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Would you make a complaint about these paramedics?

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WatermelonWaveclub · 16/04/2024 10:30

I went to my GP the other day as I kept fainting when coughing. The GP said my HR was sky high. Then I coughed and fainted in front of the GP. Afterwards I couldn't move my legs properly. She phoned the hospital who said I need an ambulance. The GP got someone to get me in a wheelchair and take me to the nurse's room where I was put on a bed in a cubicle.

Anyway a few minutes later the ambulance crew turn up (3 of them). They did an ECG - ok but tachycardic. I said my legs were feeling ok by then. They did a lying and standing BP and checked I could feel both sides of my face, could hold both arms up, checked pupils etc. So they say they need to take me to hospital. They start heading off and so I follow them on foot. They're all walking ahead of me, chatting away, not one seeing if I'm ok. So consequently we get into the car park - I have a coughing fit and next thing I know I'm waking up on the car park floor.

I can't stop thinking about it. Were they at fault? Should they have used a wheelchair or at least someone walked with me? At the hospital they wouldn't even let me go to my scans etc in a wheelchair, I had to be taken in my bed. So if GP and nurse wouldn't let me walk was it right that the paramedics did?

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WatermelonWaveclub · 17/04/2024 11:32

Checkitt · 17/04/2024 01:20

you’re right, if there’s a risk of you randomly passing out then you shouldn’t have been left alone, let alone left to walk by yourself unmonitored whilst they walked ahead of you. They should have constantly observed you. Accident waiting to happen otherwise. Although their version of events may be different to yours? They might have thought you were waiting for them or that you wanted to walk? Maybe they were going to move the ambulance closer or get equipment?

I once got into a car accident but was essentially left with a sore leg. The NHS still called an ambulance out to check me over and the paramedics still made sure I was okay to walk before leaving me alone to do that. They definitely were risk averse under the circumstances as it was a really minor accident so it’s odd your paramedics weren’t as risk averse. But again, their version of events may be different especially as you were unwell at the time and fainted so your recollection may not be perfect. Their version of events might be different

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Yes, I think it will be good for me to know their version of events. The thing is even if a patient 'wants to walk' it you think it's too risky you don't have to let them.

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WatermelonWaveclub · 17/04/2024 11:34

Wornoutlady · 17/04/2024 02:26

@oakleaffy I've recently been left half blind after an operation that was designed to save my sight. I think my perspective is possibly more refined than your "theories".

I'm sorry to hear about that

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WatermelonWaveclub · 17/04/2024 11:39

YoureALizardHarry11 · 17/04/2024 03:17

Did you tell them you had fainted several times when coughing over several days? If so, they should have either insisted you used a wheelchair to the ambulance or at least stood next to you/linked your arm as you were walking. However, you could have also informed them that you didn’t feel safe to walk, why didn’t you? Paramedics are worked to the bone and I’m assuming since you didn’t speak up and your observations were fine, it was probably just a misjudgment. I’d let them off.

They would have had a handover from my GP. My Obs weren't fine and I told them how unwell I felt. But I wasn't really with it due to the brain bleed.

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WatermelonWaveclub · 17/04/2024 11:47

eise · 17/04/2024 03:39

Except you were fully conscious as you said before. You were examined etc.
When the paramedics came round to the GP practice you had come round from the initial episode and were examined etc. You only fainted again AFTER the coughing fit on the way to the car park.

So you had made the decision while you were conscious to walk behind them, knowing full well what your symptoms were. This didn't start at the GP practice - you went there specifically due to those symptoms. I am ashamed for you seeing as you do not want to take ownership for your own actions as well. So the blame should be fully on the paramedics and not you as well?

I had come round from fainting. However, that is not the only way someone can become unconscious/semi conscious. The ambulance crew were aware of my neurological symptoms.

I was not capable of making a decision as I was having a brain bleed. That did indeed start at the GP practice. The fainting due to coughing, yes, started earlier.

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WatermelonWaveclub · 17/04/2024 11:50

eise · 17/04/2024 03:42

My issue is that she chose to also walk behind them when she knew she had these symptoms and had just had an episode at the GP practise.
The paramedics may have been rubbish but why didn't she refuse and explain that she was scared she would faint again? She was unwell, she hasn't suddenly lost her mental faculties.

