I know I'm going to sound ungrateful here so please go easy on me 😅.
I work 2 night shifts per week. Same 3 nights on rotation, eg Mon & Thurs, Mon & Saturday, Thurs & Saturday. The Saturday nights I work my kids go to their dad's house. When I work Mon & Thurs night my younger sister stays at mine and mind's kids. Until just before Christmas my mum would stay,but her night shifts have changed to the nights I'm working.
My sister is great and I'm so appreciative of the fact she minds my kids for free. I'd be stuck without her. My issue is the mess she leaves behind. I've no problem with her making food, eating whatever she wants, I always make sure the cupboards are stocked so she can help herself to whatever she wants. She just never cleans up after herself. Sometimes her useless bf comes over too, he's another story, and there's 4 times the mess.
This morning kind of crossed the line. When I leave for work at night there isn't a thing out of place. Not even a cup in the sink. When I come home this morning after a hard night the place was a mess. 4 plates and 4 sets of cutlery lying in the sink. Cups everywhere. Glasses of juice left on living room floor that one of my kids had accidentally knocked over. Juice left then to dry in so a sticky dirty floor. Empty food packages they'd used sitting on the worktop above the bin. Spilt food dried into the top of the oven.
My worktop had to be wiped of spillages straight away or else they soak into it and stain. I've said this to her before, but this morning there was tea and blackcurrant juice spilt on it that wasn't cleaned off and it has now stained the worktop and it will be hard to remove.
Her bf must have stayed last night because when I went into my room it just had that 'man smell'. He leaves before I come home because he knows I'm not fussed on him.
Like I say I know I should be grateful of the free help, and I really am, but is it too much to ask her to clean up after herself or should I just suck it up?
AIBU?
To ask sister to clean up
Rebellion86 · 16/04/2024 13:07
Am I being unreasonable?
363 votes. Final results.
POLLNewestname002 · 16/04/2024 13:17
@Rebellion86
Her bf must have stayed last night because when I went into my room it just had that 'man smell'. He leaves before I come home because he knows I'm not fussed on him.
Do you mean your bedroom? He's sleeping/having sex in your bed? 🤢
AmiShitsaline · 16/04/2024 13:59
I think you’re gonna have to suck it up as she is doing you a favour, however would it be an option to pay her to clean (not just her stuff but a list of jobs)?
Health47 · 16/04/2024 14:06
Pay her to clean the pots that she and her boyfriend have used to eat OPs food that she buys in for them? Really?!?!
Yes she’s doing you a favour OP but she should still be respectful of your home
AmiShitsaline · 16/04/2024 13:59
I think you’re gonna have to suck it up as she is doing you a favour, however would it be an option to pay her to clean (not just her stuff but a list of jobs)?
AmiShitsaline · 16/04/2024 14:10
No, I said a list of jobs, so if OP could agree for her to clean kitchen, bathroom, vac up, mop floors, strip beds etc, it would include some of her own mess of course but it would also make her more mindful of creating more mess.
Health47 · 16/04/2024 14:06
Pay her to clean the pots that she and her boyfriend have used to eat OPs food that she buys in for them? Really?!?!
Yes she’s doing you a favour OP but she should still be respectful of your home
AmiShitsaline · 16/04/2024 13:59
I think you’re gonna have to suck it up as she is doing you a favour, however would it be an option to pay her to clean (not just her stuff but a list of jobs)?
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AmiShitsaline · 16/04/2024 13:59
I think you’re gonna have to suck it up as she is doing you a favour, however would it be an option to pay her to clean (not just her stuff but a list of jobs)?
Rebellion86 · 16/04/2024 15:06
I love her but she's very lazy 😅. They don't have their own house, they live in his bedroom and his laziness has rubbed off on her. My mum is constantly on at her because she'll do the same in her hoise, use cups plates etc and leave them in the sink for my mum to wash
AmiShitsaline · 16/04/2024 13:59
I think you’re gonna have to suck it up as she is doing you a favour, however would it be an option to pay her to clean (not just her stuff but a list of jobs)?
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