AIBU for paying child caused damage out of wedding gift money?

[Toffifee1]

Let me start by saying i will absolutely always offer or even insist to pay for damage that my child (or I, I‘m clumsy) caused. But this one i thought was unnecessary.

My DC accidentally broke a plate - a regular, plain, rented plate, nothing fancy, no family heirloom - at a wedding. I apologised and cleaned it up. I did not offer to replace it because it was just a plate at a wedding venue, i thought those damages were kind of included.

Additional info: I know the groom was trying to safe every penny in advance of the wedding while the bride wanted everything extravagant and chic and the pair asked for money as gifts. The wedding was at an expensive instagram-worthy location(castle) but they saved money on everything regarding the guests like low budget food(not even enough) and few drinks.

The groom asked me to replace the plate in front of all the other guests. I was honestly a bit taken aback as i still had the envelope with enough money to more than cover my meal in my purse.
So i reached into my purse, took the envelope, took one of the two 100£ notes out and handed it to him saying „This should cover it, you can give me the change later.“

So basically everyone including the groom realised that i just reduced his gift money. Was i being unreasonable?

There is absolute no way on earth that a wedding venue would want reimbursing for a broken plate, ffs. Crockery and glasses get broken in restaurants, bars and venues every day; it's just a thing that happens. Costs like that are already factored in. The plate probably cost less than a quid in the quantities a venue would buy them in. The groom was being a massive twat by asking you to pay for it, and I suspect every guest who saw him do so was cringing.

Maybe I missed something, but I didn't see op talk about anything that wasn't wedding related.

I don't mean just on the day itself, but in the lead up to and on the day - so it's entirely possible the invitation had already been accepted by the time all this became apparent.

Seriously? You would expect to pay for a rented plate at a wedding?

£100 note?

"£100 note?" is the new "cancel the cheque"

Well the groom certainly let himself down.

Glad I’m not his bride!

Wow bet the bride proud to have married him. The plate would be covered by the caterers. Loads of things get broken at events.

No yanbu he was a prick to talk to you like that infront of everyone!!

I would have made it2 and smashed one over his arrogant head

Yep. The bride has my pity. Imagine marrying a 'man' like that?!

And in front of the guests too? what an total arse wipe!
Hope your DC wasn't aware of and upset by this either.
Sounds exactly like one of those 'fancy fur coat and no knickers' weddings (My dear old Granny used that analogy for all manner of situations!)
Joking aside, I'm sorry you had to endure that nonsense but proud of you for putting him in his place.. 👏

YANBU-and total respect to you for doing that. They deserved it for being such self obsessed, entitled, penny pinching hosts. I bet all the other guests were secretly cheering you on!

You are literally my hero! Well done you, I love this! Serves them right. Love a good dose of karma 👏👏👏

Try living in Scotland dear. You know, it's that big country just North of Gretna Green 🙄

I am a caterer and I supply crockery to events. These plates cost about £2.00 to hire and £2.50 as a replacement cost.

You realise Scotland and NI are in the UK right?

Yes-ever been to Scotland dear? Not everything happens in England you know 🙄

There are £100 notes in Scotland. 🙄

There are £100 notes in Scotland... you know, that big country where we all wear tartan. Not everything happens in England!🙄

I think it was a perfect response. Yes, I would. He wanted to be paid - she offered money.

Given that other family members saw how rude it was to the point that they told him to phone and apologise - it wasn't op that was in the wrong.