friend asking me to go away - AIBU ?

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My friend is single and will be child free bank holiday weekend while her (practically adult) children are at their dads. She has suggested me and her going away for the weekend

AIBU to think she's BU by asking her me to go away with her for the whole weekend, when I have a partner and younger (12, 14,15) DC at home ?

"Sorry partner & DC, amuse yourselves for the 3 days. I'm off for a jolly from the Friday. See you Monday bank holiday evening sometime"

I think it's out of order for me to just bugger off the whole 3 days and for my friend to think this is OK/expect me to go.

It's for 3 DAYS....not 3 weeks!

I bet your kids and DH won't mind.

Go, OP.

This wins today's crazy prize. Give your DH some warning so he can make plans with friends and family then you can go away. Very strange to think that bank holidays have to be spent all together.

She would be unreasonable to have not Invited you!

YABU very U and a bit daft!

I don't get how you are happy to go away for two weeks long haul with your friends on your own but can't consider a long weekend. That doesn't make sense.

Your dc aren't babies. She asked you can say yes or no. It's not unreasonable either way. Tbh (with a dc aged 7 and a husband who's pretty good) it sounds amazing...I know dh support me to go if I really wanted too...do you want to go...if you do ...go...if not don't..

Just say no or suggest another time. I don’t think it’s bad to suggest a father parents his teens for a few days. I’ve had plenty of breaks and it would have been easier had it been bank holiday in some ways as no drop off’s. But regardless say it doesn’t work for you, end of

Gosh, the effrontery of a single person to ask a friend if they might like to go away for a few days. All single people should be condemned to travelling solo and should probably wear some sort of identifying label so others can avoid them.

Jesus Christ, she only asked. She didn’t steal you off the streets for a forced <checks notes> fun weekend away?? Did you really think having children means you can’t go away with friends for the next 20 or 30 years?? Of course she asked on a bank holiday, there is an extra day for going away!! There are more than a handful of them, and they are not sacred family time until your youngest dc is an adult. This is a very weird way of thinking.

I don't see any reason why it would be selfish to have a few days off from looking after your children.

I could understand your reticence if the youngest was two and you had to leave them with a grandparent, but if the youngest is twelve and you're leaving them at home with their dad, you'd be doing absolutely nothing wrong in taking some time for yourself.

Being actively offended by the concept of taking some time for yourself is bizarre to me.

Twaddle. There is nothing special about a bank holiday, unless you are religious and it coincides with one of the religious festivals.

It sounds like you think being separated from your kids on the special holy Bank Holiday Weekend is OK for her but not for you? Not sure how you're going to explain that tactfully

Lots of people takeaway from their families for a few days. Both mums and dads separately with friends. It's normal.

Hope you thanked her for asking. Not everyone has a friend that would ask them to go away.

Why?

She’s not asked you to go away for Christmas 😂 it’s just another bank holiday.

So you view women who go away without their kids & partners as selfish then, eh ?

Seriously tho 🤦‍♀️

I don't get how you are happy to go away for two weeks long haul with your friends on your own but can't consider a long weekend. That doesn't make sense.

I missed that. Even stranger now.

She's not 'expecting' you to go, she's asking you if you'd like to go away. You can say no thanks and spend it with your family if you wish.

Oh get a life ffs.you can do things alone.or with a mate away from.your sainted family

Heaven forbid you have a weekend away! (I am going away with the girls for the BH Weekend!)

This

A fortnight long haul with friends seems selfish to me. I wouldn’t be keen to give up a bank holiday - I’m happy to take a days annual leave for two nights away but that’s about my limit.

I'm curious as to what your husband thinks. Does he agree bank holidays are sacred family time?

It's all a bit wild to me

Have you asked your partner and DC whether they mind? I think you are making a bit of a mountain out of a molehill. The question is do you want to go away with your friend? I don't think it is selfish to take some time away from family to do your own thing but clearly you have issues with it.

You sound smug AF about having a partner 2.4kids

Your mate needs do go get better friends

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