Thinking that women would benefit if they were more open minded about height in a potential partner…

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… and not write off the majority of men who are under 6 foot (85%).

Women seem to be fighting for a small proportion of men - with the disappointment that will inevitably bring to the many who inevitably won’t succeed. Of course, it’s even crapper for the good,
but short, men out there.

Of course, we all fancy who we fancy, and I’m not saying we should date shorter (or even average!) men out of pity or a “sense of fairness”, but how much of women’s desire to bag a tall guy is actually societal, and down to how they think other women will view them?

Yes yes yes I've lost count of single friends who won't consider a potential boyfriend because they aren't 6ft plus. Bloody stupid in my opinion but then I like shorter men anyway but wouldn't say no to a talk one if he was lovely lol

"Naturally beautiful in a man’s eyes is someone wearing make up but they can’t tell that they have foundation on, blusher, concealer, mascara, lipstick, bronzer, lip filler plus their blond hair is bleached."

????

@Whycantiwinmillionsandsquillions i absolutely agree with your assessment of what a lot of men describe as “naturally besituful” !

I had friends at Uni who were over 6ft. My Boyfriend who was a decent height got totally obsessed that I was going to run off with one of them. He was a nice guy other than this. Until he became a jerk.

He was obsessed with one particular friend who was tall and dark. I ran off with friend. "Reader, I married him". It wasn't about height, he was just far lovelier than my BF.

My Boyfriend who was a decent height got totally obsessed that I was going to run off with one of them.

Well to be fair, he wasn't wrong.

I always preferred men taller than me, but I'm 164 cm., so not really hard to be taller than me. OH is 192 cm.

I'm 5'5'' and my husband is 5'7'' (5'6'' and 5'8'' respectively when we met twenty odd year ago) and I can honestly say I hadn't even considered men's heights as a factor when dating. I don't think my friends did either but I could be wrong, it was just never discussed.

More recently though an acquaintance was dating and she was adamant about 6' being her minimum height for a man - I thought that was quite odd as she is only 5'1''. She is not someone I would be interested in a friendship with though as she is very into comparing and competing with others (and letting them know with the jellyfish comments). So, from my tiny sample I can come to the very unscientific conclusion that is only women who are a bit unpleasant who think like this and the average/short men are at an advantage as they weed themselves out 😏

So rather than buy a stool for £10 you'd risk a lifetime of misery with an unsuitable man just because he is tall ?

OK then. People on here go on about making good choices ...

For me personally it's nothing to do with society
I have a visceral reaction to tall men. I think it's massively sexy. It adds hugely to my enjoyment of their body and to sex in general. It literally makes me giddy. I'll stop now 😂

I think that comment was tongue in cheek.

Perhaps she had an urgent need for the fondue set and there were no stools in stock?
Or perhaps she was joking...? I'm leaning towards one of these as the explanation, but can't quite make my mind up which is most likely...

@NonPlayerCharacter The stupid thing is, actually I was totally planning to spend my life with my Ex. It's just he became insanely jealous whenever I spoke to anyone tall and dark-haired. This went on for two years and he started obsessing with how much time I spent with my friends and assuming that anyone over six foot was somehow out to steal me away.

Yes, I did get fed up... And having him point out why my DH was better than him DID make me see DH as being more than just a friend. I don't think I would've otherwise.

My point on this thread is that men over six foot often have a level of confidence about themselves. I don't think I'd care about his height if he wasn't bothered himself. Now I'm married to someone who hits his head on beams instead 😂

Being a short woman isn't seen as unattractive and it's probably them keeping the short genes going-they're finding tall men to have kids with but some of the sons are still taking after the mother. It's not the tall women having short sons-even if they had a short dad the son would more than likely be taller than the mother.

Yes - I wouldn’t rule out a tall man if I was otherwise attracted to him, but many women do rule out shorter men.

Used to work with a tall, ex military guy. Loads of women in the office drooled over him even though facially he was average!

I'm 4'11'' and my husband is 6'1''. I had not set out to marry a tall man - it was a nice bonus but hardly the be all and end all.

Likewise, I've had shorter male friends whom I've met during the course of my marriage - 5'5'' to 5'8'' - had the circumstances been different, I would have been quite happy to date any of them but my husband found me first.

I don't think height is being selected for as much as the internet seems to think. I know that my husband has dated much taller women than me.

They should rule them out if they're not attracted to them though, because often if a woman tries to date a man she's not attracted to then that will lead to problems in the relationships.

I agree @SpudleyLass i also think (if you’re a
shorter woman in particular) it’s easy to lose sight of what 6 foot actually is. I think a lot of women saying they have 6 foot husbands actually have husbands an inch or two shorter, but ‘they’re 6 foot because they look tall’.

Only 15% of men are this height or over, so about 1 in 7ish.

I think people have strange ideas about what 6ft is. I'm 6ft in heels, which people are amazed at.'you're 6ft?wow!' But it's not that big.

Having said that, that does make me taller than all my friends' dhs. And a lot of the men in work. And about a centimetre taller than my own.

I wonder if, subconsciously, we expect men to be taller because they're always portrayed that way and because we associate height with power, we assume men will be taller.

Ha ha this is so funny. I’m 5 ft 8, my DH is 6ft 2. My inside leg is 31 inches, his is 29 inches. Tall does not equal long legs!

He must have a very long body.

Ive had boyfriends of 6ft or over. None of them have had 29”leg.

Ds is 6 ft 4, he’s a 36” leg
DD is 5ft 11. She’s a 34 leg
Dh is 6 1 He’s a 34 leg
I’ve got a 32 inch leg.

29” leg is about 5ft 7/6

Ridiculously long. Somewhat out of proportion really but I love him all the same.

I’ll say it again leg length and height are not always correlated.

You’re right, after 30 years together I should ditch him and invest in a stool.

Hard to tell if they're being serious or not (they probably are) when there's some posters who won't date someone shorter because of how it'll look when they wear high heels once in a blue moon 🙄

My ex was 5ft11 and an absolute abusive cunt
My new partner is 5ft5 (I’m 5ft2) and is honestly the best thing that’s ever happened to me (behind my dc)

Looking at this from another perspective, I’m 5’11’’ (and 35 inch inside leg so literally all limbs) and when I was single some guys were really funny about dating a taller woman. So it’s not just women who might have preferences regarding height. Happily my husband is half an inch taller than me and I rarely wear heels