Rude or polite

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I told him no

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a man approach me at the bus stop and said excuse me and I said no right away. He then came back and said you could of said I’m not interested.

no meant I wasn’t interested
no meant no

I stand by my no, but some friends/colleagues said I was rude and I don’t think I was.

ive said not interested in the past and got abused verbally.

I normally have my headphones in but I forgot them this morning

LOL

You didn’t know he was going to try to chat you up until he came back a second time so yes you were rude.
Why post on here when you want validation not opinions? Being chatted up is annoying so I don’t envy you tbh

I am one of the politest persons you will ever meet. At work, in social contexts, with friends etc. And people frequently ask me for things like this and I help them if I can.

But I know the difference between people saying or asking something innocent, and someone sidling up to me and deliberately picking me out to talk to. I trust my instincts now; if something feels 'wrong' with the encounter it probably is. It is your prerogative to think I am 'rude and odd' if you must.

lol this.

You are so bloody rude and presumptuous.

Lovely! Stop assuming all women hate all men. Like you do. Sometimes even women can be wrong! Shock horror 🤣

Very rude. Hope that helps.

Yes you were rude. Maybe justifiably so but still rude.

But why was he saying Excuse Me?

Did he want to get past?
Did he want to ask you the time?
Did he want to ask about the buses?

There is nothing wrong with Excuse Me, it's what goes with it that can be good or bad

OMG!

You are making zero sense Op.

A guy comes up to you and says “excuse me” and you just reply with a “No”.

Of course that’s rude.

He may have wanted the time, directions, a light for his cigarette, tens of possibilities. And you just cut him off with a No.

What made you assume he was showing romantic/sexual interest? A bit big headed if you really.

Accept the fact that your post wasn't that clear.

So we (and possibly he) had no clue

😂

We have a winner.

The OP didn't know what he was going to say so yes if you act like that to strangers it is rude and odd.

I’d say it’s pretty arrogant to look down on people waiting at (gasp, the horror!) a bus stop! What a weird thing to say.

You're obviously easily amused if you think your wittering is worthy of a cry laughing emoji, but you should really try to calm yourself. You're getting over excited now.

People can read, op.

Initially you were rude. You had no way of knowing what he wanted. Regardless of the fact he "came back and confirmed it". You didn't KNOW that when he first said excuse me, you were assuming. If you had simply said no after he asked, then no not rude.

I'm glad this thread hasn't turned into a man bashing thread. There is time yet though.

If this is what passes for entertainment the hours must fly by in that basement.

I’m abit baffled by this post. He said “excuse me” and you said “no”…..

Are you young and stunningly beautiful OP that you often get chatted up at bus stops?

Maybe if he said something that 100% implied he was trying to chat you up then I guess you wouldn’t be unreasonably to say no thanks I’m not interested.

The comments are getting as amusing as the post. Popcorn.

Sad really that people would sooner listen to a device than engage with the real world.

I don't go out of my way to be rude but tbh I don't lose any sleep over it. I don't owe anyone politeness and I have plenty of people in my life who don't think I am particularly odd. I am polite to people who deserve politeness.

I have had too many unsolicited encounters with strangers who have turned out to be wasting my time at best, become really rude & threatening at worst. I don't regard it as rudeness actually, more 'short shrift'.

It's entirely possible that OP could tell he was going to chat her up. Maybe he had been looking her up and down, trying to get her attention etc.

Or maybe a bird had shit down her back. We'll never know.

You are rude . It's coming across in your posts first and foremost -and I'd imagine your vain too. You done him a favour

I'm not going backwards and forwards arguing with you.

Somebody who says excuse me doesn't deserve a no.

We will have to agree to disagree if it's rude or not.