friend asking me to go away - AIBU ?

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My friend is single and will be child free bank holiday weekend while her (practically adult) children are at their dads. She has suggested me and her going away for the weekend

AIBU to think she's BU by asking her me to go away with her for the whole weekend, when I have a partner and younger (12, 14,15) DC at home ?

"Sorry partner & DC, amuse yourselves for the 3 days. I'm off for a jolly from the Friday. See you Monday bank holiday evening sometime"

I think it's out of order for me to just bugger off the whole 3 days and for my friend to think this is OK/expect me to go.

I think it's unreasonable that you are happy to bugger off on a long haul holiday for two weeks without your family, yet get all twitchy and offended when someone asks you to go away for a couple of days without them because (gasp) it's a bank holiday!

So bloody what, it's an extra day on the weekend, it's not particularly special

“Friends are ok”. 😂😂😂

Girls weekend away, whats not to like? Shes not BU at all..

Such drama. You are completely unreasonable. She asked you, which is a nice thing. And if you do not want to go, just say you can't go. That's it really.

I’m a single parent, my single friend suggested booking a hotel and doing absolutely nothing for the Easter weekend. I loved it. Peace and quiet.

Oh get over yourself. She's not unreasonable to suggest it at all. As a single mum myself she wants to make the most of her child free bank holiday weekend. We all need a break from DC sometimes it does us good. There's also no harm in your DH being in soul charge of DC. Does he never go away without you and DC? If DH agrees then go if you want. If you don't want to then tell her you don't.

You're going to end up one of those people who gets all surprised Pikachu face when your kids have grown up and flown the nest and you have no friends left.

Friendships need nurturing too, like any relationship, and I really don't see that there's anything wrong at all with spending the bank holiday weekend with a pal instead of with your family. Your kids are teens not babies, they'd probably relish a weekend to just do their own thing too, they're getting to that age where they're not going to want to spend every spare moment they have doing "family stuff" anyway.

If she asked someone else and not you you’d be on here whinging about that 🤣 it’s quite obvious you look down your nose at this woman but it seems like jealousy deep down.

In that case, if a friend ever asks you if you would like to go away for a bank holiday weekend you should say 'no thank you'.

Don't get all incandescent about it like the OP.

Yes 😂 I don’t really get the point of them. I like Rimmer’s line on Red Dwarf - “I’ve come to think of you as people I know”

Why can’t you just ‘swan off’? Live a little

I probably wouldn't go away on a bank holiday either, but I wouldn't be angry with my friend for asking... Surely you can just say it's lovely that you thought of me but I won't be able to...?

I love my kids to bits but would love a weekend away with a mate! There’s no medals at the end of motherhood, you are allowed to put your happiness first occasionally. Go! X

She does, for two whole weeks a year with her other mates… that’s what’s so bizarre about this whole thing!

Just say no if you don’t want to go, ffs 🙄. It’s absolutely not weird to go away for a weekend and leave your teen children at home with their father/a responsible adult. I’ve been away for a long weekend with a friend and left my then 15month old with his father (my DH), they were absolutely fine, no one died and they had a great time without me!

I don't see anything wrong with her asking, and also nothing wrong with you accepting. There's no difference between leaving your family alone on a BH weekend or any other long weekend of your choice. Your reaction is really odd

She asked you said no,end of. There's no need for a bloody volcano over it, move on.

Its not a strange request and personally I'd go if my kids were the age of yours. It's hardly leaving your DH flying solo with 3 toddlers.

I've seen it all on here now 🙄

She's not a bad person to ask.

You're not a bad person to decline.

Is there anything that she "is* allowed to ask you to do? Would 1 night away be ok for example?

Sorry it just really tickled me!🤣 Ah Red Dwarf- must rewatch.

This. What a weird post. Your poor friend

It’s a bank holiday - not Christmas FFS.

I'd be off in a shot
No idea why you're being so precious about a bank holiday weekend,your kids should be pretty capable without you, just a very odd reaction

It always surprises me what people on MN get offended by. That and how they martyr themselves.

Bonkers
I'd love to spend BH with a friend, I'll go with her.