Prostitute checked into our hotel!

[GrumpyL]

Ok, so away in London for a couple of days with DH and DD (10). We were staying in a 4* Hotel which is part of a large chain of hotels, not a small independent. We went to reception about 10.30 on the 2nd morning and was met with a lady (who was very obviously a prostitute) being told her room would be ready in 5 mins and her handing over £100 in cash to the receptionist. The hotel is £250+ a night and check in is 3pm!

AIBU to this this made the hotel feel a bit icky and sleazy after I saw that? Husband and I spoke briefly when DD wasn’t listening and he said “well they have to work somewhere!”. Not sure if I’m turning into a prude in my old age, but I really didn’t feel comfortable in the hotel after I saw that. I’m sure for her, it was a safe and comfortable place to work and I know this goes on in hotels, I suppose just seeing it in broad daylight shocked me a bit. We knew what she was there for, the receptionist knew what she was there for, the man behind us in the queue knew what she was there for, maybe I thought she and the hotel should have been a bit more discreet if they allow this to go on in their hotel, especially when it’s a family friendly hotel and there were a lot of children around?

How do you think the hotel could be "more discreet"? Did the receptionist actually say "We'll send your john up to Room 69 when he arrives"?

I suppose if you think sex workers are picking up clients in the hotel bar you might be uncomfortable there. Or if you felt kerb crawlers were hanging around the area that would be unpleasant. I'm sure your DD will be unaware of other hotel guests, unless you make a fuss.

No context? Someone at a check in desk judged and labelled another person with no evidence other than they paid in cash during daylight hours. Gross.

And please hold your damn horses - sneering is snide, I wasn’t being snide, I was being DIRECT as I genuinely think you have missed out on lots of public debate about why the term sex worker is more applicable than prostitute and has been for a very long time - it really came to prominence around the time of the Ipswich murders. Which was a fair few years ago - hence behind the times.

I literally cannot reply to the rest of your post as it’s projecting and illogical. Happy to have a debate, but assuming loads of crap about me makes you look silly frankly. You know cock all about me, my politics or my views on anything.

You have absolutely no way to know what the woman was or what type of work she does.

But the OP said it was a chain and I can't think of a single one that accepts cash.

Happy to be corrected though.

Posh hotels are not safer for prostitutes.

Right so you see a woman you think looks like a sex worker (whatever that means), paying cash for day use.

Do you mind if a laced-up businessman fucks his girlfriend there, between zoom meetings, for which he is paid?

Sex work is legal
Day use at hotels is a thing
Many many people fuck at hotels
Many many people work while staying in hotels

Not sure what the problem is

I'm happy she is in a relatively safe place

@BettyShagter we don't accept cash, day use rooms have to be booked online but there are a few that do because the affair sector is big business and they know people want to be discreet.

I'm intrigued as to how you could tell. Even standing well within her personal space I can't imagine how you could tell unless she gave you a business card.

My DW is known to have rented hotel rooms, usually not bedrooms, for the day. She them goes and meets a variety of people there - for meetings and courses.

I feel that the poster is being somewhat judgemental here? This particular woman, if she is as the OP worries, is less likely to disturb her stay than a member of the maintenance team checking fire alarms.

We're not talking red light areas, cars cruising, syringes, pimps etc here.

Not unconnected. In a previous life in the early 80s my DW used to work for a large company. Factories all over the UK.

She, and others in her team, were sent to other branches to work there for a week. They had to sort out their own accommodation - usually in small hotels.
She sometimes had problems booking - often told they were full. Later a colleague (male) would phone up and get a booking.
She tacked one hotel about this and was told in a roundabout way that they didn't want prostitutes/sex workers operating from their hotel. They'd judged her from voice - young and female. She got her booking and were apologetic (I suspect they realised they could have lost a deal of trade)

What's the etc?

Working ladies and gents used to hang out near my old office so I'm interested in what you think defines the look. As opposed to people shambling around the morning after the night before😄

You must have been standing very close to her to have gleaned so much information.

