I went to a posh party with DH on Saturday. It was a fundraising event for a wheelchair and a hospital bed, hosted by a school mum who has a child in the same year as one of mine. (The fundraised wasn't for her child btw). We NEVER go to parties, certainly not posh ones. We are both shy introverts, but we definitely wanted to show our support for this one.
Anyway, I have this beautiful halter neck top and matching trousers from Reiss from about 20 years ago, still looks brand new, as I very rarely wear it. I am only 5.2", and the trousers drag on the floor until I put my Esska platforms on, and then voila, the whole outfit comes together and I feel a million dollars.
Upon arrival to the party I saw there was a huge pile of shoes and saw the people before us removing their shoes. The host stood there almost blocking the entrance until the guests were barefoot. I am not exaggerating when I say that I really wanted to turn around and leave. Instead, I had to remove my platforms and feel like a 5 year old in her mummy's clothes, constantly pinching my trousers upwards so I wouldn't walk on them.
I know that there was an episode in sex and the city about something similar and I detest the Carrie character, but I empathise with her on this one.
It could have been worse, as I contemplated wearing a cocktail dress which would have meant putting on my toeless tights, how embarrassing would that have been!!
AIBU that there should have been a note on the invitation so that guests could have chosen their outfit accordingly?
AIBU?
to expect host to let her party guests know that she has a no shoes policy?
JustABitOfUncertainty · 15/04/2024 14:31
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLCaspianberg · 15/04/2024 14:35
No. If it’s in someone’s house I would always assume shoes off.
They would be off at mine also unless it was a garden party. Heals would also damage most wooden floors regardless of dirt
Icanseethebeach · 15/04/2024 14:37
It wouldn’t occur to me to wear outdoor shoes in someone’s house.
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