To want DH to stop sending me photos of things that displease him?

[Notasaruleno]

So - interests of fairness he is a decent man generally but he has this one habit that really puts my nose out of joint.

Say I have done something minor but I appreciate annoying he sends me a photo on WhatsApp, like a top left off a bottle or if the cat has killed a mouse (he hates cats) or similar. He just sends a photo, no accompanying message. I absolutely hate it, I think it’s really passive aggressive and I never know how or if to respond.

AIBU if I tell him to stop it?

Who the hell does he think he is?

I would tell him that he is not my line manager and to stop this unpleasant passive aggressive harassment.

If he did it again I would block him.

It is horrible, manipulative controlling behaviour.

I feel like some of the brightest stars of mn are on this thread and it should be one of those all star thingies😉

May I offer up this as a stock image to send in response?

Text him a pic of himself saying this annoys you

Ohhhhh yes!
Or this one is good...

The thought of these messages & photos are increasing my BP.
After explaining he’s driving you mad I think I would just tell him to F off every single time he sends the ‘You’ve been bad’ message.

Along with the above send this. Love it!

So many of these suggestions are great, so maybe just reply with a QR code that will bring him to this thread.

Ah I have some experience here as I've recently been teaching my two year old to speak.

You need to respond with "If you can't say what you mean in words then I can't respond".

Then the next non verbal responses get a "Pardon?"
"Oh?"
"What was that?"
"Sorry I don't follow."

Works on my two year old. He tried again in words. His speech is coming on beautifully.

Or just a good old Rick-roll!

Decent men are not passive aggressive.

Can you reply with a link to tips for amateur photographers, something along these lines: https://amateurphotographer.com/technique/camera_skills/how-to-take-your-best-ever-smartphone-photos/

😂😂 fair

Love that one too, and this one

This!!!!

Send this

Here you go.

I really like the fist emoji myself, thumbs up means the like it, a fist is a bit more 'yeah man' 'right on' 'with you bro/sis'

It's maybe more befitting.

I'd probably message a laughing face too so it's OMG you're so right, that made me lol!

He will get pissed and stop doing it.

But I do wonder if this a red flag....

Reply to each thing as something to be happy about.

Half a mouse - Aww, he's brought you a snack, he's so sweet! 💕/ He's such a clever boy, getting rid of the mice for you! What a star!🌟

Bottle cap left off - Oh, thank you for reminding me we need to get some more. As you're not at work, can you pick it up from Tesco's this afternoon?

Washing up in the sink - That was a lovely meal, wasn't it? Can you do something like a simple lasagne, salad, garlic bread and fruit salad tonight? You're such a good cook! 😍

Pile of cat puke on the carpet - 'Poor Fluffy - he needs some homemade chicken broth and a cuddle in the furry throw. It's really easy to make, you just need to go to Tesco's and pick up a tray of chicken thighs, then poach them, strip the meat off, then simmer the bones in water for three hours, then add the bits of chicken back in once you've shredded them by hand, it won't take long/ I'm looking forward to my kitty cuddles tonight after you've done his soup 🐱 '.

Use as many emojis as is necessary to irritate him beyond the point of sanity. Relentlessly, chirpily positive and happy. He'll really hate that.

And then relentlessly, chirpily make yourself an appointment with a solicitor to get the miserable fucker out of you and your lovely cat's lives.

Cats are supposed to kill mice, and to keep the rodent population under control. That's the point of them. So he makes no sense. He sounds like a passive-aggressive narcissistic control freak. Re the cat, I'd post a thumbs up and say 'he's earning his(her) keep', and the lid one, I'd say I'd reply 'get a fucking life you old woman and put the lid back on yourself, or is that too much effort for your whiny little self'.

There have got to be some Gifs out there you can send in response? Play him at his own game.

If it makes you feel less alone, mine does this with my kids, drives me insane! Get a life!!!

@NeverDropYourMooncup Love it 😁

I just can’t believe he’s ‘a decent man generally’ if this is how he ‘communicates’.

What a wanker.

I like this

If you leave tops off bottles you deserve everything coming your way!! What’s next - leaving toothpaste all over the bathroom sink? Teabags in the kitchen sink? Not changing the toilet roll???