No, being allowed to work together from their own private flats for security and company and to reduce costs (which would mean having to see fewer punters) would be far safer, but unfortunately the law and those who make it doesn't give a toss about that.

In the meantime, a busy place like a hotel where plenty of other people are about if something goes wrong seems like an extremely sensible compromise.

@Simonjt It was very dense foam into which he'd dug a narrow tunnel.

Initial thoughts were that it was some kind of drugs drop situation but on further investigation, no, worse.

Gosh OP you sound incredibly judgey.

If, and let's say if, she was a sex worker. How do you know she wasn't just checking in to get showered, rest and feel safe from grubby punters for a bit?

Think I've missed the post where you are overwhelmed with concern for her welfare...

Is it The Sanderson - by any chance?

Anyone else curious what this outfit was and wondering how prostitutey their own wardrobe may look?!

Wow, I mean it's shit on housekeeping to have to sort it, but you'd genuinely rather a woman suffers paid rape than a sofa gets damaged?

I used to work in a hotel, ‘day use’ rooms are very common, usually from 9-5 and about the same price this lady paid.

Hotels do get to know which guests are sex workers but they usually were the ones dressed the opposite of what everyone pictures and usually are there in the evening going up to the room of a male guest not getting their own room.

these day use rooms tended to be either:
-people there between business meetings or for flight/train layovers
-filming porn (one heavily made up woman and handsome man who have all sorts of bags, cases and sometimes tripods) housekeeping always knew and they were banned as hotels don’t like their rooms featuring in porn
-or what this most likely was, a woman arranging to meet a man for an affair while his wife thinks he’s at work, they always pay cash and are dressed in the ‘heels, trench coat with just undies under’ type ensemble, room is usually under smith or jones or something, it’s obvious as sin but not a crime, we all used to be embarrassed for them as it just screams desperate, these are the majority of day room bookings I found, worst was when they came regularly and thought we didn’t know 🙄

That's not as bad as what I experienced in a 5 star hotel in central London. I used to stay two nights a week for work, with a male colleague - I don't mean together, he had a separate room! Anyway, several times reception phoned his room in the evening and asked if he required "special services". When he asked them to elaborate they made it clear what they were offering.
I was really shocked that this was happening in a 5 star hotel - prostitution being offered by members of staff!! It also pissed me off to think that many married men would be away for work, relaxing with no thoughts of betraying their wives - then they're offered sex. I bet many of them gave in to temptation!

I’m assuming she was wearing the exact same outfit as Julia Roberts at the start of Pretty Woman.

I’ve stayed there. Does it have a reputation? I didn’t like the bathroom set up, one of those all glass things inside the bedroom.

I imagine they are big business!

I'm just curious to know which big chains do.

What on earth has it got to do with you what this woman was paying for or why she was there? You have no idea what her story is and if she is a sex worker why she has this vocation. Get over yourself.

I used to travel to a different location for work and would often check in early if I could, at the same time I would arrive in shorts/skirts because I wasn't working the particular day I arrived and liked what I was wearing. I probably looked like a prostitute then 🙄

I'm sorry, do you live in 1975? What an offensive post OP. Shame on you.

I reported a prostitute and John once I a small university run hotel Sheffield. I was there with four small young kids and it was the next room. I happened to come out my room when the prostitute arrived to meet the John. There was no doubt at all what was going on.

The hotel should check people in and out but judging from their reaction when I told them I don't think they twigged what was going on. I was very polite and didn't ask for anything but they still offered to move us to another much nicer room.

If people use prostitutes then they can at least be subtle about it.

It's nothing to do with being a prude. I have sex in hotel rooms happily but I don't want to hear prostitutes at work.

Not that it makes a difference but the prostitute looked about 20 and looked and sounded Thai. The guy was a typical disgusting dirty looking old guy. The reason I mentioned that she looked and sounded Thai is that they are one of the groups who are more likely to be coerced into working or not. I don't think a

woke uni such as Sheffield should be allowing it on their doorstep.

It was a few years ago. Hopefully they have tightened things up.