I have 4 dogs and husband hates them all

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So, I'm a dog trainer and a mum.

I have 4 dogs.... before my husband married me he knew I was in love with animals.
6 years down the line and he hates everything about animals.

He hates the fact I have my dogs even though I walk them. Feed them. Keep them out of his way...
Pick the poo up...
Clean the house....
And deal with my children.

I adopted our 4th dog a while ago as she was feral and I put a lot of hard work into her...

I've offered him to get rid of our other dog who is 6 months old and isn't adjusting well to the house but he wants this one dog gone....

I'm torn, I really am as this dog means the world to me.....

Am I being unfair?

If you foster this dog and you say many many times they are great then isn’t it time to find a home for the dog. You are losing your marriage here over dogs. I think you need to step back and Decide what comes first your family or your bloody dogs. Sounds like he just agreed with you on the dog as he didn’t want the argument.

I think you're being unreasonable. You are a huge dog person; he clearly is not. You have clearly fairly recently taken in two more dogs since you've been with him, and this is obviously too many for him. I love dogs but would find more than 2 in a household way too much. They are gorgeous and wonderful but also expensive, need loads of looking after and cleaning up after. It sounds like you want to own as many dogs as you want with no thought to your husband's wishes, and now you're on here trying to get people to back up your sense of being in the right.

He knew who you were and what you did when he married you. He can’t change the goalposts now. It’s not like he’s just discovered you love dogs is it? I wouldn’t be getting rid of any dogs. You sound like an amazing person OP, working with rescues and turning dogs lives around. Your OH clearly doesn’t see you in the same light. He needs to think carefully about his future…..

So from Op's posts her husband does no house work, not much parenting of their children and complains about the dog.

Not sure what the husband is actually bringing to the equation.

So you are a dog behavioural trainer? are you out of the house a lot do you just work for the rescues do the dogs you have at home part of your job or are they permanent pets?

You keep evading the question about arrangements. Is it a foster dog (which, I assume is what he agreed to with the implication that the dog will eventually move on) or did you now move the goalposts and adopted the dog?

So you have a six month old dog that you are prepared 'to get rid of'?

If he knew, and you discussed and agreed and he was happy and willing to have the dog zoo in your home, something has changed clearly.

I mean, if you train rescue dogs, presumably you don't keep them? Maybe he is getting fed up with the merry go round of dogs? Or maybe he just doesn't like that dog?

Either way, you need to talk because as you keep saying over and over and over and over and over and over you're a dog trainer, this dog is lovely and you've trained it up to be a wonderful animal, therefore if this is the case something has changed.

My dogs they come to work with me.
I use my dogs to help other dogs.
The dogs are all well trained etc they have never caused a problem.
The house does not smell, I am constantly cleaning when I'm home so I'm on top of everything whilst being a mum and working.

No, it was a discussion. I work with a rescue and told him the situation and he was fine with it.

But you know he doesn't like dogs so why was it even a discussion? Stop bringing dogs home! Four is enough.

Your DH agreed to you fostering this dog not keeping it.
Keeping it needs to be a joint decision if you want to stay married.

I'm not bringing more dogs home?

It was a discussion because the 4th had issues and he agreed to it, so hence whilst she's now here.

Only dog owners think their house doesn't smell. Dogs smell, full stop. Doesn't matter how much you clean. You won't notice as you're around dogs all the time.

You’re missing the point again.

You know your husband isn’t keen on dogs and still decided you needed to bring a fourth dog into the house (hence the “discussion”). Why didn’t you just leave it and find another family to foster her? Why did it have to be you?

Ah so they are out of the house when you are fair enough, It sounds like he is just done with dogs and the last puppy was a pup too far. He sounds like he wants a quiet life to do what he wants his laziness sounds unacceptable to me.

It’s unusual for a dog lover to use the term “get rid” 🤔

also I would really struggle to live with that many dogs. He did however accept you as a dog lover and your job when he met you.

your house will smell with 4 dogs, regardless of how much you clean. You will be nose blind to it.

I'll agree to disagree....

You can walk around with white socks and leave with white socks.... I do a lot to make my house clean and healthy:)
Especially as I have children. When eating, the dogs go to their crates on their own.
When guests the dogs know to wait until their welcomed in. So, it's hard to explain on text... but yeah, I do a lot to keep them lol

Is the 4th puppy aggressive/jumpy/bitey?

As I work with the rescue.... I'm not just a normal foster.

She couldn't go with a normal person lol

She needed training 😩 and I told him how she was what she was and he said okay

You can't agree to disagree, its a fact. Dogs smell.

That doesn't mean your house is dirty, dogs have an odour. You won't notice, you're nose blind to it now.

But dogs smell....fact!

When you discussed taking the dog in, was it put to him that it would be a temporary foster? If so, then I dont think its unreasonable in him wanting to stick to this arrangement. In all honesty, were you hoping from day one that he would relent and want to keep her?

If it was only ever a temporary measure in having her, I'd adopt her out and not bring any more dogs into the household. That is if you want to keep the relationship with your husband...if you aren't happy with him, you could always end your relationship and have as many dogs as you want.

Nope.
She had resource guarding when she arrived.
She had dog reactivity.
She didn't know a home.

Now, she is currently sleeping on the floor whilst my children play with not a care in the world.
I bring her to work, if dogs fights she would rather chew grass and run around....so yeah, completely different dog.

Perfect example of the dog-lover delusion. Of course your house smells of dog. One dog makes a house smell. Four dogs?? C'mon. The fact you think it doesn't makes me doubt how reasonable you are across the board. Sounds like he might have another take on how these 'discussions' go and what was actually decided, but you do what you want because you're dog-mad and he knew it so he has to suck it up. It is of course his cross to bear as he married you and knew what you were like but still, it's hard to sympathise with you keep adding more dogs because, basically, you want to.

But 4 month old puppy is different to an 8 month puppy he's allowed to change his mind,

You keep stating you work for rescues.

Do you take dogs in, train them in the home, and then they go to a forever home? A bit like people that train guide dogs.

Or do you take dogs home from the rescue that no one would want and then keep them?