To want DH to stop sending me photos of things that displease him?

[Notasaruleno]

So - interests of fairness he is a decent man generally but he has this one habit that really puts my nose out of joint.

Say I have done something minor but I appreciate annoying he sends me a photo on WhatsApp, like a top left off a bottle or if the cat has killed a mouse (he hates cats) or similar. He just sends a photo, no accompanying message. I absolutely hate it, I think it’s really passive aggressive and I never know how or if to respond.

AIBU if I tell him to stop it?

I hate when people send screenshots (and some photos) when a few words would have done. My whatsapp folder auto backs up to google photos (which for the most part is useful) and then if I don't keep deleting the photo and then the backup, I end up with loads of useless crap

Loving these responses!

I think you should just tell him though, and say it'd be clearer if he tells you what he's getting at.

If he is saying "would you mind picking up more x on your way home, we left the lid off" then he should use his words.

He might not realise how annoying it is. Very odd behaviour, though. Does he send you pics of good things, too? Or just negative?

This is like the husband on another thread where he messages to tell her all the things she's done wrong.

Why are women putting up with this shit?

I mean the hating cat thing I couldn't put up with anyway but I personally wouldn't put up with this other crap.
They are narcissistic traits (not saying he is one) but trying to "guilt" you about things you're not responsible for and even if you are "responsible" for them it's really passive aggressive.
I'd be tempted to send him a photo of a different cat up for adoption every time he does that 😺.
Or places to rent.

That really made me laugh, do this @Notasaruleno

Thumb?

Middle finger l think

Don't you reply by sending him photos of things he does that annoy you?

🐔send him this emoji every time

Just send him this 🍆

I think it's worth having a proper calm conversation about it. Ask him what he's trying to communicate by just sending the pictures and if he would like to receive similar himself. Give him a bit of time to think about it.

If he agrees to change then it's just stupidity. An overly defensive response should result in LTB.

I’d reply “did you send me a photo as it won’t download?” and force him use his words every single time. But I also like the 👍 emoji as a response too.

Oh definitely a picture of his face! I'm sure you've got one where he looks grumpy, because he sounds like he always is, then keep sending that back.

Find the most random shit photo on fb and send it back

If my DH tried this sort of nonsense, he'd get a photo back of my pale, flabby arse every time, possibly with a googly eye stuck on each cheek.

Don't tolerate it, OP.

I’ve got a photo of dog shit you can send him in response!

That would annoy the fuck out of me. He sends you a photo of a top left off a bottle with no accompanying message? Arrogant twat.
I'd ignore them entirely. Fuck off.

This post has made my day 😂😂😂😂

This actually.

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Tell him you're worried about him and want him to see a doctor, because no normal person would behave like that and you think he needs to see a specialist.

If you're prepared to put in a bit of work, take the tops off every bottle in the house and leave them lined up on his pillow, or inside his shoes, then go to work.

What a twat.

My 20 year old dd and I have a strip of paper with these eyes 👀 and an arrow on and we leave it pointing at something the other one has left somewhere they shouldn't. But we laugh and snatch the paper away saying 'just you wait' or something vengeful.

He's being a dick to you. I think I would reply with a photo of something random it push him into a conversation. I'd choose random characters from films as it's extra annoying.

This is definitely what you should do. May aswell get some humour out of the situation

He hates cats?

Divorce him. It's the only way.

reply with a picture of a cat every time.