Actually, I had. Until you have it happen to you maybe you won't understand. When I was going to the ambulance it felt like I was watching myself.

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eise · 17/04/2024 12:03

SaffronSpice · 17/04/2024 11:12

Why didn’t she refuse to walk? Because she had a brain bleed. Do you also think America didn’t exist before Columbus discovered it?

You are just looking for an argument.
She said after the fact - you can see my posts. Go and argue with someone else. I don't have the energy sorry.

eise · 17/04/2024 12:05

WatermelonWaveclub · 17/04/2024 11:50

Actually, I had. Until you have it happen to you maybe you won't understand. When I was going to the ambulance it felt like I was watching myself.

Hope you get well soon. If you already had a brain haemorrhage and neurological symptoms contact them and make a complaint. They should have been watching out for you either way

WatermelonWaveclub · 17/04/2024 12:07

coldweathertherapy · 17/04/2024 10:38

Did they offer you an appointment in a downstairs room? I’m surprised it was assumed you’d be safe and have the ability to climb the stairs.
It sounds as though you struggled to climb them and didn’t have help or supervision to climb down them, despite there being 2 risk factors of frequent faints and a suspected stroke.
I think you said that the neurological symptoms that the doctor identified were a transient weakness to both legs. Were other symptoms identified? Stroke symptoms are one sided as far as I’m aware but the doctor was still concerned enough to call an ambulance.
I don’t understand why you were expected to make the trip to the surgery on your own in the first place and were not offered a home visit or advised to call an ambulance given the risk of fainting and falling on route.
I’m baffled, several unknown factors, which is why I’d have thought not letting you walk to the ambulance would have been the safest option.

No, I had to go upstairs. Stupid me, I should have used the lift. When I came down I was in a wheelchair that went in the lift.

As for the neurological exam - it's quite hazy as to the exact details. But I remember both legs jerking and not being able to move them. I assume that further assessments were done. I remember the ambulance crew doing some tests too. My face I couldn't feel on one side, I believe. But I can't remember too much, tbh. Sorry, I know I'm not being completely clear on this. Some things I seem to remember with clarity and others much less.

It was 111 that made the decision for me to go to the GP surgery.

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Arlanymor · 17/04/2024 12:09

One the of ways services get better is through patient feedback. This is an example where there could have been a better outcome for OP, so I think it’s perfectly reasonable to raise it and see what the response is. Whether or not you want to complain is another issue to be honest. Worth getting in touch with PALS to ask about your options.

WatermelonWaveclub · 17/04/2024 12:14

eise · 17/04/2024 10:48

OP didn't say she had a brain haemorrhage before she went to the GP. If she was fully conscious and attended the GP knowing what her symptoms were, why didn't she refuse to walk. That was my question.

If a doctor tells me to do something risky, I will not do it if I do not feel safe. It's easy and quick to place blame on healthcare workers - which should be done in this case, however OP should also take responsibility if her brain bleed only came after the fall in the car park.

Fair enough, I've not been the clearest. But I have now explained to you multiple times that I was not in a position to make an informed decision. And besides the point, HCPs have to make their own risk assessment - that is their job.

The bleed happened in the GPs room. But putting that aside I was really unwell with whooping cough and had just lost consciousness and had concerning neuro symptoms. I had a terrible headache, severe nausea and was covered in a cold sweat. I was badly unwell and when people are badly unwell they are not in a position to make their own risk assessment.

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pikkumyy77 · 17/04/2024 12:17

The repeated posts from @eise reveal a stubborn and absurdly childish approach to AIBU. It is not a forum that requires you to find fault on both sides. You do not win a prize for pretending to be thoughtful and even handed when in reality you just have a strong antipathy for people who stand up for themselves and other vulnerable people.

Rozbos · 17/04/2024 12:22

I'm genuinely baffled by anyone who thinks the OP shouldn't complain!

She presented with frequent losses of consciousness - associated with coughing. Therefore likely to happen again if she coughed which she obviously would.

Additionally they had cause to do a neurological examination so clearly there were neurological concerns. The examination had shown deficits, and she needed further examination quickly else she would have been a lower ambulance priority.

