To hate having house guests?!

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I am not talking about having people over for lunch/ dinner/ drinks/ coffee etc.

I mean people STAYING in the house. Family coming for a multiple nights etc.

I find it overwhelmingly invasive and an incredible energy drain.

Having to make continuous conversation..

Having to offer every time you want to reach for a snack..

Not being able to walk around in underwear/ revealing / old/ strange pajamas

Having to be seen and talk to people first thing in the morning.

Having to "entertain"?

Having to have awkward convos about "what do you want to watch on TV?"

Ughhhh just hate the whole thing. It's not them, it's nearly always me. I guess I am just a very private person. I socialise in very short bursts.

Am I totally unreasonable to feel like this or do others feel the same?

Ps- any tips for how to make it feel more manageable.

Overwhelming. Other than B&B for one night I absolutely hate having people to stay.
And I seem to morph into Mrs Doyle from Father Ted when people are staying, which must be pretty irritating for the guests too.
Exhausting for everyone.

Absolutely agree.
We have a large house but the reorganising involved in putting people into my children s bedrooms was huge.
Big clear out and tidy of teens bedrooms....they did look great but the work!
Nightmare...dinner fine but staying is a dose.

Loathe it, day visitors fine ( well family ones) but overnight no!!! Exhausting, just want my own space, routine etc. I have to recharge without talking, drink providing and bathroom waiting. Avoid at all costs!!

I'd do that too.

Agree, it's horrible and I refuse to do it.

I can't relate to this. Love having people to stay, happy to make them drinks etc and I enjoy the change of routine. Although I only invite people I actually like...

My ex's grandmother used to stay and she used to wash her knickers in the bath. Other house guests never showered at all.

My mother in law doesn't shower at all and the last time she stayed, she slagged off my cooking and clipped all her long nails onto the carpet for me to walk (crunch) on after she left.

She also tries to rearrange the house, and argues about watching the telly.

She's coming to visit this week for 3 days 😭

I love having houseguests but my tip is to change your daily routine as little as possible.

Do everything you would normally, wake up, morning routine, and they slot in and either sort themselves out or follow your lead. Much easier than playing at being hotel staff. Better too as less prevaricating / joint decision making about each daily activity which can get annoying.

I love the idea of making guests as independant as possible with spring your own breakfasts, lunches and drinks. My mil waits on us hands and foot when we stay and I hate it. I had to tell her please don't make my breakfast for me. She once made me weetabix by crunching the biscuits into dust, then pouring a smidge of milk to make a sludge. I was horrified. Also she males a huge performance out of drinks. Every hour she wants to know if I want a drink. It is absolutely exhausting.

SwordToFlamethrower · Today 22:47
I love the idea of making guests as independant as possible with spring your own breakfasts, lunches and drinks”

I think that’s rude 🤷‍♀️

I hate it too. My house is too small, and I like my privacy.

We haven't had guests for awhile, thank you COVID.
DH got in touch with someone and ended up with them visiting last weekend with just a couple of days notice.
Fine, except I wasn't here from before the invite to after the last evening meal on a three day visit.
After expensive last minute trips to the supermarket plus paying at the pub, I sense DH is no longer as keen to have his weekends disrupted and his weeks spent prepping.

In quick succession we have his brother coming plus awkward family. I'm sensing remarkable reluctance there too.

The bottom line is, we don't have the space to be guest ready. The older we get, the less flexible everyone is to crash or camp. And we rarely go away and impinge/enjoy others hospitality.

I've a friend coming merely for lunch this week, perfect.