To want DH to stop sending me photos of things that displease him?

[Notasaruleno]

So - interests of fairness he is a decent man generally but he has this one habit that really puts my nose out of joint.

Say I have done something minor but I appreciate annoying he sends me a photo on WhatsApp, like a top left off a bottle or if the cat has killed a mouse (he hates cats) or similar. He just sends a photo, no accompanying message. I absolutely hate it, I think it’s really passive aggressive and I never know how or if to respond.

AIBU if I tell him to stop it?

My DP used to do this, I either sent back a thumbs up or laughing emoji, or I did the thing where you see the preview but then swipe it away so it shows up as unread. Very funny, it would either simply never ever get mentioned again or he would have to bring it up in person and look like a tool.

Less effective but I also used to sometimes sent a "?" In response so he would have to explain. I stopped doing it because I stopped caring about the explanation.

I now wish I'd sent him a picture of his own face instead! Much funnier response.

Send back a screenshot of his message to you, if 'look what's displeasing me today' is the game.

Have them.made into a photo book and ask for a divorce on the last page!

fantastic solutions on here, please report back OP!

Send him a random photo back each time e.g a waste paper bin or a pic of your coffee cup . Pretend you think it’s a game .

You can switch off auto backup for whatsapp photos either all together or chat by chat.

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I'd send the same photo back or a version of it.

@@Notasaruleno 🥱💩🤓👽

😂 I love you

Is this the cup stacking bloke? Send him a picture back of some random object, slightly out of focus.

I feel terrible now. I do this ALL the time. My DH leaves marmite on the kitchen counter every single morning and I end up scrubbing it off. So now I just photograph it and text.

If you want to go retro, there’s some great Brookside patio gifs online.

Last page definitely needs to be a pic of the cat chewing his toothbrush.

Say I have done something minor but I appreciate annoying he sends me a photo on WhatsApp,

I think he's a twat for doing that-but how often are you doing stuff that you agree is annoying?

Why don't you leave it for him to clean?

I would definitely just send back a photo of something random - whatever you're looking at at the time. It's a game, right?

Also a big fan of this gif, which I use frequently. I feel it conveys so much.

I'd have to pass-agg back, with a message going on for pages (cut and paste) saying something like 'waaaaaaahhhh!!! I am so bad! So evil! I am chastising myself right now for my inconsiderate ways! I may flagelate later (undecided), but will definitely punish myself...' and go on and on and on and on.

Or just shove the picture under his nose when you get home and hiss 'ever do this again, you prick, and you are OUT, and the cat agrees with me.'

block him

@diddl because he won't notice it - and doesn't ever clean it up. And in the warmer months, we get ants in the house with that kind of sticky mess. Maybe you could talk to him? 😍

I agree with others I wouldn’t put up with this passive aggressive shit!! Tell him to stop/ fuck off (delete as appropriate) and I love the idea of sending pictures of random nonsense back if he does it again!

Can you treat it like he's starting out in his new hobby of photography and just snapping everything, however mundane, for practice?

Totally ignore the item itself and critique the lighting, angle, backdrop, shadows, sharpness of focus etc.?

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I'd reply with this, every single time.

In the examples you gave (cap off the milk bottle, dead mouse in house) - assuming the person lived with me I'd probably reply with "thanks for taking care of that!"