There were three crew so even if only one had stayed with her whilst they got a chair or even walked with her they could have safeguarded her from further injury. Personally I would have thought it utterly inappropriate for her to be walking at all but unassisted is mind boggling. She could have fallen and caused herself a fatal head injury whilst in the ambulance crews care, obviously this isn't right!

I would absolutely feed back to them that this should be a learning experience. I would also want to check that your loc in the car park had been datix'd, I would suspect not.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 17/04/2024 12:30

@eise - speaking as a former nurse, it doesn't matter when @WatermelonWaveclub had the brain bleed. Her symptoms were so serious that the GP rang for an ambulance. She was passing out repeatedly, when she stood up and coughed. Under no circumstances should she have been left to walk to the ambulance unaccompanied.

Frankly, they should have used the wheelchair that was in the room with her, but even if they did think she should walk to the ambulance, they should have been WITH her, monitoring her, ready to assist if she fainted again, not walking ahead of her, not even watching her.

There are no excuses for what they did - it was negligent.

PampasGrass · 17/04/2024 12:36

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pikkumyy77 · 17/04/2024 12:56

Righteous! @PampasGrass !

Tahinii · 17/04/2024 13:26

eise · 17/04/2024 10:48

OP didn't say she had a brain haemorrhage before she went to the GP. If she was fully conscious and attended the GP knowing what her symptoms were, why didn't she refuse to walk. That was my question.

If a doctor tells me to do something risky, I will not do it if I do not feel safe. It's easy and quick to place blame on healthcare workers - which should be done in this case, however OP should also take responsibility if her brain bleed only came after the fall in the car park.

So because someone is “fully conscious” they’re fully able and have the mental capacity to make decisions? As someone with an expertise in mental capacity, although it should be presumed, they should do basic checks which they did not.

pikkumyy77 · 17/04/2024 13:43

Maybe because of our insurance system and privatized healthcare in the US Paramedics and ambulance companies are extremely risk averse and generally err in the side of securing the patient rather than leaving them wandering unsupported. Even if you don’t know for sure that the patient might lose consciousness (which they did know) or if you don’t know for sure if they have a broken neck (for example) you are going to prefer securing and immobilizing the patient for safety’s sake. Better too cautious than being the cause of further harm or degradation of patient’s status.

Obviously our private insurance/health care system sucks. But at least we don’t expect patients to be neglected by professionals and just suck it up and say “so sorry, squire,I bled on your Auboisson.”

Pollymollydolly · 17/04/2024 15:08

eise · 17/04/2024 12:03

You are just looking for an argument.
She said after the fact - you can see my posts. Go and argue with someone else. I don't have the energy sorry.

Dear god, the irony.

It’s a pity you didn’t run out of energy to argue a lot earlier - you have posted with a complete lack of empathy or consideration for the op and seem determined to argue your point despite the facts.

Frankly I would expect a taxi driver to show more care to somebody being collected from a GP practice than was shown to the op by the ambulance crew who attended.

fromaytobe · 17/04/2024 15:15

pikkumyy77 · 16/04/2024 12:37

OP should complain for the sake of OTHER PEOPLE. Its literally the job of the EMTs to get people in poor shape safely to the hospital. Everyone saying “take some responsibility “ and “oh now the EMTs get it was not a one off when she hit the floor for the third time” ? I can’t find words to describe how moronic that is. The EMTs did not correctly evaluate this patient for the risk of collapse, snd she did collapse and was needlessly injured while in their care. There is no excuse for this! They should be reported so they can receive more training.

Or... on the other hand and 99.999% more likely, they had left the patient in a safe place (in a cubicle at the doctor's surgery) and had gone to the ambulance to get their chair or a stretcher out of it, and were going to return to collect the patient. The OP had misunderstood and had tried to follow them.

When I collapsed at home, I felt a lot better after they had been with me for a while, but they said they would take me into hospital as a precaution anyway. I said I could walk to the ambulance and they point blank refused to let me, and went and got their wheelchair out of the ambulance.

RawBloomers · 17/04/2024 15:21

fromaytobe · 17/04/2024 15:15

Or... on the other hand and 99.999% more likely, they had left the patient in a safe place (in a cubicle at the doctor's surgery) and had gone to the ambulance to get their chair or a stretcher out of it, and were going to return to collect the patient. The OP had misunderstood and had tried to follow them.

