMusic if you're using very hot water to rinse, you're 100% spot on!!

"I also put bleach in my washing up bowl."

@Alwaysalwayscold

I do the same. Dishes just don't feel clean unless I add a splash of it to the water.

@cardibach
you really should wash the soap suds off. The chemicals are really not good for you (chemicals) and their purpose is to carry the food away, so you rinse it off

Agree with your - thats gross 🤢 I wouldn’t want to eat from things washed in dirty water

How do some people cope in the real world with germs all around us? Do you ever eat out or at other people’s houses?

@Washingupfury I think maybe quite a few posters assumed that he rinses. He is very very very wrong for not rinsing!!

& the manky water! GRIM

He does get bonus points for washing in the correct order though & not putting knives & good/favourite glass in the dishwasher

Well I do eat at other people’s houses but wrongly assumed most people rinsed their dishes.😂 Tbf I’ve not heard of anyone not doing this where I live..different cultures perhaps.

Everything should be rinsed surely ?

Which means using a bowl in the sink so the running water goes down the plughole.