I have 4 dogs and husband hates them all

[Ndhu]

So, I'm a dog trainer and a mum.

I have 4 dogs.... before my husband married me he knew I was in love with animals.
6 years down the line and he hates everything about animals.

He hates the fact I have my dogs even though I walk them. Feed them. Keep them out of his way...
Pick the poo up...
Clean the house....
And deal with my children.

I adopted our 4th dog a while ago as she was feral and I put a lot of hard work into her...

I've offered him to get rid of our other dog who is 6 months old and isn't adjusting well to the house but he wants this one dog gone....

I'm torn, I really am as this dog means the world to me.....

Am I being unfair?

Have a look at your posts, @Ndhu. They are all about the dogs.

But your post is about your husband. You just don’t actually sound like you care about him at all.

But don’t you understand that it wasn’t fair to ask him in the first place? Because you put him in a situation where he was forced to agree to keep you happy. It’s manipulative.

You can’t save every single dog that comes into rescue and needs help. You were wrong to even consider taking on this new dog, especially as you say you also have another dog into the house who is struggling to settle.

You shouldn't have brought the last dog in. Your dh had decided to tolerate the dogs and you moved the goalposts.

How old are the dc and how do they manage any activities/socialising if the dogs are always with you?

As you've reformed your latest, why not find her forever home? That's the point of fostering isn't it?

And you've fostered the dog and done the work now so someone else could've adopted the dog. You're being deliberately disingenuous because you want the dog.

Then she is ready to be rehomed, which is surely the arrangement you have as you can't keep all the dogs you train?!

You have said nothing nice about your husband, but endlessly complemented the dogs. Clearly you love the dogs more than your husband, so maybe this marriage isn't what you want anymore and your husband is fed up as well.

That’s amazing.

It sounds like she’s more than ready to move on as per your original agreement - so why aren’t you finding her a home?

I'm torn, I really am as this dog means the world to me.....

Clearly it means more than your husband.

Am I being unfair?

Yes. And completely ignoring everyone who points that out.

Looks like we will never find out the answer to the foster/adoption question. So my best guess is that your husband agreed to foster, you decided to keep the dog indefinitely, your husband objected as this wasn’t the agreement and now you are being deliberately evasive because you want us to agree that your husband is the unreasonable one. I see you.

Yes, move the dog on if it's ready surely if the op is a trainer and works with rescue she can offer extended support to a new owner .

I would absolutely not live with my children in a house with a dog with uncertain background and behaviour. I would always be wary of a dog whose owner said it was "amazing with the children". We have a dog and have always had a dog. If I was your dp I would move out and take the children.

Both people in a marriage need to be clear about their non negotiables. Particularly older couples.

It takes two to make a marriage work; if he hates dogs how is it that you and he are only just discovering it - how bizarre, I can't understand it.

You’re avoiding the point everyone’s making OP. If you fostered this dog, and she is now a lovey dog, then it’s time for her to move on. If your husband agreed to her as a foster, but not as a permanent addition, then it’s you who is being unreasonable demanding she stay. At the very least you need to recognise this as a failed foster situation.

Obviously your DH needs to be realistic in understanding that you’re always going to have multiple dogs. But if you’re going to continue living together then you need to have honest discussions and mutual agreements about the next dog, that you stick to. It is his home too.

I also don't understand the other 6 month puppy situation what's going on with that where are you wanting that to go so you can keep the last dog?

OP, I think you are getting a really hard time on here. It sounds like your husband agreed to the dogs, but has now changed his mind.

Are you in the UK, as I'm guessing English isn't your first language?

FWIW, we also have 4 dogs. I accept that my house smells of dogs, although ours are all smaller dogs that don't particularly shed or smell like a Golden Retriever, for example. We initially wanted 2, but over time this has increased to 4 adorable rescues. I wish you could come and help train us and our dogs!

Would reducing to 3 help the situation, if you could rehome the other puppy that isn't settling as well? Or is it something specific about this other puppy that your husband object's to?

You are very unreasonable.

You keep saying "he knew" that implies that he had no say in it and that you simply told him you're adding another dog.

Your job is your job. Do you think someone who marries a bin man expects to be surrounded by rubbish? No. Leave your work at work and stop bringing more animals into a home where they are not wanted by everyone.

The op isn't getting a "hard time" posters aren't blindly agreeing with her and are trying to understand the situation.

I have six dogs, sometimes care for 9 and my husband loves them and they adore him.

I can't imagine how stressful it is for you as someone who is dedicated to dogs and how awful for him if he hates dogs to be in a house 'full' of them.

I would have to split up or if the relationship is great in every other way and you can afford it, buy a second property nearby for him to have his dog free residence but maintain a relationship wit you and your children.

It doesn’t sound like that at all. It sounds like he agreed to foster and now found out the OP refuses to give up the dog. He hasn’t changed his mind about fostering temporarily, he never agree to the dog remaining permanently.
I am in a similar situation. My partner gave our spare room to his work colleague for three months which I agreed to. They guy has been living with us for over two years now and, as far as I know, has no intentions to move out. I never agreed to this and yes, I have the right to resent it.

OP, I think you are getting a really hard time on here. It sounds like your husband agreed to the dogs, but has now changed his mind.

No, he agreed to foster not to keep the dog on a permanent basis. The dog has now been with them for several months and doing incredibly well - so it should now go to it's forever home but OP wants to keep it.

So you have fostered the dog, trained the dog and now the dog is a perfect pet.

Time to find it a forever home. It's not yours. You have completed the bit your DH agrees to.

Dogs are a massive commitment and totally change the dynamics of a family - ideally for the better but sometimes for the worse.

But 4?
That's a really niche level of doggery.
I love dogs but absolutely could not stand to live in a house with 4 dogs so I'm not surprised your husband hates them

I'm sorry but your house will definitely smell , it's just that you can't smell it.

You're a trainer and you use the terms get rid of a 6 month old puppy? This can't be real, the correct term is rehome, this is a living breathing animal.