When I collapsed at home, I felt a lot better after they had been with me for a while, but they said they would take me into hospital as a precaution anyway. I said I could walk to the ambulance and they point blank refused to let me, and went and got their wheelchair out of the ambulance.

If it were the case they had gone to get a stretcher because they thought she should not walk then they became negligent when they realised she was following (as they must have to have held the door open for her) and did not then try and get her to sit down or, if she refused, start walking with her.

Nanaof1 · 17/04/2024 15:57

fromaytobe · 17/04/2024 15:15

Or... on the other hand and 99.999% more likely, they had left the patient in a safe place (in a cubicle at the doctor's surgery) and had gone to the ambulance to get their chair or a stretcher out of it, and were going to return to collect the patient. The OP had misunderstood and had tried to follow them.

When I collapsed at home, I felt a lot better after they had been with me for a while, but they said they would take me into hospital as a precaution anyway. I said I could walk to the ambulance and they point blank refused to let me, and went and got their wheelchair out of the ambulance.

LOL! Yes, because proper procedure states that it takes ALL THREE ambulance personnel to retrieve a chair or gurney! facepalm

They actually dropped the ball in SO many ways. Even the thought of them leaving her alone is horrific. While they "chatted" and got the stretcher/chair, OP could have gone into cardiac arrest, had another stroke or burst an aneurysm.

I am SO thankful that many of you are not involved in health care. Or, perhaps say, I pray and hope you are not. FFS!

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 17/04/2024 16:07

fromaytobe · 17/04/2024 15:15

Or... on the other hand and 99.999% more likely, they had left the patient in a safe place (in a cubicle at the doctor's surgery) and had gone to the ambulance to get their chair or a stretcher out of it, and were going to return to collect the patient. The OP had misunderstood and had tried to follow them.

When I collapsed at home, I felt a lot better after they had been with me for a while, but they said they would take me into hospital as a precaution anyway. I said I could walk to the ambulance and they point blank refused to let me, and went and got their wheelchair out of the ambulance.

One of the paramedics held the door open for her, @fromaytobe - they knew fine well that she was following them, so it doesn’t matter what they were going to do - they turned their backs on a very unstable patient who had a history of multiple fainting episodes, and whose neuro exam was bad enough that they knew she needed to go to hospital.

Then when the patient fainted - again - in the car park, they did not even notice, until after she had regained consciousness again.

And before any of that, they had examined the patient in a room with a wheelchair in it - so even if they had thought she needed to be wheeled out to the ambulance, they could, and should have either used the chair that was right there, or told her they thought she needed a chair or stretcher, and then left at least one of them with her, whilst the others went out to the ambulance to get it.

WatermelonWaveclub · 17/04/2024 16:24

fromaytobe · 17/04/2024 15:15

Or... on the other hand and 99.999% more likely, they had left the patient in a safe place (in a cubicle at the doctor's surgery) and had gone to the ambulance to get their chair or a stretcher out of it, and were going to return to collect the patient. The OP had misunderstood and had tried to follow them.

When I collapsed at home, I felt a lot better after they had been with me for a while, but they said they would take me into hospital as a precaution anyway. I said I could walk to the ambulance and they point blank refused to let me, and went and got their wheelchair out of the ambulance.

They hadn't left me in a safe place if I was walking behind them, had they? And it doesn't take 3 people to get a wheelchair especially considering there was a wheelchair already in the cubicle! I can 100% say they did not do that.

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WatermelonWaveclub · 17/04/2024 16:29

Nanaof1 · 17/04/2024 15:57

LOL! Yes, because proper procedure states that it takes ALL THREE ambulance personnel to retrieve a chair or gurney! facepalm

They actually dropped the ball in SO many ways. Even the thought of them leaving her alone is horrific. While they "chatted" and got the stretcher/chair, OP could have gone into cardiac arrest, had another stroke or burst an aneurysm.

I am SO thankful that many of you are not involved in health care. Or, perhaps say, I pray and hope you are not. FFS!

Yes, this is where I can piece things together. If they wanted me to stay in the cubicle they wouldn't have left me alone. If they had wanted a wheelchair there was one right there. If they were going for a stretcher as soon as they realised I was walking behind they would have taken me back to the cubicle.

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Italianita · 17/04/2024 16:49

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