AIBU to feel irritated by DH asking me to cover up when I don't want sex?

[RaspberryRippleDuvet]

There are times of the month when I really don't want sex but my DH will still be really horny.

At these times he will tell me not to sit in a certain way that shows my curves, or he'll cover my legs with a blanket if I'm showing any part of them. When I seem irritated by this he says he finds it too hard to see me in any way he deems sexy as he knows he won't be having sex with me.

To be clear, I'm not attempting to 'tease' him in any way; I'm just going about my life.

AIBU to find this behaviour of his annoying and controlling? Or should I be more sensitive?

There are so many disgusting, sex obsessed men out there. It's enough to make me want to sack them off forever.

I can't add much as a response to the OP beyond what has already been said but who the fuck are the 3% who think YABU to be irritated by this behaviour???

He doesn't love you, he's controlling you and abusing you.

Men's Rights Activist deathbyfluffy (page 3 or so) has mobilised the NAMALT crowd.

And saying that NAMALT doesn’t help the op and her position. Her husband is like that. She needs help, all the other men who are lovely can just wait for a minute.

Your update is concerning op as your DH sounds very controlling. You should never feel pressured to have sex. Have you had a conversation with your DH about how you're feeling?

We have a tracker app so he always knows where I am

Wtf? And you let him do this? Run. Run fast.

He's not tracking you to keep you safe, he's doing it to keep you under his control. This man is not a good husband, he's a nasty controlling sex pest. None of what you describe is normal. YABU to only be irritated by his behaviour, you should be fucking furious! How dare he?!

Op I think that you have completely lost the understanding of what is normal. None of what you have said it normal.

OP were you very young when you met him? I know you said you’ve been with him 25 years. I’m wondering if you were very young making you even more vulnerable? I agree with everyone else that this behaviour is abusive & he’s making it all your responsibility (you have to cover up, he has to track your movements). He’s not taking any responsibility for his behaviour.
It also reminded me of the justification for Muslim women to wear the hijab or burka which while I try to be open minded about other religions I find very concerning from a feminist perspective.

Just when I think the bar can't get any lower, along comes a man who's buried it 6 feet deeper.

WTAF? OP he is not 'lovely' he is completely unhinged and frankly sounds like he's one step away from being an actual danger to Women.

This is so, so far away from normal behaviour. I've got literally no idea how you can bring yourself to have sex with him at any time.

You feel like a trapped animal because you are one.
You’re being controlled and abused. He likely targeted you because of your childhood, men like this seek out victims of abuse because your boundaries are skewed.
Accusing you of cheating is classic behaviour of a cheater. They do it, so can’t understand how you don’t.
There so much wrong with this relationship, please keep talking on here and get help.,

He sounds controlling rather than protective. That would make me feel trapped too. He sees you as his possession and that is abusive. I also wonder if you got together very young and he saw how vulnerable you are. Do you have children or supportive friends/family?

Seriously it changes because he's not getting what he wants so tantrums ..
What's his attitude to women who wear skirts showing legs are they asking to be raped?

He needs go take a look photo of you in a bikini to a private area and sort himself out then

OP his behaviour is very odd and it's worrying that you are accepting of it. If you have been married for a while you will be used to him so his behaviour seems normal. But what I think you can take from everyone's replies to you is that it isn't ok. Perhaps you posted because you sense too that it isn't ok. A recording device in the living room? A tracking app? Imagine a friend explaining that her husband did those things, what would your response be? He is exerting quite a degree of control and it may be a good idea to seek advice on how to approach this so that you can safely extricate yourself from this situation.

And if they were lovely, they wouldn't be here scolding abused women, they'd be out trying to do something about abusive men. It's male behaviour and men are the ones who need to take responsibility, as a class, for changing it.

I’m sorry but he isn’t ‘protective’. He’s controlling. Do you have children?

It's very odd behaviour to the point he needs help. I'm assuming you are sitting around in sexy lingerie or deliberately revealing clothes to wind him up (as tempting as that is? If he really struggles with this then it's actually something he should speak to a professional about before he does something he later regrets

I'm really worried for you @RaspberryRippleDuvet. None of what you describe is part of a 'normal' healthy relationship.
I agree with all of the pps, he has eroded your self worth and you can't see that this isn't right. I pray you can get the help you sound like you desperately need.
Take care of yourself.
Also, have my first LTB.

I’m hoping they have put that because they think she’s BU to still be in a relationship with him.

Op run. Run for the hills.

This man has been controlling you for decades. Your update is really worrying: tracking apps are NOT normal in an way or shape.

Please get some advice on coercive control and get out.

Gosh OP Your update is even worse. How often have you had sex when you don’t really want to, to stop him going on at you? I hope you find the support and strength to get help

This is creepy as fuck, Op.

This is the behaviour of a sexual predator. Sounds dangerous.