For refusing to move in with his previously aggressive dog...

[sarahmoore2]

long story short - partners dog has 'accidently' attacked and killed a small dog 7 years ago. Apparently it was the smaller dogs fault for being yappy? (Pitbull vs chihuahua)

I have a medium sized dog and I do not feel comfortable putting my dog around the Pitbull. Granted it was a long time ago, however I have recently seen the dog snap at peoples hand for no reason (at big events - maybe over stimulated?) and also snap at another dog over a bone.

Unfortunately it is the size that scares me as they are so powerful, my dog would not stand a chance against him. My partner has said we will keep them separate in the same house forever, but I think that sounds totally stressful, especially as we are at the age were kids are our next step. I just do not want to enter motherhood having to look after a baby and worry about separating 2 dogs. I really love my partner, but he has made it very clear that he is not willing to 'give away his dog' even though his parents have offered to take the dog so I can live comfortably (he will still get to see the dog). I have nobody to take my dog, and have no family nearby therefore I would lose contact with my dog if I rehomed him and do not have the option. We are at the stage now where we either get married and move in together, or break up. I am making multiple sacrifices to be in this relationship already; which is why I feel strongly about him making one. AIBU?

You posted this a while ago.

The last time posters unanimously said not to move in - he’s choosing his dangerous dog over you, you’d be stupid to have a baby in these circumstances, etc etc.

Why have you posted this again?

You posted this a while ago.

The last time posters unanimously said not to move in - he’s choosing his dangerous dog over you, you’d be stupid to have a baby in these circumstances, etc etc.

Why have you posted this again?

Why would you want to be with a man who chose to own a banned breed bred for blood sports…then was stupid enough to put the dog in a position where it was able to do the thing it was bred for and kill its own kind.

Dont have children with this man for gods sake.

I don’t trust his judgement

Then why in the fuck are you with him?? And considering have children with him? Only absolute idiots own pit bulls. How could you ever move in with this man knowing how stupid he is? How much time do intend to waste on a man like this?

Honestly, I despair sometimes.

Not in a million years would I go anywhere near that dog. He’s willfully ignorant and plain stupid.

Yup, she did, and we all told her to get rid of this absolute idiot. Some people simply insist on being their own worst enemy.

A dog-aggressive dog of a breed/type that was banned in Britain in 1991

No way would I be letting my dog anywhere near it. And no way would I be giving up a dog either. Cohabitation can wait, a dog's safety cannot.

Nor would I have a child living at, or visiting, a dog with a bite history (against other dogs or humans) until the DC is old enough to decide for themselves and essentially adult-sized (so likely mid-teens at the earliest)

What sort of dog did he think he was getting? When it became obvious that the dog was going to meet a (banned) pitbull type, did he get it properly exempted and does he comply fully with the restrictions?

And how old is it?

The narrative that his dog ‘accidentally’ killed another is extremely worrying. In this situation i would at the very least have expected him to own this (and his part in it). He’s damn lucky he hasn’t been prosecuted. I knew several owners who have for less than this. I would honestly not even consider moving in with him and this whole incident would be red line for me. I’m sorry but when I hear this situation I can only conclude that the owner of a dog like this is a selfish arse with no sense of empathy or responsibility. Walk away.

We can all see the giant red flag, but you’ll move in anyway, maybe not straight away but when one of the dogs dies or when you get pregnant.

When the original aggressive pit bull dies he’ll replace it with another poorly trained dangerous breed. You’ll put up with it because you think it’s just a difference of opinion, when in fact he doesn’t care about you, doesn’t respect you and he is an idiot.

but sounds like you’re going to do it anyway if all you do is keep dating him and keep posting about it.

Are you mad? Either have your own dog put down and decide to not have children while your psycho boyfriend hangs on to his 'mine's bigger than yours' aggressive dog or ditch him and have a happy life. Choose. Those are your options.

I thought it was bad enough you moving in with just your dog but then you mentioned about bringing a baby into the mix and this has disaster written all over it.

I am making multiple sacrifices to be in this relationship already; which is why I feel strongly about him making one

Why, why, why do you want to be with someone like that?

Never mind the dog - do not have DC with a self-centred tosser man who expects you to bear the brunt whilst he floats on

Just report him to the police anonymously. Dog gets destroyed. Problem solved.
(apart from the fact he’s probably an arsehole for owning one in the first place).

How old is the dog? From what you've said, minimum 8 years old? He might not live much longer since Pitbull life expectancy is 12-14 years. If he's 10/11 maybe you could make the compromise knowing it won't be for long? Just an idea. YANBU though.

Hell no.

He sounds thick as shit and your dog and any future children will not be safe.

People like him are exactly the reason that every other day on the news one of these vile dogs has ripped another person to shreds.

You can do so much better.
It is the dog and it is the owners.

The dog can never be deemed safe. I think you should also be worried about your own safety around this dog...

You’re not being unreasonable in any way whatsoever.

I would never move into a house with a large dangerous dog. This dog has already killed another dog and you’ve seen it snapping at people.

Your dog wouldn’t stand a chance if it turned. Please don’t even consider bringing a baby into this situation. A small defenceless baby screaming for hours on end sounds as though it would potentially be prey for this dog. I feel sick at the thought of it.

Holy fuckballs.

No way would I allow my dog or any potential children to be around that dog. It’s a bit of a lose/lose situation for you though - your partner clearly loves his dog and will he forever resent you (and also your dog?) for him having to get rid of his dog? It’s the only sensible way to proceed but if he’s going to be arsey about it forever then it’s probably better to walk away now.

Ok think of it this way.

If you were looking for a lodger and a potential one was another person who had murdered a smaller person before but blamed the smaller person for aggravating them….

Would you let them move in as it was 5 years ago?

No? Well why would you put your own dog in that position? That dog relies on you to keep it safe, not l move it in with something that will 1) dominate it and leave it living in fear and 2) likely rip it to shreds.

If you decide against all the advice here and move in with him, at least do the decent thing and rehome your dog to a safe and loving home.

This. There is only one thing that should be done to pit bulls and that involves a vet and an injection.

No way would I live in a house with one. You are right to be wary if it - and he is an idiot to keep it.

You need to finish this relationship. It’s going no where and I would NEVER have a child with this man and he has no idea about keeping a baby safe.
How does he expect to train his dog to leave a baby alone when he can’t train his dog to leave other dogs alone? He’s delusional.
To move in with him, you would be knowingly putting yourself, your dog and any future children at risk. The only option is to walk away.

I'm guessing lots of parents looking at their disfigured children (or grieving them) thought the same once.

I presume the OP is not in the UK. If she is, then this is either the world's oldest pitbull as it is illegal to breed or sell them since 1991, or it isn't a pitbull.

If it is a pitbull, and she is in the UK, then the owner has broken the law as has the person he got it from.

If the dog has proven to be aggressive (I think killing another dog fits that criteria), then the dog can be destroyed and the owner imprisoned.

Both of those actions would solve your problem @sarahmoore2 as the dog would be gone, and it's owner.

You can’t move in, you can’t have a baby in that house, it’s terribly dangerous. You can’t have a baby with him even if you never moved in, he’d leave the dog with the baby, with his absolutely wrong bullshit of ‘oh we’d train the child to not bother the dog’. All that sentence says is he will say it’s the baby’s fault when the dog attacks and kills it. I think you have to make a call. You should never bring a baby near a dog who’s attacked.

He can’t train his dog. How is he going to ‘train’ a baby?
Dont have children with this man